my sweet little baby girl has the attention span of a fruit fly. i'm hoping it's due to her youth and her priorities, but i'm constantly having people ask me if she's three yet when in fact she's 3-1/2. she talks very well at home, proper grammar and everything, but in class her eyes glaze over if her teacher is talking to her. she likes to wander off and do her own thing. i have to pull her out of her gymnastics class because she's uncontrollable. not in a destructive way, but in a "i'm just gonna go over here and do my own thing" kinda way. i'm pretty sad about that. once i have the baby i can put her in a parent/tot class and walk through the sessions with her, but until she learns the whole process of listening to an adult OTHER than mommy, i'm afraid that's what i'm gonna have to do. anyone have a similar problem with a similar-aged child?
i hope not. but she is in classes with other 3 year olds who are heavily pre-schooled. i don't believe in having my daughter totally in the care of near strangers, that bothers me at this age. but at the same time, she doesn't know all the little tricks and patterns that the teachers use. i'm just not sure what to do. we do our flash cards and reading and playing, but i was never really exposed to all that drone-creation that seems to be so in vogue. it was a little eerie seeing the teacher say (for the first time in my knowledge) "turn on your listening ears" and all 6 kids reached simultaneously for their ears and twiisted them and stared raptly at the teacher. i was like "whoa!" my daughter, however, had no idea what "turn on your listening ears" meant. when i want her to listen, i say her name and look at her. i talk to her. that works. baby talk was never my thing, nor was the whole "preschool cant." i'm just not sure what to do. i guess i'll just do the parent/tot and one on one classes and pray she figures out to listen to the teachers that i take her to.
My daughter is the same way. She does what she wants to do and will bite you if you try to dictate otherwise.
that's pleasant, IG. Think how you would talk to a house full of same-aged kids, KC. I think code phrases with a focusing action (like the ears) would be of some help. Your girl will figure it out as much as she needs.
yeah, i guess so, drumminmama. it's just that i've never had to release my child into the throngs where she had to go along to get along, you know? i've worked hard to raise an independent and unique child, and now i've got trouble with her not blending in enough. *sigh* if it's not one thing, it's another. the only thing is compromise, i know, it's just hard to take that step. the last thing i want is for her to go along with ALL of it, you know?
eek. biting. kai's not quite that bad. she doesn't hit, scratch, bite or anything, she just kinda slides away quietly until her irritated teacher realizes she got away again...
KC, I remember being that way when I was a little kid. My kindergarten teacher absolutely hated me. My first day of class, I wandered to the window and stared out of it. When she noticed she asked me to sit down, and I told her no. Flat out no. I said I was waiting for my mom. I didn't like this very much, and I wanted to go home and read. Needless to say, I was labeled a problem child. Maybe you should see if maybe Kai is just "above" those other children as far as mental capacity. Maybe she's wandering off because the activities and all are just too basic of a level for her.
I know how you feel... my 3 year old is the same way. He has full smart conversations with me but for anyone else... forget it. He counts for me, tells me colors, and random letters, even helps me out with cleaning. If anyone else hears about this and asks him something he just gives them the dumb look and smiles. He is a good kid yet he doesn't give a rats ass about listening to anyone else and most of the time hes not being trouble. Hes just not caring what anyone else has to say... hes very independant. He prefers to play by his self or his brother but Noah is a whole different story... that kids tough. He doesn't let anyone bully him so its not like he does it to stick up for him. Hes just as independant. They are young and I think that they are just expressing their true personalities right now because if you think about it, whos ever told them not to just be themselves? Our society has yet to knock them down. ha, hope that makes sense to to you guys. Plus kids hate performing on command!
well, who say's you cant reason with a 3 year old? oh...that's usually me. anyway, after her teacher was unhappy with her yesterday, i sat with her and explained what went wrong, and what the consequence was (no more in that class). she was devastated, which completely broke my heart. so, anyway, when i was taking her to her dance class i explained to her that she needed to watch her teacher and listen to her teacher. she wasn't to go play by herself. she was the best little student i've ever seen! i was so proud, and i made sure to really lavish on the praise and reassurance. it's such a hard time for her because of the baby coming, and so i spent most of the evening just cuddling her and affirming her, talking to her while looking her in the eye. she'd had enough to learn for one day. so today she was just SO PROUD of herself. i'm still going to go into the parent/tot gym class with her, she's just not meshing with her gym teacher yet. she just doesn't know what that particular teacher is expecting of her. we'll get there. but i'm feeling much better about it all today.
Our daughter has just turned one. This is par for the course for her age. She isn't big enough to hit, it frustrates her she can't throw her big brother out of his chair so she can sit in it.... she has worked out that biting HURTS and our son will run sobbing if she gives him a good chomp. We're trying to stop that in her but she is too young to truly understand. She isn't a mean kid, she just wants her own way.
ah, i see. that makes perfect sense then, i thought perhaps she was older. we just did the time outs with kai and a stern talking to.
Naw, they're both really good kids. It's amusing watching mother and daughter in a power struggle. This foretells adolescence. I will hopefully be dead by then.
man, she's fine...the world is shiney and new and us ol' farts are boring......i can't see nowt wrong with a kidlet gettin' bored and fulfulling her own curiosity, in fact, i'd think i'd be more worried if she didn't
