Fontella, dont even think of listening to someone who picked the clownyface avatar. Listen I'm pretty bad at advice... But I don't think happiness is something you can go out and find, you can only be happy if you wanna be. It's not that simple, but if you think theres some kinda void in your life, try to find out where you wanna be and go there. Don't try to fill your emptyness with someone else or anything, but you can always go and meet new people. And if you think you just keep meeting the same jerks again and again, thats kinda part of the scene, but I'm sure you'll meet someone special. If that doesn't work, drink a lot, and keep in mind Lodui loves you and knows you can pull through.
megaaaaan! that was really mean. i hope you're joking. fontella, there are loads and loads of bands littered with themes of depression. i'm surprised you can't find one. when i'm particularily depressed or angry, i throw on some KoRn. the thing i love to do most, when i'm in that state, is get angry and yell and thrash around. KoRn is a great band to help you release some shit. or at least let you know that other people feel the same kind of pain.
Sorry you're depressed and alone. I myself am a little depressed and alone, so I know how you feel. I guess a little more alone than depressed. I know the source, kinda, of my depression: I have let my house get really cluttered and disorganized, and I need to really dig in and clean it up, and I haven't been able to discipline myself enough to start doing it and get it done. So I suggest that you go clean something. It can make you feel really really good, like you accomplished something that you can now sit or stand in the middle of and enjoy. I love sitting in a room I just cleaned. I think you should also find something that you love to do, and can immerse yourself in. Exercise is one. You could go out rollerblading. Do some aerobics or pilates. A few things I lose myself in are flying, skydiving, disc golf, and macrame (hemp bracelets and necklaces and stuff). Even when I'm not doing those things, if I am feeling stressed, I can just spend time imagining doing them. One of my "happy places" (Yes, I actually use that technique) is imagining that I am back up in the Northeast, sitting on a ski lift at night with my snowboard bound to my foot. I look back off the chair and see down the mountain to the small, twinkling lights of the town below and the starry clear sky above. It erases stress for me. Try to think of a place like that for you -- it seems stronger when selected from memories of where you've actually been at some happy time in your life. Hope you feel better. Blue skies, -
hi, i have been clinically depressed for a number of years now, (i am going to see my psychiatrist this afternoon) and i have many other problems as a result of this, e.g. body dismorphic disorder, personality disorders. what i would say to you is sometimes you will feel that it will never get any better sometimes you won't want it to, but i think it is important to nip it the bud before it gets any worse. if you deny it for too long like i did it will only get worse. peaceful jeffery has some good advice. i live in the lake district in cumbria england and there is a particular tree by a particular river that i love to lie in. here i can collect my thoughts and redirect my anti-rational and irrational sides. i learned about my condition and began to understand it better. this probably hasn't helped at all. but you will have some better days, on these days take action and gain some perspective. one thing i will say that nobody has said to me - you are not alone. you can talk to me whenever you want. peace and love, zenry
Please seek some help. Talk to someone near you about it. But please whatever you do dont do anything stupid. OK?
Sometimes there is no song that will capture such feelings and even finding the right one won't always make it right. Maybe you need someone to talk to... just to feel a little cared about. I've been "nosing" around these boards for a while now and have been meaning to join up... this thread finally made me do it. I've read some of your thoughts before in other threads and ya know what? I kinda like you. Surprise! And can't really make the above statement without making the offer too... if you want somebody to talk to PM me or look me up on chat. That's my suggestion. I'm nothing but sincere and am a great listener. Would you be able to tell someone else how you feel? Would you even want to? Sometimes just knowing that someone understands will help where nothing else will. Hope you feel better soon. Depression can be a consuming emotion I know. ~7
hmph i was 'depressed.' and i hated it EVERY TIME someone said to me "you need to change your state of mind." the thing is, in retrospect, it helps so much. i don't mean to sound like a 'new-age-whatever-you-wanna-call-it' but honestly, positive energy goes so far. why are you depressed? do you know what's behind it? wait. i guess based on your post it sounds like you're just asking for some good music to suit the feeling. there's the obligatory NIN, and then i always really liked listening to REM (that one black and white album) when i'm just kind of down. i give up.
