What is it with...

cliques...? Why do people have to be so cliquey (sp?)

 

Explain!

 

ya got me. i always seem to be on the outside looking in. all i can figure is it sort of a surrogate family.

 

yep. people are naturally inclined to cling to others of their ilk. i've never had a clique, but i can't resent people for being people. safety in numbers.

 

lets start a clique of ostrasized outsiders .....we wont let anyone who excluded any of us ever join in our raindeer games .

 

I prefer to claque!

 

Only DEAD fish swim with the Stream.
We are meant to stand out-NOT fit in!

 

insecurity

 

Isn't it strange how people can be so, um, locked though... even online as irl... Yea I like to be seperate from the sheep, but sometimes, there are folk you think might be cool, and a hi would be nice, but noooooo! Even the 'outside' have cliques away from the even-more outside...(?)

 

think i'll just stand here fogging up the window with my breath looking and watching all the "cool" people in their clique. then invent something or write a book about being "weird" and they'll all buy it and i'll become rich and they'll all wanna be my friend.. but NO.. i will not let them.

 

it took me a long time to get in good with the in clique so i think they good but i don't think we should use people as steppingstones even though i do that too once in a while

 

how can i be more like you?

 

It's inevitable and inescapable, try as hard as you want, you will be conforming to some "clique".

 

mmm...when i go to the local java hut on occasion, i find you can strike up a conversation with a complete stranger, and hang out with them for the rest of the night.

 

I never really fit into one specific clique. I'm one of those people who just try to get along and give everyone a chance.

 

Alex is totally right: cliques are ALL about insecurity, there's not much more to it, and maybe a few exeptions

 

So you're part of that give everyone a chance clique eh?

 

explain how cliques are a result of insecurity?

 

eh, I dunno if it counts as a clique or not, but in high school I had a big group of friends but it was pretty hard for new people to integrate themselves, particularly after our first year of hanging out together. It wasn't intentionally cliquey or anything, we were just the weirdos and nerds that got along best with one another

 

Uh-oh, guilty as charged!