I figured something out ................

Most of my gay friends have had something bad happen in their lifes before coming out, one was raped and then she came out as gay - before she was straight or pretending to be. Is this true with the gay family in hippy forum's?

 

I can't speak for anyone else, but it's certainly not true for me.

 

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Most gay folks were pretending to be straight before they came out and that's traumatic enough. I've never noticed that trauma will push someone out of the closet but it makes sense. I mean, how much misery can you take?

I finally came out, at 18, when my Grandma died; her death sort of masked the grief I was feeling at the time for myself. I say finally, because all my close friends were like: "we always knew," though most people assume I'm straight, even when they meet me in a gay bar.

For me, I would have to agree with you, wiggy.

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That kind of makes sense.

 

I was depressed, wanted to tell a friend so I did. Nothing traumatic though..

 

many people think that rape causes someone to be so turned off by straight sex that they become gay...i could see this as being possible in some instances but i am sure that it doesn't always happen that way...i had a traumatic experience before i came out but at that time i already knew i was gay.

 

I came out as bi to my family when I was fifteen, nothing traumatic had happened I just got really tired of not being open about it, then when I was 17 it was pretty easy to tell them I was lesbian, I think they already knew.

 

yeah, i had a really bad sexual experience and now i just can't stand a number of things. it didnt turn me off straight sex but yeah, i was a lot more open about my sexuality after that cause i kinda needed to affirm to myself, and everyone i guess, not just that i found some sexual things wrong, but i also needed to affirm that i found some sexual things right. and yeah, liking girls was one of those things, it was very empowering.