right heres the deal, ive been goin out with this girl for 6 weeks now; shes fantastic,caring,funny,loving etc... when she wants to be! From the 1st time we started tlkin i knew she suited me; we slowly grew onto each other and then started to go out, the 1st 3 weeks of the relationship was fantastic, they were the best times off my life, but it all changes. This girl has changed my life from a constant downhill for some years and she just came and brought it bk up. Right, recently she has been acting strange like not wantin to spend time as much, seems likes she ashamed to be with me at times. She is pushing me away for NO reason, i think ive fallen for this girl regardless of her strange behavior at times, this strange behaviour is such as "she only spend times when she wants to", pushin me away for no reason, bein funny with me, just acting strange asif she wants to push me away on purpose, she says she really does like me and even says she loves me, but this is what i cant understand if she says she feels sooo strong why push me away for no reazon? its really hurting now cuz i dont wanna lose her but i feel i might have to All her best m8s see that im doing nothing wrong at all ( as far as my knoledge ) thye just she her pushing me away for no reason, so im not alone and i cant belive im not doing nething wrong, i think she doesnt know she does it. her m8s say they feel sorry for me cuz i try my upmost hardest to please her and i wudnt hurt her EVER full stop. This is how strong i feel for her. We just done a school sponsored no sleep over and it was for 12 hours and for the 1st 5 hours me n her never tlked for some strange reason, she just blanked me, i feel im been takin for a ride, in these 5 hours she was flirting with a lad there and like really going for it, i wlked into a room to see them two there holdin hands; so i walk out so i dont flip on the lad, then the lad comes out and ask me wats my problem with her and i sed its not ur buisness get her out here, so she comes and i ask her what she doin flirting with another lad and she just laughed and sed i aint gonna do nutin, i only think hes fit, this aint right? she feels so much but still....? then she wlked off in a mood and never spoke to me for like 3 hours and it just hurt me sooo bad that some1 i respect and have sooo many strong feelings for can just hurt me for no reazon, she thought it never hurt me ? is she stupid ? is she playing minde games ? on that night i hurt soooo bad i even felt pyshical sick cuz of it, leading onto crying etc... it hurt and its not fair.!! All her m8s she exactly wat i see, theres me doing all my best to keep her happy and at random times she will push me away soo much its unbearable. is she going off me? is she playin minde games ? im i bein taken for a ride ?? wat shud i do ? i dooo reallly feel soooooo strong for this girl regardless of her faults, she makes me happy,she makes me feel good and shes my girlfreind, if it came to me avin to finsih her it WILL kill me. help me plz!!!!!! /owen
do you know what man...girls can be so manipulative...i speak from the expereince of be a former manipulising girl sum needy, atention seeking types tend to mess guys about...not becuase they wana hurt them but coz they want to feel desired...its very selfish and immature and extremely hurtful to the guy involved. im not sayin this is necessarily what ur girl is like, just my impression from what you wrote...sum girls want all the guys to fancy them you see? even if they really care about their boyfriend , they still want to be fanciable to everyone else which means they flirt like mad...in my expereience i say they do this becuase they want to feel good about themselves, maybe they have low self esteem and need guys to actively fancy them for them to feel good about themselves? does this ound like your girl? your at school right? so your quite young..dont mean that in a patronsing way..im a young'un too ya know but this girl sounds just like me when i was at school...playin with peoples hearst and minds to feel good about yourself..its really horrible i know and i really sympathise with you...i can hear your brokenheartedness thru your post. thing is mate, you need to look after your own heart...dont put it on the line for sumone else to trample on..sumtimes you need to be selfish and put yourself first. i know you say it would kill you if you broke up with her and proabably for a while that is what itll feel like, but you've gotta protect your heart dude...love yourself. dont be hasty, you need to tell her EXACTLY how you're feeling..chances are she doesnt realise how much she is hurtin you...if you tell her you cant go on in this relationship whilst she treats you like this the shock of losin you might spur her on to change her behaviour..if it doesnt then i would encourage you to move on mate...it'll bloomin hurt but you need to think of yourself in this instance love and peace luchi xxxx
This sounds like a carbon of my last relationship.. best you could wish for, for 2 or 3 weeks then downhill, although I hope yours won't go the same way. chickabean is right though Owen, look after yourself. If it's right and all this girl wants is to be fancied, then the person she most wants to be fancied by surely is you. You're at that age where personally I think if it wasn't working for real, you would just split up as no offence but it's still kind of young for serious relationships, but I'm no expert. What you should do I think, is ease up a little, if what you feel is true, that you think you may split.. then surely anything is worth a shot. Ease up on her, because she may be taking your attention for granted, thinking, "Owen fancies me no probs, but what about other boys". If she discovers her own boyfriend is showing less attention, then as chickabean suggested she may kick herself up the arse and get back to the real deal. I'm not great at this sorta thing, if I was I wouldn't have split with my girlfriend, but you're only young. You will have many relationships before you settle down, which you will. But don't think that this is the one, because no offence but it probably isn't, but the risk is like you said, she makes you feel so good and so you want it more. What you must ask yourself is a question I was told a while back which stuck in my mind.. and that's: "Is it the person, or just the idea?" Basically speaking, are you sure.. I know you think you are.. but are you sure it's HER you want, or is it just the IDEA of having a girlfriend and being happy. A little story, I punched the person that said that about me and my girlfriend.. 2 weeks later I realised how right he was. But anyway I'm straying.. Owen, look after yourself.. If she wants you make her work for it. I don't necessarily mean "Treat em' mean, keep em' keen", just don't let the relationship get one sided. Maybe all she wants is for you to bite and act like a real man? I don't know. Women are strange things.. yet we still want them. Good luck.
She's playing you. Do what all guys do in this situation, dump her. Find another girlfriend. The pain you save by doing this will be your own. Plus, she'll respect you more, and someday, if that day arives, for you both, maybe you'll have a new, more meaningful relationship on equal footing. Right now you sound like a whining pussy, and she probably gets that feeling too. No girls like wimps. You want help? I'm just being honest.
how do u mean im acting like a wimp, u sound like a dick to me, im honest thats all and so what if she can she that, i dont act this way to her its just easier writing um down thats all, u obvo dont understand feelings for people, cuz i cant just dump her and find sum1 else... things aint that easy when u feel for peeps
lol american pussies :S if u saw me ud find out i aint a pussy, im far from it i just feel for dis girl
Yeh shut up you lot, people come on here for advice and to let their feelings known, if you two got problems with that, then how about you give us your details so we can settle this off the internet. To be honest if you ain't got anything good to say then don't say anything at all. As for owen, speak to you later mate
wtf???!!! Aight first things first,How in the hell can you too come to this forum about realationships and love,And call somone a pussy or a wimp,As if you two never ahd any relationship problems in your life and didnt know what to do about them??? Dunno if yall forgot but this is a forum to put up answers of advice to help others,not to make fun of them because of the post they make...Come on people grow up my god. Owen man i know how you feel dude,i would definatly bring this up to her let her know how you feel and if by then she still doesnt change.Well i would let her go cause it seems she dont reallly care about your feelings.Gotta be honest here i agree with the one that said it sounds like shes playing you this is true, thats the way it sounds, its like you her "Summa-Time-Guy" so to speak meaning shes got you there when she feels fit...Wish you luck bro'
I gotaa back up Ice Man on this, she's takin you for a ride, and is definatly not worth your heartbreak. Trust me, I just learned this lesson, sometimes breaking it off even though you love the other person, and even though it's the hard thing to do, is the right thing to do. Sometimes the hard choice is the right one. Don't stay in the relationship because of the fear of hurting her (and trust me, she's gonna cry and beg and tell you she loves you and on and on) or for the fear of not having what you have with her again. Your heart and your health is worth alot more than some fears. good luck to you, it's hard, but it's the right thing to do, trust me!
