My great grandmother's funeral is today...

She was 94 years old when she died.
How am I supposed to feel about this?
If I say she was old enough, and that it shouldn't be a suprise, then I seem like a cold-hearted prick.
I loved her an everything, but the woman could barely talk five years ago, so isn't it safe to say she's better off now?
My family hates me because I refuse to be completely shattered by this.
Isn't it enough that I sent flowers because I couldn't hop on a plane and go to the funeral after a whole 2 days notice?
Isn't it enough that I loved her when she was alive?

 

Yeah it is - the way they must be feeling is proberly she knew you for all of your life but you couldn't be arsed to go, but the way it is - is she died and you loved her then, before and after. You had very little notice and can't go - if you could you proberly would. And yeah i would like to think she is better of where she is, i hope i would be. You sent flower's, im sure you are thinking of her and your family etc. Sorry to hear she died though xXx

 

The thing that pisses me off the most is that it's my sstepdad's family, and most of them never liked me anyway...she was one of the few members of that family that was actually kind, and treated me like a human being. I've known her since I was knee-high to a bullfrog, and I stuck to her like glue. They know that I loved her, and yet they treat my like I'm being cold and distant....why can't they just be nice to me for once?!?

 

I'm very sorry for you. If they aren't treating you very well,don't take it personally because they are grieving. You are grieving diffrently to them and they just don't understand that but you can't blame them for being this way, just as they can't blame you for grieving the way you do. I hope you can all try and come together and support each other, but don't be too worried if you cannot because grief is a strange thing which makes people act wierd! i hope you get through this all ok, good luck

 

Sister I never made it to my own Bio Gram's service. I will pay the price the rest of my life. I don't feel that I needed to be there. I did my own thing that day and thought about her. All I say is May peace be with her as she left this world for where ever she is going to now. I really hope that you find peace in this situation and that your family finds peace with her passing. I am sure she was a great women and she would have understood. Greave is a scary thing that as americans we do not prepare for and often we don't have the proper channels to excute our feelings. You seem to know how to deal with this. Your gonna be stronger next week, because of it. THis is not to say that you will be over her passing at all but everything effects a person and it either damages them or makes them stronger and I think your more of the stronger type

 

i know what you mean. my grandma died a few months ago, i was sad but the whole last 3 years of her life she was just so sick and on so much medication that she wasnt herself at all. when we saw her it would be like trying to talk to ozzy ozboure or something. my dad had just died a few months before my grandma died and i was still pretty traumatized by that, so didnt feel that sad about my grandma dying. she was buried next to my dads grave so i was still really upset about my dad and didnt really think about my grandma.

 

You just realize that life goes on after death, and you have accepted death as a natural part of life maybe?