get a girl to notice you...

DirtyVibe · Sep 15, 2005

get her to talk about what she likes, her feelings. say something like, "hey, what sports do you play? do you like sport X? Why?" just like a convseration with a guy only more about opinions on things, what shes doing this weekend ; not politics, war though. just be interesting and crack a joke every now and then because girls love funny guys.

dont talk about yourself except for what she asks you though. like if she asks you "what sports do you like?" just say tennis, or whatever. dont trail off into a 5 min lecture about yourself. girls like mysterious guys. also, talking lots about yourself makes you seem insecure since you're trying to get her approval. make it seem like shes trying to get yours.

as a wise player once said:

"The more she talks about herself, the more she thinks she knows about you." =)

Kinky Ramona · Sep 15, 2005

I think you are making up way too many excuses to not talk to her. If you really want to talk to her, just do it. Forget that it might be awkward, just do it. Just say hi and be yourself. You never know, she may be in the exactly same boat as you and is just waiting for you to come up and say hello. You will never get anywhere sitting around, making up excuses to not attempt to start a conversation. And if you do have a mutual friend, maybe you could suggest to that friend that you guys get together with some other friends and invite her and go bowling or something, where you would have the perfect opportunity to start a conversation. Basically, my point is, stop making excuses, get out there, and do something about it. Nothing will ever happen if you don't make some attempt to make it happen. The next time you see her, say hi, ask her how she is. Spilling your guts out about how you think she's beautiful may be coming on too strongly, but if you show that you've noticed her, then she will notice you. It may be awkward, but welcome to the world of being a teenager. Get used to it, you have many years of awkwardness to follow. Just bite the bullet and say hello. I know it's going to be hard (I went through plenty of the same situations throughout high school), but you can do it. You have the desire, so now all you have to do is find the strength to talk to her. Best of luck!

stocktires · Sep 28, 2005

Actually, don't worry so much about the content of what you say, just make sure your confident and layed back.

PrettyUgly · Sep 28, 2005

Here's an article. Just read.

Engaging a Woman:

Ever get a woman's number, and when she gave it to you it seemed like she was really into you and that everything would go according to plan, but when you call her she makes up an excuse why she does not want to come out on a date? This is because of the fact that being out of sight is out of mind. For instance, when a good salesman is trying to sell you something, he will do almost anything to make the sale before you leave, because if you walk out the door he knows that he will never see you again. This works the same way, you must always get her number AND set up a date when you first meet her, in other words... you must "close the sale". So from now on, replace the phrase "Can I get your number?" with "I'd like to take you out sometime, how about Saturday night?" and when she says ok, say "Cool, is there a number I can reach you at?". Trust me, it works like a rubber glock... anywhere, anytime, and every time

While kicking game to woman, constantly repeat her name, it's like music to their ears. For example "So where are you from, Heather?" instead of "Where are you from?".

Never appear to be intimidated by a woman, even if you are. Beautiful women are used to men being intimidated by them and ONLY find the men who aren't to be attractive.

· Never talk negatively about your life or your job. Though our motives may be different, women are ultimately searching for a companion, and why would she want to share her life with someone that is not satisfied with their own. Never talk negatively about an ex girlfriend either, which is a very common mistake.

· When asked what you plan to do with your life, or what you are currently doing to improve yourself, always show great ambition. Women are extremely attracted to ambitious men, because when you explain your high goals and plans for yourself, she will be thinking "Maybe this guy will be rich someday".

· Ever wonder why you never leave a club with a woman you've just met? Women at clubs tend to be 100% more attracted to the men on the dance floor, even if they don't dance well or are less attractive than the men sitting/standing around. Learn to dance!

· Never look at the ground or at your shoes while talking to a woman. This is a sign of insecurity (which women are turned off by) and they will pick up on this, even if only subconsciously.

· Knowledge is power. Always listen to and observe everything, including others conversations. If you observe a woman before you approach, you may notice something she is doing, wearing, or talking about which in-a-way "tells you" what to say when you try to spark up a conversation with her.

· This is a no-brainer: Never call the next day. You will appear to be desperate with nothing better to do. You want to project that you are "in demand" and that you are busy (which will make you seem exciting, fun, and mysterious).

· Never try to impress her by telling her about what you have or have done, you will come off as bragging, and women hate that. Actions speak much louder than words.

· Never bring up your ex-girlfriend(s) unless they ask you. It is usually a bad topic of conversation (especially for a woman you've just met) and you should try to avoid it as much as possible. If however, you are stuck and must speak about your ex, say something nice about her/them and quickly change the subject.

· Make as many women friends as possible, especially unattractive ones. They always have hot friends and if you don't already know, a woman's opinion of you will be greatly effected by what their friends say. Make friends with her and friends and you'll be in there like swimwear

· SMILE. Remember to smile constantly, while you're talking, while you're observing, while you’re doing just about anything. I cannot stress this rule enough, smiling is the most powerful weapon in any player's arsenal. It let's the women know that you're probably a fun guy to be around and someone they would like to know or be involved with.

· When rejected, just smile and don't let it bother you. Who cares what she thinks, you probably won't see her again anyway. Besides, it's her loss, she just missed out on a good time for free with a great guy. Go out looking to get rejected, because once you become comfortable with girls saying no, your fear of rejection will be gone. Remember that the player who gets rejected the most is the player who leaves with the most numbers!

· Never say "How about giving me your number?". Always use something like "I'd like to talk to you again, is there a number I can reach you at?". This always produces much better results because she must avoid saying "no" or she will sound stupid because that will mean there is not a number she can be reached at. It also makes you more original than every other idiot that asks for her number.

· Be aware of her mood before approaching. If she is in a bad mood your chances of success are drastically less than if she was in a good mood. Do not try to cheer her up either, you may be able to make her feel slightly better if you are funny, but she will relate you to the bad feelings subconsciously, which is not a good thing in the long run.

· Always compliment women and they will always feel good about you, but don't overdo it or they will think your just trying to score points (which you are, but you don't want them to know that). Try to sound sincere and give her a unique compliment that most people will overlook.

· Never try to become a "friend" when you first meet a girl. You must show her that you are attracted to her and would like to pursue a romantic relationship right away, because once your dropped into the "friends" category, it's next to impossible to get out.

· While at a club, never attempt to approach women as you would in any other setting. Simply begin to dance and they will come to you, introductions and all that can be done later. This has proved to be the most effective tactic to use when trying to meet women in nightclubs, but in order to utilize it you must first learn to dance! The good news is, you don't have to dance well to attract women, it's not how you dance that attracts them, and it’s the confidence you display when you get out on the dance floor.

· Never talk about how cool, mean, bad, tough, or strong you are. If she thinks that you are full of yourself, you will go home and fool with yourself, catch my drift?

· Never talk too much or bring up subjects that will be boring to her, let her initiate the topics of discussion and do most of the talking while you simply relate yourself to her statements by saying things like "me too". This will make the two of you seem to have a lot in common and her opinion of you will shoot through the roof.

· Quit worrying about what to say next and focus your attention on listening. She will give you leads as to what she would like to talk about, in essence, telling you want to say next.

· Be careful about what you say about yourself. Never say "I suck at..." or "I can't do that". Always speak positively about yourself. Your supposed to be acting confident remember?

· When going to a club or bar in search of women, bring a female friend instead of going with your boys. This will give everyone the idea that you are already taken, and men that are already taken are almost twice as appealing to women than single men. By the time you talk to a girl and she realizes that your actually not taken, the damage is already done, and her heightened opinion of you will remain.

· Tell her a joke, because jokes stick in your head. Each time she thinks about the joke she will think about you, and the more she thinks about you the better your chances are.

· When deciding whether or not to approach a particular woman, just assume that she is interested in you and act the same way you would with a woman that you know for a fact is interested in you. This will give you confidence and the woman will pick up on this, in turn making her more attracted to you.

· Never approach a woman the minute she arrives at the bar, club, or party. If you do, you are doomed for failure. Instead, give her time to get used to the new surroundings while you observe her and wait for the right time to make your approach.

· If you get rejected, take a break for a few minutes before approaching another woman, because most women will be insulted if they think that they are your second choice. The scene at a club or bar is constantly changing, so you only need to wait for a short period of time before approaching another woman.

· When asked "What are you doing?" never reply with "Nothing", always appear to be busy even if you are not. This will make you seem to be much more interesting.

· Never stay on the phone for a long period of time (unless a serious relationship has already been established) or you will appear to be a boring person because you have nothing better to do.

· Never act submissive because you want to be the "Nice Guy". In the real world (outside of Hollywood) nice guys don't get the girls, so stand up for yourself and don't get used.

· Never, and I mean never, say "I love you" first. If you say these 3 words too early you can easily change a great relationship into an uncomfortable one (for the both of you), and possibly destroy it.

· Always keep things happening in your existing relationship. Try new things (not only sexually) and never become lazy by just sitting around watching TV every night. If your girl becomes bored with the relationship she will leave or cheat on you. Remember "It's easier to steal someone else's girl than it is to keep your own!"

· Never act serious at the beginning of a new relationship. You may begin to develop strong feelings early on, but you don't want to scare your dream girl away by coming on too strong. Just try to relax and have fun while allowing your relationship to blossom at a steady (but slow) pace.

· When going on a first date, never go to a club or movie because you want to spend this time talking to her and using the player skills you've learned, which can be limited once you go to these places. Take her somewhere fun (during the daytime, such as an amusement park, miniature golf, the beach, etc.). This will lighten the tension and make both of you more comfortable.

· Never attempt to have sex with her unless you know (for sure) that it's yours for the taking. If you try and fail, chances are she will be extremely uncomfortable around you the next time you get together, and probably never return your calls or avoid you completely.

· Always change the amounts of attention you give her. For instance: Give her your undivided attention for an extended period of time one day, and appear to be too busy to even talk to her the next. This will drive her crazy, and you will be on her mind the entire day. She will be wondering if she said or did something wrong, and she will become much more interested in you because she won't be able to think about anything else.

· Never bring a woman to a really expensive restaurant for any of the first few dates. You may think that you are impressing her, but all you are really doing is adding to the tension.

· Never... ever... borrow money from a woman. Even if she is a long-term girlfriend and you need it badly. Women want a man that can support them in any situation.

· Never become obsessed with a particular woman you've just met, no matter how hot she is or how much she seems to like you. If you think about her too much, you will begin building up tention in your mind which can effect how you act the next time you see her, and that is when you want to be on top of your game, not looking like an idiot with nothing to say.

You've got nothing to lose
The guy who gets rejected the most is the guy who will leave with the most numbers! Quit being scared or rejection and just get out there and do it. The trick is to not think about it, if you start thinking "Should I talk to her or not?" then you will talk yourself out of it. Think about it this way, if you talk to her you might have a 50% chance of being rejected and a 50% chance of success, but if you don't talk to her you have a 0% chance of success. If you don't initiate the conversation it will most likely never take place!

Here is a good opener you can use: Find a woman that you are interested in and when you approach her say "I bet you have a beautiful smile", then smile and wait for her reaction. 99% of the time she will smile back, and when she does say "I knew it" and proceed to start a conversation with her. If she does not offer a reciprocal smile, simply say "I guess not" and walk away.

While you are talking to a group of girls, always remember to flirt with ALL of them, even the ones that you don't find attractive. This will put them into "competitive mode", in which all of the women will begin to try to win your affection because of your display of interest in each of them. Once this is accomplished you will be able to have your pick out of any of them, because the woman you choose will feel like she is the "winner".

Watch how the guys that are getting all of the girls act, move, talk, walk, dress, and how they carry themselves. Try to copy all of the above, and add your own style into the mix!

When you want to give a gift to a girl, try this little trick: Tape a note to the glovebox in your car that says "Open me" and put the gift inside (works well with a single rose). Don't say anything about it once you pick her up and you are riding along in the car, let her find it for herself. Remember to buy some rubbers while you are getting the rose, your gonna need them.

After you go on a date with a woman you are very interested in, and if you feel that everything on your date went very well, send flowers to her workplace. Women love to show off when a guy they are dating does something romantic for them, and their work is the absolute best place for them to show off. Most women are either good friends or highly competitive with their female co-workers, which is a win-win situation for them when they receive a gift while at work. Chances are she will give you a call the moment she gets the flowers, try it.

Tease those girls, they like it! Remember back in 2nd grade when girls had "cooties" and you'd tease them, fight with them, and pick on them? Sure you do! It's time to go back to 2nd grade people, because women still respond positively to this. Teasing them lets them know that you are playful and could care less what they (or anyone) think about you.
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mynameiskc · Sep 29, 2005

wow. that's a great article! i tend to intimidate people, too, and the only people i keep around me are the ones who aren't cowed by me.

AlteredOrgan · Oct 2, 2005

that acticle is a bunch of bullshit. it tells you how to act...instead of being yourself. the key to "getting" women ..boys.. is to stop being scared of them as if they are aliens or some weird shit. I mean its one thing to be somewhat nervous your first time approaching someone you find attractive (i guess), but its another to sit in your room all day looking up "rules" on the internet for dating. Man up, talk to the one that gives you butterflies, whoever it be

strange · Oct 3, 2005

best pick up line ever ....
"hey how much does a polar bear weigh?....enough to break the ice, hi my name is (entername here)

awww yeah

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