i really need some advice on this one. please help. so, where to start...let's see. i have these two friends. im 15, she's 16, and he's 17. they have been dating for about 1 yr and 5 months. around december of last year, she confessed that she was bisexual, as am i. her boyfriend is a cheater at heart. he wanted a threeway relationship. his girlfriend did too, but decided against it. well, when me and this guy was alone, we would get...'close' so to speak. he talked to his girlfriend and told me that she said she was okay with it. i later discovered that this was a lie. about a month ago he broke things off with me. he said he loved his girlfriend too much, and what we had was hurting her. i had no problems with breaking things off. i had, in fact, been thinking of ways to tell him we should end it. about a week later, we found ourselves alone again, on a bus ride home. some things happened that i knew his girlfriend wouldn't agree with. the next day he told me he talked to her about and that she wasn't bothered. later, i called her, and found that she knew nothing about it. she was mad at him and considered breaking up with him. she was also kind of mad at me because i let him. she didn't break up with him, but what she didn't know was that i didn't let him. here's what happened. we were sitting next to each other, and he started to rub my legs. i told him to stop, but he didn't. i tried to push him away, but he moved my hands and started rubbing between my legs. i kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't. he tried to move my shirt down over my shoulder so that he could see inside. i pushed him away, so he put his arm around me and started kissing my neck. I told him to quit, but then he told me to grab his hard-on. i told him i wouldn't, so he grabbed my breast and started rubbing. then, he took my hand and put it on his penis. i tried to pull my hand away, but he wouldn't let go. he was making my hand do motions on his penis. at this point, i felt there was nothing else i could do to get the point across to him. i just faced the other way and pretended it wasn't happening. then he tried to lift my shirt up, but i held it down.then he said he wanted to watch me masturbate, so he kept asking me to, but i refused. so he took my hand between my legs and tried to make me do it. after he left i just broke down and cried. the question i have is whether or not i should tell his girlfriend. i haven't told anyone because i didn't want him to be mad at me. if i tell her, he might deny it and say that i was just making it up. and it might seem odd that it happened a month ago, but didn't tell her. i'm worried that she'll believe him and i will be labeled as a liar. what should i do? it's been tearing away at my consionce ever sense, but i don't want to start any trouble.
erm...just one question...why the fuck do you hang out with that asshole? Just leave, dont ever see either of them again...I dont see the problem, the girl needs to realise what a loser that guy is and move on, but you.. dont tell me you have feelings for this guy?...whether you should tell her or not, well, anyone in their right mind would tell that girl to break up from that son of a bitch, if you excuse my french...if he gets mad, what the fuck is he going to do? beat you up? are you afraid of causing trouble in their relationship? I dont think there's relationship there, just another play thing for that sleazebag. So, do the right thing and tell the girl to be clever and leave him, and tell the guy to fuck off. good luck
what a fucking jerk!!!! tell your friend, and don't hang about with him, i'm worried about your safety around him, this is horrid!!! i know what you were doing before wasn't perfectly correct, but what he did to you was sexual assault
well, he was the first friend i had in high school. and yes, i did have feelings for him. but i've known him for a year, and i never thought he would do something like that. and what if he denies it? then i could probably get in trouble. i could lose all my friends. but i don't think he should be able to get away with it, but he probably will anyway. its just so confusing...
or alternatively carry an industrial stapler, and staple it...or something cruel along those lines a tazer must hurt quite a bit down there
omg this kinda sh!t pisses me off. hell no dont let the (_______) get away with it. tell the girl, tell his mom, tell your parents. if they dont do anything you need to let your foot and his dick meet. your wrong for accepting it the other times but he is wrong for cheating, lieing, sexual abuse, and who knows what else he has done. id say tell the girl and tell one of your guy friends to kick the living (____) out of him.
tell his girlfriend and tell someone else, like ur best friend (closest friend besides those two). that behavior is wrong and illegal. its sexual abuse. but next time it happens just knee him in the balls or hurt him otherwise. prick.
That is sexual abuse, making you do things sexually that you have plainly refused too. Get him out of your life NOW! or tell an adult.
if i told my parents, i would get in trouble. they would think i tempted him or something. me and that guy have talked since then, and he doesn't seem to remember it. if i told one of my other guy friends (actually my only other guy friend) there's a good chance he would kick that guy's ass bc he been looking for a reason. but as wrong as he was for doing that, i don't want him to get too physically hurt. i still care about him, but not in the way i used, and barely as a friend. but i care for him as a human being. if i hated him, or said something to get him beat, that would make me the monster. if i told my closest, and only other friend besided those two and my guy friend, she would tell everyone, and that's not something i want spread. i have no one else to go to, except his girlfriend, but i'm scared she doesn't believe me, and hold it against me. sometimes i think i should just leave them all. but then where would i be? its just so fucking confusing!
are you christian? if so pray over the matter. if your another religion pray for guidance or meditate. if the praying actually helps i dont know but it will clear your mind and give u some time to think on it alone. also i must say you have put your self in a bad position being u messed with the guy but still even at that if your friend is as good as it seems you say she is then she will believe you. even if u have fealings for the guy though stay away from him. maybe a hello here and there but as much as u can stay away from him.
you've made i clear you dont want to make him miserable or punish him just never go near him again, maybe get some mace for any other chance encounters, then if you want to take it a step further try to get your friend away from him, she may not like it she may not want to hear it but its best to except harsh realities
Ya.. and who says that he won't hurt her again but messing around with someother girl when he's got the hint that you're not going to let him abuse you anymore? You did said that he is a cheater at heart and there are so many other girls out there. So by distancing yourself from him, you are not really saving your friend's relationship.
well, i'm not sure telling her would help either bc he has kissed other girls twice, and had sex with another girl. this is all she knows about, there may be more but i wouldn't know. she hasn't broke up with him. she gets mad for a couple days, but she never breaks up with him. he takes advantage of that. i'm probably gonna end up telling her, bc everytime we're on the phone she brings up what happened on the bus, and has a bad attitude bc she thinks i let him. but i'm about to tell her different, but she might think i'm just saying that bc she's pissing me off. i'm still not sure what to do, but i feel like i'm getting closer to deciding...i hope. thanks for all the advice everyone.
well, i didn't tell her, but she did break up with him. and they deffinately aren't getting back together. i no longer feel that i have to tell her this bc she's done with him, and chances are, they'll never be together again.
OMG i cant believe there are assholes like this thats taking advantage of girls like that. Gaurdian,I deffinatley would tell her about it and for that fact tell the principle about it thats what hes there for or even more the counselor would help you at school,If this girl was really your friend she would consider your feelings about this matter and not get mad at you.I wish you would tell somone about this so id doesnt happen again,you ladie are gonna have to start sticking up for yourselfs so these types of people are delt with.Seriously my ex went through the same thing with her now ex boyfriend with something similar called spouse abuse....to the extreme it was a year b-4 she told anyone i was the first one to know about it.although i didnt handle the matter the appropiate way needless to say he wont be hurting any other girl in his life.(no i didnt kill him).WE just had a long talk so to speak..but anyway i wouldnt keep quiet about it by no means... hope you can resolve this issue...peace...
