"Thats not polite"

For my 100th post, I just want peoples opinions on politeness. Of course its a means of meaning well, but from my experiences, I'd have to say there is such a thing as overdoing it. As I've seen before, people become soft and unprepared for real world situations. Emotions are then sensitive and more likely to be unstable in hostile enviroments which pretty much are contained everywhere no matter where you live. I see humor as the main tool that transcends past all the emotions which we share. Realistically, I believe in hospitality towards everyone but its obvious nature has a balance and tilting it one way will only tip it over so we'll all be screwed. "Thats not polite", give me a break, peace

orale! ahora soy un pinche member, gracias a todos que apuyeron para conocer este gran logro tan noblemente.

thanx everybody, smoke on

 

I think politeness is when you do the little things like say "please" and "thankyou". If I'm going to be polite then I'll use those words as well as be generally friendly to someone. But I think politeness can go over the top and become a strong desire to please which isn't good at all. When people get so eager to please others then I think its a whole different situation.

 

there are more rude people on the world than polite, so i appreciate politeness. of course, it can be irritating when is overdoed or obviously false.

 

I think it's best when you just say "please", "thank you", "excuse me" and "sorry", things like that. You don't need to be overly courteous all the time.

 

Good points, I'm pretty much a joking asshole with some people in non threating matters out of jest but still some get offended. Either way, I know there are understandings of courtesy which dont hurt to comply with so its all good.

 

Politeness has seemed to become somthing that alot of people don't have. The ones that really irritate me are the rude people in the service industry. C'moin folks I'm paying your wage. I'm old fashioned I guess, I still say please , thank you, and open doors for women.

 

Politeness in my opinion is all about respect and etiquette, so of course overdoing it just becomes annoying.

 

I second that. I've worked my share of jobs in the service industry and as annoying as it was and as much as I hated it, I would always greet and thank. I may not have always smiled and seemed cheery, but there really is no excuse not to greet and thank.

On another note, I had this friend who would apologize for EVERYTHING. It was really rather ridiculous. He was two minutes late, apology, he misunderstood you, apology. Not the worst thing you can do, but he would constantly be apologizing for things that I really didn't give a shit about. I told him one day that he didn't need to do that all the time. He apologized for apologizing too much.

 

I third that. I used to work in a gas station, and not matter what time of day, or what mood I was in, I always smiled and was polite. It's not the customers fault you're in a shitty mood, or that you have to work a shitty job. Everyone does at one time, so how about instead of moping around about it, why not make the best of it?

I also agree about holding the door open, not just for women, but for everyone. I just think it's common courtesy.

 

I can't abide bad manners....


Especially people who treat women badly :$

I'm always holding doors open and lugging my female friends bags/satchels/what have you around...

 

im blazed...

 

Holy Fuck!!! Im A Senior Member!!!!!

 

I find that very few people are polite anymore, so I appreciate any politeness. Then again, just about anything can be overdone.

 

i cant say as i've ever noticed anyone being over polite... sometimes the words sorry and thankyou are overused in conversations but i just see that as a persons talking style.. it becomes a habit...

 

politeness is indeed a conditioned response. it means nothing in reality, but we are conditioned to act in certain ways, simply because the people who came before is were as well, but who knows where it started. depending on the level, type, and commonality of the conditioning, politeness can mean different things and effect people differently. however even though its irrational to care about things like a rude little boy whos simply not gonna go anywhere in life, people who judge politenes do so simply because it is the way they have developed in society. emotions are emotions, and theyre just a part of being a normal conscious mind. ethics are made to ensure balance and control of certain feelings and behaviors.

 

Could you give me an example of politeness being overdone, please?

 

im polite to those who only deserve it...(please dont say anything cause i really wont listen, its my opinion so yeah....)
some think im really mean cause im always sarcastic but if they take it that way, then theres nothing i can do about it...take it or leave it..

 

"good morning how are you"
fine
"oh thats great and wonderful, you look nice today"
thanks
"oh you are very welcome so are you sure you are okay"
yes
"well are you sure, cause ill listen"
yes, im fine
"are you positive, i will listen, are you sure you are okay"
yes
"okay, what are you doing today"
nothing
"oh that sounds fantastic, so how are you, you seem like you're upset, are you sure you are okay"
yes
"are you sure"
shut the fuck up already, shit...

*i find when people constantly ask you the same thing over and over and over to be not polite, but crazy...imo...
There is a thing of being too overly polite, its not human...imo

 

depends wot mood i'm in....i don't make a point to remember to be polite, but if I'm in a good mood I prolly will be....

 

sometimes i think i'm too polite... but thats the way i am, it comes from my heart awwww