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but if she object to the porn entirely, they are not compatible as a couple, and expecting her to change to suit his desires is no more acceptable than expecting him to do so. better they go their seperate ways.

she didn't state if she knew beforehand that he had porn. that's not something that always comes up in conversation. but even if she knew beforehand, it wouldn't change the fact that it makes her uncomfortable and is something that she cannot live with. you can't help what you feel about such things. therefore, no, i wouldn't say she's over reacting, i'd say she did the right thing for the both of them.

 

Excellent point ......

 

well, if she sees it as cheating, then again, they're not compatible.

 

what if he said "throw out the vibrator or else" ? Porn is just a masturbatory aid, like vibrators or dildos or fantasies. Surely you fantasize as well when you masturbate.

like everyone has mentioned, I do think you've overreacted. And you'll be hard pressed to find a boy who has absolutely no porn or is willing to give up 100% of it to date you. Some might acquiesce and get rid of some, or even the majority, but I doubt any will give up every single bit of porn or picture of a naked person taht they have access to.

 

Wow, that really put it into perspective for me.. That's an excellent point.




..and no, I'm not being sarcastic, just in case it sounded that way.

 

wtf...



as for the original post, its your life you should do with it what you want..
In my opinion though, i think you are way overreacting but again it is your life and your feelings not mine.
Personally, i have porn cause when my bf is away or i am not with him, i want to do my own thing and use porn as a visual and nothing more...
Its not that he cares about porn more then you, its just he probably thought it was ridiculous that you told him to throw it out like you were his keeper of porn or something, know what i mean.. that you got so upset over a magazine and made him feel like the bad guy cause you are insecure (or whatever reason it may be) with yourself and making him feel like it is his fault..
Its not like he has blow up dolls, a stash of pocket pussys, a whole porn room filled with porn.. it was a magazine...
I wouldnt throw away my relationship cause of a porno magazine...that shows me that your relationship isnt that strong to begin with..
if it really bothered you, you should tell him or talk to him instead of giving him a decision, ya know.. or making him feel like rotten shit over a magazine..
Again, its your life and do with it what you will.. This is just my take on it and what I thought...

 

I think your boyfriend should breakup with you and find someone who is more understanding and better able to make him happy.

 

if he said that and she couldn't bring herself to do it, then they're not meant o be a couple.

 

I dunno..I'm personally really comfortable with porn (whenever theres nothing good on tv my friends and i pop in a porno)...and whenever i see one and im with my boyfriend i just laugh and tell im i can do better. i dont honestly know if he invests in the stuff, but i dont think he does because i keep him busy enough. if youre really uncomfortable with it, i htink he should respect your wishes as long as you up the sex enough to keep him busy.

 

Are you by chance a female rights activist?

Suck him off every once in a while and he won't look at porn as much.

 

Exactly what I was thinking. Would you rather him beat off to porn or go cheat on you?

 

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I dont get this statement...
so if you didnt have porn youd cheat on your lady? thats sort of a stupid ass reason and i think if you cheated on your lady cause you had no porn, then you get the golden dunce cap my friend...

 

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OP: If he gives up his porn, are you prepared to give up trashy romance novels and romantic comedies?

 

RE: Did he have the porn before you met him?

Yes

RE: So why do you now think you have the right to change him now?

Women ALWAYS feel they have the perogative and the right to make ultimatums of men. They wander into a relationship knowing full well that the man in question has things about him she doesn't like, same with the guy. But whereas the guy simply smiles and lets her get on with it with the beanie babies or romance novels or wal-mart knickknacks, she comes in with an agenda and a definite game plan to rid this man of everything she doesn't like. She comes into it with not only the thought that she has the right but also some kind of "moral responsibility" to "fix" the man.

Women spend inordinate amounts of money on Cosmo, "how to get people to do what you want" books etc. Look at it this way - the most popular show in existence for women is Oprah, in which she has a psych on board to basically "whup the menfolk into shape". They're taking notes, trust me. And the "no sex" is the nucular option. And they're more than prepared to use it.

This isn't modern - there's an ancient Greek story in which the women avert a war by saying you go ahead off to fight but when you come back I'll have learned to ride a bike with my legs crossed. And consider that Jane Eyre features the woman's total and utter fantasy - she finds a good looking, competent arrogant man she wants (and she's an employee, lower than him on the totem pole) and by book's end she's master of the house and he's literally an impotent cripple.

RE: OP: If he gives up his porn, are you prepared to give up trashy romance novels and romantic comedies?

No.
Rule one: the woman is always right - rule two: see rule one.

 

Oh, and don't forget - the sun SHOULD revolve around her, sexually and otherwise. I can guarantee that if he has friends he enjoys spending time with that'll become an issue too - "why would you rather go out drinking with Bill and Doug on Thursdays than help me figure out which color of pink I'm having you paint our bathroom?"

 

bunch of whores in a magazine?!?!?! okay...

 

Hey, I've known women who thought a bikini shot in FHM was "pornography" and "the sexual exploitation of wimminkind"

 

you're such a crybaby, iron_goth, you really are.