Libido never recovered... What can I do?

My son is 28 months old. In all this time, I have never regained my libido. The last time I had a 'REAL' orgasm was on my honeymoon. (Thomas was 3 months old, AND with his grandmother) I just wanted to know if anyone has any advice on what to do about it. My husband and I are active, yes, but I feel like I am just a recepticle, and that I am not getting any enjoyment from it, unless I 'assist' my husband... He tries too. We aren't square by any means, but I dunno. I just can't get into it. The only time I really get turned on is when we watch lesbian dirty movies. (Yes, I have lesbian tendencies) It's so frustrating!! >:C
Do you have any tips?

 

So watch porn then do it LOL There's NOTHING wrong with that.

Really. My DH bought me playboy and a bunch of girly movies just for this reason. He want's me to be turned on and get off I love that man Awww.

 

While I usually don't have difficulty obtaining an orgasm, my libido has definitely taken a nosedive in the past few years, but I attribute that to the fact that I'm worn out from taking care of three young children, two of which are 2 year old twins.

Seriously though, I don't see any problem with watching the movies to help you out. The only problem that might arise is if you continuously need the movies, that they are the only thing that will bring you to orgasmic bliss. Then, you might want to examine your love life a little further, as in, do you lean more towards lesbian intimacy than hetero.

Have fun, relax, and enjoy yourself. Just stressing over whether or not you are going to have an orgasm can really put a strain on you, sometimes making it seemingly impossible.

Do you have any toys to play with? If not, maybe you might want to try some.

 

True words, M'lady

 

I haven't been pregnant yet, but didn't have orgasms that often. Probably the most important thing is, no matter what sex-situation you are in, that you have to relax. Taka a bubble-bath, enjoy your body. Sex, and orgasms even more isn't a pleasure without relaxation. Meditate, enjoy being with your man, maybe try other techniques besides just penetration, let him admire your body. (I hope I wasn't to detailed...) Make it a ritual, take time, maybe take a babysitter for your kid, if you're more relaxed then. An inspiring movie can be part of it, delicious, sensual food, do what feels good. Hope your libido returns soon

 

Or you can look at it this way - your marraige has now gone the way of every other one. Between racing after kids, trying to pay the bills, worrying the economy will collapse, increasing gridlock, higher gas prices, etc..... enh

 

No, my marraige has NOT gone the way 'every other one' has. I don't carry financial burdens, because I don't live beyond my means. I don't race after the kids, because I only have one, and he is very good at keeping himself entertained. I don't go a lot of places, so i don't worry too much about gas (not to mention I DO have good gas mileage on my car anyway.) Why so cynical?

Actually, all your suggestions did help (except IronGoth's retort...9_9). I realised the other day that I do tend to stress when I get close to an orgasm about whether I will get off or not. I was on the verge, and I was like 'omigod omigod am I gonna finish? Am I gonna finish? Please God let me have one decent orgasm!!' And that killed it. At least I know now what I am doing wrong.

We do have toys, and we both love them. My attraction and passion towards my husband has not dissipated by any means, and we don't make it a regular ritual to watch movies. I do tend to be attracted to girls, but I would never trade my husband for girl sex. It's just a fetish, I guess. :3 My husband seems to think he can skip foreplay though. I made him do it the other day,a nd I was like 'See! That helps, doesn't it?' Undoubtedly, he agreed. :>