I have finally found someone who I care deeply about. The honeymoon period is drawing to a close and suddenly I feel very lonely. I find it strange that I should feel like this but I do. I need to feel loved, and I don't know how my girlfriend sees our relationship - as something that is deeply fulfilling, something that is exciting and a bit of fun, something to quell other insecurities or what? I know what you're going to say, and I know what my advice would be if someone else was posting this - talk to her, ask her. Thing is, that is damn intimidating because I don't know how fragile the balance is that would mean I loose her. Blessings Sebbi
i know the feeling...when you come down off that initial "honeymoon" period things can seem like they are going backward and getting dull. but actually its just your relationship hitting the next phase - the next step and with that comes growth. of course growth is not guarenteed but i think you shouldnt be so worried.....embrace the changes b/c they may not be so bad. now if your intuition is telling you deeply that something is wrong then maybe you should look a little deeper into that but if its just things setting down and getting more comfortable then i wouldnt be worried....that happens in every relationship eventually....its not always a bad thing.
Sebbi, dear, sit down and let me tell you something. a few months ago, I was dating this guy. Real great guy, and we both had feelings for each other. So after our "Honeymoon" period, I began thinking and wondering and feeling. Mostly feeling lonely, like you've just said. I confronted him about it, worried about our relationship, and we ended up breaking it off. It hurt, so much to the point that I contemplated going back to cutting myself--and worse, but I had good friends who helped me through this. But my story is not the point. The point is that you need to talk to her. Me and this guy spent our whole relationship talking, but not about the right stuff. Take charge, let her know how you feel. Mostly, though, love her, the way you want to be loved. And above all, boyfriend or not, be her friend. Because true friends really are the best thing the Gods have granted us. Always-- Miss Jo
