Hypothetical situation here to get everyone's juices flowing. A married female is being physically and mentally abused by her husband. She is obviously not happy as she is now talking to you. Before or after she is divorced, do you cross the line or not? Simmer on that for me. CachedOut
I would Tread with tons of caution,be sure that the situation that was explained to me is actually what is happening,and if it is I would help this person get out of any dangerous situation before I thought about advancing in department of my own lust and needs. Hmmm Im still simmering I guess
i would offer help and do all i could to get her away ..........but before you cross the line be sure its what she really wants as it might just be comfort shes after and you could screw her up more
You are definitely bordering the lines of dangerous territory there man.. I'd wait till after she was divorced for sure.
someone once said (wish I could attribute!)..."never eat at a restaurant called, 'Mom's,' play cards with a man called, 'Doc,' or have an affair with someone with more problems than you."
i'd be concerned that the abused wife would feel like i was violating her, too, if i made a move before she was divorced. even though she isn't happy in her marriage, i wouldn't want to mess things up by making her feel like i just took advantage of her vulnerability. i'd be even MORE concerned that her husband would find out about the affair and beat her to a pulp. i assume she and her husband are still living together? it's not that difficult to discover that your spouse is having an affair, especially considering that abusive people tend to be controlling, too.
Run LIKE HELL! I was in a real life situation like this and it went on for three years. In the end he found out-sent two guys to my home to kill me and in the end I was carrying a gun. After all of that-she never left her so called abusive husband. Actually I was the best thing that happened to their marriage. People should not start relationships TILL they END the one they are in!
