im more picky than jerry seinfield

Ive dated about a million guys and i constantly find something wrong with them. last year, i dated a great looking guy that had a great job and he did nothing wrong, but he was 31 and i was 24, not a huge difference, but i felt like he acted too old for me. i needed someone who is more of a child at heart, i guess. Its reasons like the guy said something stupid and i cant get over it, or something else that i should not take into too much consideration on whether or not i should break up with him, but i do. and I tend to date the pretty guys that are conceited and think highly of themselves. i always tend to attract them or draw myself to them , or both, i dont know how i always get stuck with them, but i always do. all the girls have crushes on them, but in reality, theyre so into themselves, and it gets really annoying FAST. I dont know where do find decent guys. i pick guys up at work and at the bar. Id LIKE to pick up a guy somewhere else, but im not the kinda girl that would go up to a guy normally, they usually go up to me. where do you find a decent guy? hell ive dated as much as the girls on sex and the city (but im not as easy as they are ), but i just seem to always find duds. and im not being as picky, but i feel like if there is a negative vibe, then i shouldnt be with this guy. but then im afraid that ive broken up with my soul mate, cus i was just too picky. im 25, and im starting to think that im never going to meet my soulmate. this last week, an older man asked me out, and he was like 35 looking, and i told him no. he was way old to me. and another guy my age told me he liked me, but he writes songs, and he sings them outloud alot, which i found annoying,, and my best friend disapproves, so im not sure on if ill go on a date with him. im crazy.

 

you gotta understand that your instinctive attraction as a woman has not cought up with your desires for an equal loving relationship that society has directed women's conscious minds towards wanting.

the chance you will find the perfect man is incredibly small. the chance you will find the perfect man who also finds you teh perfect woman is so small that scientifically it would be counted impossible.

this is why in successful relationships, both people change themselves a little bit in order to take in the other person's needs.

chances are, an attractive man wont do that until you show them youve made a change yourself. that would include not giving such a shit about little things they say or whatnot, and simply letting them know when something pisses you off instead of breaking a relationship up over it.

you gotta allow for the relationship to mould into a whole, you cant just break it up when you spot something YOU dislike .

i think teh most importantthing however is to look at yourself. you dont like guys caus theyre too obsessed withthemselves? look at the way youre judging men. 'hes too old for ME', 'hes too loud for ME'. no one will respect your comforts unless you can respect theirs.