Hi everyone, I have a little question. The last two girls I have slept with have been very inexperienced. One was a virgin, and it was only the second time for the other - she said the first and only guy she was with didn't know what he was doing, so she never really "completed" the act. Anyways, I'm no Ron Jeremy, but i'm about 7" inches and relatively thick, and I have had the same problem with both of these girls during sex. No matter what positions we're in, they say they just don't feel much, or they feel very little of anything at all. This, mind you, is a big turn off, when you can tell the girl isn't enjoying herself and subsequently my erection goes away pretty quick because it's very frustrating. The only other thing I can think to try is KY jelly to lube everything up, because it did get a little dry after a while, any suggestions about what I can do to make "her" experience better?
*clears throat* I think you got it all wrong my friend. It doesn't matter how well endowed you might be....It's all about foreplay FOREPLAY!!! that involves, lots of kisses everywhere, licking, touching, scratching even (if you are into that). You have to get your girl ready for the next part, because us girls work different to guys. particularly if they are not very experienced. if i was with a guy who was all about "in and out", i'd get bored, seriously, there's more to sex than penetration IMO.
EXACTLY!!!! Foreplay is what gets us girls goin, penetration is fun and all but most girls won't orgasm from it, and it can be painful without proper foreplay
yeah. you gotta get the blood pumping into that region for girls, too. unless their ready for some lovin', they're not going to enjoy it. it can get pretty clinical sometimes. that sorta happened to me in one of my relationships, where i was just letting myself be a receptacle because to be honest, my partner had begun to disgust me and i didn't want him but didn't have the guts to tell him so. not that your ladies were disgusted by you, just that you didn't have their full attention.
have you tried oral on your partner first? They may just need direct clitoral stimulation. It can sometimes be more like the sexual stimulation they do for themselves with their fingers. Do you use your fingers on them to get the party going?
KAMA SUTRA. Read it. If she's your girlfriend, read it with her. Experiment with your woman. Find out wear she likes to be touched, and how. If you're hitting to right spots during foreplay, it won't even take that long. But foreplay can be pretty cool for the guy too, so don't write it off. Give her a massage first, help her relax, especially if it's her first or near first time. Women like to be grinded alot too. Most importantly, you need to relax. If you're relaxed, it'll all come naturally, and she'll pick up that you're comfortable. Do things that you like and turn you on and she'll pick up on that too. It turns women on to know that they turn you on. Women like to be dominated too, just a little. They want to feel like you are in control and you're going to take them for a ride. Lube is definately good too, but with the proper stimulation, you shouldn't need it. Unless you're just unlucky and the girls are just cold and dead down there. That's not very likely though.....
It isn't unusual to not feel much the first time, it's not you. Instead of making your point about her getting off, why not have a little play. Touch her everywhere and you'll soon learn what turns her on or not, you can let her do the same to you. Just take your time and forget about the clock because there is no time limit. Remember to have fun and also remember that orgasms aren't always the most important thing during sex.
