.. well, we're pretty good friends now, I guess! Yeah some of you might have read my jealousy thread about her and her relationship with Nick.. I was scared that, Nick might like her a little too much, turns out he doesn't and I'm working on my jealousy problem at the moment, it's getting better, and.. I was also afraid that if Lisa and I ever became friends, that she'd always feel closer to Nick, who she met first. Well hell no it's not that way at all!! Her and I have been hanging out, talking so much, we have plans, and etc. we get along so well I am so happy, she's really cool and seems to love me. I kinda freaked out a little tonight, though.. cause she gave Nick a ride back home, as she's was baby-sitting these kids living near where Nick lives anyway, and she told him she wasn't doing anything tonight so if he'd like to have a cup of coffee later.. I didn't like it. I know she doesn't want him, she's disgusted by men at the moment and she knows Nick and I are in love and all.. but... I don't know, Nick says she's just like that, looking for someone random to hang out cause she's bored, but I didn't like it for about half-an-hour. I don't care now... but what do you think?
Like, what I thought at first was: why would she wanna hang out with Nick, MY boyfriend? JUST him and her? Am I weird or does anybody else think it's not right? I mean I think I just got paranoid... I don't even care anymore now, but.. just wondering what you guys think...
jealousy.... that dragon that slays love i don't think there's anything wrong with your boyfriend hanging out with a girl who is his friend, drinking coffee, talking, doing bland friend things like that. i think that there is no reason for jealousy at all; perhaps if they were making plans to go away on weekend trips and spending lots of time together... otherwise, platonic friendships are healthy, and should be welcomed and enjoyed. peace,
I know, but, don't you think that the fact that SHE wanted to hang out with him, is.. I don't know, like why would she wanna hang out with her friend's boyfriend? Know what I mean?
were they friends before you two started going out? if so, you couldn't expect to ruin that friendship because he became attached to someone romantically. in any case, even if she met him after, it sounds like she's friends with you both - as a couple. she's friends with the "mrs" and the "mr", right? does she spend time with you alone? does she spend time with you both together? i think it is healthy for your boyfriend to maintain a relationship with women friends other than yourself, and so you should rest easy if he is spending some time with her, alone. you have to trust him that if she were to suddenly turn pure evil (lol) and attempt to seduce him, he'd say fuck off, yeah? i think that what you mean, particularly, is that she she wants to spend time with him. i see what you mean, but you need to look at it in another light. i am friends with some couples, good friends with the 'mrs' and the 'mr', right? i often find it much easier to talk to the boyfriend because of the fact that he's with someone - there's no weirdness, romantic confusion, it's just friends; he's with someone and i'm friends with them both. it's like being friends with a gay guy. hahaha.... it's so definite that you can only be friends, that it makes for great honest friends conversation. of course, some girls are bitches and don't recognize those boundaries. you need to use your judgement. can your boyfriend be trusted? is she a good friend? peace,
you shouldnt be jelousfor your own sake .....but your right that theres a good chance that they both have ideas bout each other ......hey its possible no , but sometimes people are totaly denying the dynamic
He's a grown man, but if he has a commitment with you, then he needs to abide by it. People bring up trust a lot and I agree, but sometimes even the best, most trustworthy person can be in the "wrong" place at the "wrong" time succumb to temptation. No one is immune. We are all human. I'd talk with him and ask him if he feels tempted when he is alone with her. If he says "no", then trust his word. If he says "yes", then I'd ask him why he would want to put himself in such a situation and does he think it is healthy for your relationship. If you catch him lying, confront it immediately and let him know that you are a forgiving person but this (lying) will not be tolerated. Straightforward honesty and openess are the only way you can relieve your stress and get straight to the point.
two thumbs up, libertine. though dave's pretty much attracted to most females, i still trust him with them.
I haven't really got much advice apart from listen to what Libertine said! but I just wanted to say you're not alone in getting jealous. If my boyfriend hangs out with girls on their own I get worried and jealous aswell...I'm trying to work on it aswell so good luck!
i was wondering how that meeting with that girl had gone Penny, well, i'm glad you and her are "getting along"... i understand you might be feeling a bit aprehensive about your boyfriend hanging out with this girl...well, they are friends, guys and girls can actually be friends. If you have doubts about your boyfriend, that would be another issue, but as long as you know that your boy loves you and love you and you only, you have nothing to worry about. I give you an example, one of my friends has been going out with her boyfriend for about 4 years, they love each other so much, they go out together, hang out with people, they meet people separately as friends and then they go back home to each other and continue loving each other as usual. I've noticed them when we're out and i've never seen them fighting or anything, they are perfect..oh man, i wish i had something like that *sighs*, perhaps all it takes is a bit of security in what you have in your relationship i guess...
thanks everyone.. I trust Nick, but I am so fucking insecure, I feel like everybody else is so much better than me and it's like, I don't want him to meet other girls just because I'm scared he'll realize how much better they are... it's stupid.. I have talked about that with many times and he keeps telling me that he loves me, that he isn't attracted to other girls at all even if they are attractive he says he doesn't see them as sexual objects, like they're transparent to him he says it's only me, me, me.. but... it's a little hard to believe it sounds so unrealistic! And Lisa, well.. she's a great girl, and Nick has been complaing about my personality lately, he thinks I try to dominate him too much, that I'm too suspicious and too pushy, so I'm even more insecure now and we had a pretty serious fight this afternoon He said he was unhappy in our relationship at the moment cause I was too pushy.. that he still loves me as much, but I have to change or else he'll want to end it... It's been really hard for me and I feel like I totally fucked up, I am so fucking scared now and of course I wanna change but it's so hard!!!! I just don't know what to do. I love Nick so much if he left me I think I'd do something stupid.
hell no. your friend and bf are hanging out without you? nope dump both of their asses either he likes her or he feels sorry for her and in the process is negelecting your feelings. That would infuriate anyone. you're not pranoid and you're freaking gorgeous you don't need that.
It's so hard to meet a nice girl. I get pissed when i see guys who have nice girls and dont know how to treat them. Then they turn into bitches cos they dont trust guys anymore.
