Fire, ready for fire lol. Why do you think some people only date outside their own race? Do you ever see an Asian man dating a Black woman or anyone of Latino decent ever dating a person of Asian decent?
people have their preferences. i have a friend who will only date mexican-americans. not peurto ricans, not cubans, not peruvians, mexicans. she likes them. whatever.
You almost stuck your neck out there lol. I know this girl that only dates black guys. (Let me give you a little history first.) The girl has a mom that's, let's just say, is not into black guys so my friend first started doing it for rebellion purposes. (That's why I get on people that say it's just preference because sometimes it goes a little deeper.) Her mom had helped her get fixed up that night and as a birthday treat took her to her first bar. A black guy approached my friend and asked her to dance. Her mom didn't think she should but my friend was determined to take him up on the offer. Sense then she has dated exclusively black guys. (No Latinos, no Indians, no whites, and no Asians. I don't even think she dates black guys that aren't really dark.)
I was engaged to an African American woman. She was no different than the white girls I dated, except she smoked crack and had afro puffs. She was cool.
This is a post about people that date outside their race but the racial insult post is down the hall.
Really, I'm white and my ex-fiancé was black. She was in dental school and never smoked crack, as far as I know, and had nice soft straightened hair, and spoke as well as Tiger Woods. She was hotter & smarter than any girl I've dated since, and in the two years we were together the only person who ever gave us any shit about race was her Uncle, and that cowardly **** only said shit behind our backs.
My only dating requirement was that the guy had to be taller than me or I felt like an Amazon Woman. Race never entered my mind.
I think you should cut her some slack, and those people who think this some slack as well. Unless you live in an area with a lot of mexicans and columbians and what have you, you're not going to be able to see the difference between them, you'll only see the difference between them and yourself. Having moved to Indianapolis when I was 13 from a much smaller city, I can't say I thought much differently. I hadn't known, or even seen, anyone who wasn't either white or black in my life. I soon learned differently, but I wouldn't have unless I'd had that opportunity. Some people never get that opportunity. Thinking that a group of people look alike, especially a group that does share a lot of similarities, say, Asians and Pacific Islanders(Depends on the island), isn't the same thing as being racist.
not the point. too many times when i refer to someone being a mexican, i get the comment back "how do you know they're mexican? what if they're peurto rican or columbian or blah blah blah?" it's typically their judgement that i'm calling someone mexican because they think i'm being prejudicial in calling all hispanics mexicans. i DO know the difference. just like i know the difference between various asian groups, because i've had a LOT of exposure to various races and know the differences in their looks and the way they talk as well as other aspects of their behavior and culture. i just get tired of being asked.
No, actually I'm not. I live in a place that has a lot of different ethnic groups and some of the admixtures are simular to the point of almost being identical. (For instance, if you go to the pow wows where I live the indians,in some cases, look either asian or polynesian.) I'm just asking how she's so sure she's getting a Mexican man. Some fillipino people look mexican. (Did you ask her if she thought they all looked alike.) There was once a guy that claimed that his girlfriend told him to say that he was hispanic rather than white because her parents would be more accepting of him. There maybe prejudices that effect people and their choices. (Doesn't nesissarily have to be race it could be charateristics or culture.) One girl I knew said she dated white guys because she liked their long hair and blue eyes. There was this guy that dated Asian women because he thought they would do things in the bedroom that women in his race would not. Some people just like certain features that are know to certain groups. Like some girls like guys with long blonde/red hair. Some guys like girls with big ole butts and big lips. Some people like the steryotypes. Date a black guy 'cause his penus is big. Date a white guy 'cause he'll treat you right. Date a Latin man because he's good in bed. Date an Asain man because he's smart and cares for his family. (None of this has to be true) These are just some of the things I've heard and thought might be helpful to share.
no, that wasn't it. i have no idea what your experience with race relations is, though i was having a bitchy moment. what pisses me off mightily is people assuming that every time you refer to someone as mexican you must be ignorant of hispanics and just call all hispanics mexicans. it drives me up the fucking wall. it's pretty easy to tell people apart by the words they use, the customs they practice, the holidays they choose. and being in new mexico, where people are very proud of their mexican heritage, there's no problem calling someone a mexican when they're mexican. don't see why there ever was anyway. it just makes me nuts. trish likes mexican boys, not peruvians or guatemalans. they're different. they look different, they sound different, they behave different. she likes mexican boys because she grew up around mexican people mostly, and therefore likes them.
