Ok ive just been doing alot of 'personal reflection' types things. You know always thinking away in my head about why I do certain things. And my problem is I feel like I judge people on things like looks, personality and then compare them to each other and myself. Then I place everyone I know in an order system. I then dont feel comfortable and become scared to talk to people I feel are better than me and higher up on the order system than myself. But then I will turn around and boss and be rude to people who I feel are below me without a second thought. I dont know how to act around another person without doing this. PLEASE give me advice on how to treat people as just people. Also anyone with a similar thing going one or have gone through that would be cool to share. Or anything any comments at all are welcomed. p.s. i smoke weed
its very simple, treat and view everyone as equals, because everyone is in fact equal. Also open your mind to all the various cultures and lifestyles. and the number one thing: RESPECT. have respect for everyone. peace
One thing that might help is to look at people from a more natural perspective, apart from societal influences. Thikn about how every human feels pain and fear, failure of some sort, gets sick, and the best one: we all take shits. A lot of it will fall into place in the next few years I would think also. As you live more and experience things that put you on the same level as people you might be inclined to look down on now, you will be humbled. And like mellow said, learning to appreciate other cultures and lifestyles really gives you a sense of perspective and tolerance. Just the fact that you are thinking about it good man. You're on your own personal path to peace and enlightenment.
hmm respect? ehh thats just crazy enough to work! hah thanks alot though for all the replies and I actually think I do lack respect for others so thanks for that. [EDIT] I once remember reading a question on here that was something like 'why do you come to the hipforums' my answer then was just out of boredom but now i come because its cheaper than therapy. hehehaha thanks again bye
judge people by what's in their heart and judge their souls not their faces. looks are just genetical makeup. the soul is the true person.
Im pretty much the same way, except i dont know about disrespecting people "below" me. For me, if im around people i see as my equals, i can talk to them, be silly around them; be myself. People who i see as being "above" me, i wait for them to talk to me, i respond with short answers, im generally nervous. I dont know how to be myself, so i dont think i can help I care too much of what people think about me.
Man everyone is not equal, i'm sorry its true. Some people are smarter then others, some faster, some stronger, some sexier. Now I do believe everyone should be treated as equals but thats another story.
what steve is triyng ot say i think is that people should have equal human rights but they dont have equal abilities, competencies, or rights that are seperate from 'human rights', ones that the individual develops such as the right to earn your respect, etc. thats what i believe myself. but anyway, hoppin, hipforums doesnt have a psychology forum, but if you want to look at other people's similar problems and solutions to your own, check out a forum i participate in, www.uncommonforum.com . its all about people, like you, who want to practice self-help, for a very large variety of issues.
^I think he said that to be on topic, so to speak. This is basically what I'd say. I mean, ok, so this dude is better with the ladies than you, or maybe this other guy has only one other friend and has a limp. So what? I mean, look beyond all that. Consider this. In everyone else's mind, they're fighting for the same thing: peace and happiness. Everyone wants to belong, be loved, and be happy. In this world many of us have a hard time finding our way, and we get lost, confused...and end up being jerks to everyone else. The thing is to realize that we all do this. Everyone of us is a great, peaceful, loving, happy person inside, but we're lost. We fight a war in our heads every day. Many are just as self conscious as you (especially at your age). It's actually a normal part of being a teenager, but it's important to grow through it. So, consider, next time you start being a jerk to someone "lower" than you. Your judgement depends on what standard you use to judge. If you go by popularity, thats one way. If you go by wealth, that's another. The key to "enlightenment" is to examine the deep down things about us we don't know exist. These preconceptions that we have that we use to order our live and perceptions...understand that these are just one set, just one way, of living in this world. This is a freeing sort of thing, because you are not bound to them. So, you have a preconception about how to rank people. Is this the only one? Are rankings real? Are your rankings real? Why do you think in the way that you do, and not some other way? This is true introspection.
