Alright, I'm new and this is my first post. I am in desperate need of help. My husband and I are 23 and 24... We dated for a little over a month before we got married. Shortly after that the baby came. We have been married for almost two years now. When we were dating we were horny little devils. Ten days after we got married he was deployed for six months. That is when I found out that I was pregnant. We were planning it... Well when he came home I was as big as a house. When he left, mind you I was 5'7 120 lbs and a hot ass bartender... Now I was the soon to be mother of his child. He didn't have a problem having sex with me when I was pregnant. I have always called him "The Missionary Man", he has never been really adventurous in the sac... Well, now he wants close to nothing to do with having sex with me. I haven't changed physically much other than the fact that our daughter gave me the worst stretch marks known to man... I'm just wondering if he is having a problem differing between me as a women and me as a mom... Or if he isn't attracted to me sexually in general. Trying to have sex with him is like pulling teeth. When we do have it, it is good as hell! I cant get enough... I'm just a young (yet more experienced than my husband) mother and new wife confused as hell and feeling down in the dumps... Any words of wisdom?
What the fuck is up your ass? Do you reply with that to all the new threads or are you just being a dick to me? Cocksucker. Do you get off on being an asshole? You can fuck off...
hmm this sounds like serious problem. Have you asked it straight from yer husband what he thinks of it and what are his answers to yer question? so we could understand and see the way he is thinking as well, would be nice to know and help you more..
He says it has nothing to do with me... He tells me that he just isnt a very sexual person. He is the younger of the two of us. I need it all the time... When he doest want it, it is uasually because I rubbed up against him or something. He never makes the first move
Things are diferent now, Before it was just the two of you. shareing love, sharing life, in equal messure. Now he has to share, and he knows he comes in second, thats a tough thing to deal with. Do you still let him know how much you love him, how important he is? Give him a day once in awhile, hide everything that says baby, do something just for him, make him feel like the center of your world again. You might be surprised to find out he misses you as much as you miss him
OMG.. You have no idea how hard I try. The baby comes first in his eyes. I love this man so much. I'm at my wits end. I understand everything youre saying and it makes perfect sense... I just dont know what to do. He is in the military and he is home for two months then gone for the next two. When he is home his world revolves around our daughter. We dont get a day to ourselves to do anything just for us...
make him romantic night then.. like say you wanna make himn nice and warm massage and then whisper him all the time like I LOVE YOU and then start talking dirty.. heheh make something else.. like dunno exactly what to be honest, couse havent been in the same situation as you are in right now.. so I guess steffan knows better.. this being away for a while and coming back then make s it worse of course.. use babysitter and rent a hotel or camping for a week or so and try to restudy yerself ?
you have to take the intiative on this, pout (you remeber how to do that right . plan a weekend ,get a siter, do it on your own. tell him you want him all to yourself for awhile, how can he be anything but flatered? overall, no excuses chick. if you want it to happen you have to make it happen.
I think I will have to do the hotel thing. Let him get settled is at home for a week or so and tell him, not ask him that we are going somewhere with out the baby....
I'm so sorry about your situation. I wish I could offer more insight. The only thing I can think to say is this: I have gone through periods of time where I (for some unknown reason) have no intrest in sex what-so-ever. Thats wierd for me too, cuz I'm usually thinking about, or having sex 24-7. Some times it lasts a month or so. I do try to make sure that my wife dosn't go without during those times. I just sorta go through the motions though, which isn't the best, but I seems to be all I can do at the time. anyway, that probably dosn't help, but its all I got....
Hehehehe if I would be you, I would go to the woods and do the natural stuff everywhere.. like popp in the woods, on the grass in tent.. in the water.. AWESOME! yer pal will remember it forever.. and don't forget to take tha massage thingy with you (oils and sexy hands)
i'm really sorry all i can say i put on something sexy mybe do another position maybe he thinks the sex is boring just talkwith him and see what he wants
You said he was deployed? Could his lack of intimacy be a result of some experience he had when he was in the field? I believe the armed forces have counseling for couples who have been separated by war, etc - like how to cope with a recently returned service member. Just a thought.
yep, deployment and returning to a totally different life takes time to get used to. men also react hormonally to the birth and care of a child. someties they will lose their sex drive in order to prevent the making of another child before they're ready. happened to me and dave, and we got over it.
