i have been talking to this great guy for about a year . he has never seen me before . so every time he ask about a picture of my self i just tell i give it to you later. i feel so awful about it because i never told him that i was black. so when i do give him a picture of me he is going to think that i was lying to him. what should i do ?
chicka, if he really likes you he's not going to care about your skin colour. Even if he just likes you as a friend, he's not going to care about your skin colour. It doesn't change who you are.
Thats true . but the point is that he might not think about my colour but that i have been lieing to him for the past year 1/2 . it makes it even more difficult . okay if he has a problem about my heritage i agree theres no need for him. it just seems very complicated and confussing.
wait did you tell him you were white or what..? but like ihmurria said, if he really likes you he won't care about the colour of your skin
Yeah, if he didn't ask and you didn't tell him you were white or something, then I think it should be a non issue. If he cared about your race, wouldn't he have asked? And if he is suprised, well....what for? Why should it matter?
no i didnt tell him that i was white. i think he was being sterotypical and considering that becuase i listen and do certain things . lately ive been trying to tell him.
the above advice is all very good......but yer can be deceptive show him the pic.....if he acts surprised at yer skin colour then claim that you told him yer were black months ago, and act a lil' shocked.... he's a bloke....we forget things...he'll prolly think he forgot and be a lil' embarrased that he could forget summit like that, and feel awkward instead of irate at being lied to (well, not lied to, just not been told everything, yer know wot i mean) not that i would ever condone dishonesty between friends of course......
unless he's a freak and saved every Im, e-mail etc. really, though, why assume white? Sounds like a lesson for him. I'm thinking you have seen a pic of him and he looks white (c'mon we are all mixed in the US, its all a matter of degree and culture raised in)
What makes you think he is assuming anything anyway? If you didn't tell him and he hasn't said anything to make you think otherwise then you have absolutely no idea what is in his mind. So instead of trying to figure it out and coming up with crazy theories and such and feeling bad, etc. Just send him a pic and get it over with.
mod.. the truth is he'll either already love u regardless of how u look or he's interested but wants to be physically attracted. in either case you can't change how he will act when you show him a pic so why not just get it over and done with? I always make it a point to mention my ethnicity/race early on as I've been in a similar situation (where it didn't matter to the girl actually) but I sweated over it enough to know I don't want a repeat.
I don't think it will matter to him. If he is still talking to you after a year and does not even know what you look like. He is the type of person who loves someone inside instead of outside. But I'm thinking you might have a problem more then him if you never told him. Don't ever do that to yourself-be proud of who you are in life.
