Love changes...but I am so lost....

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. It started off really rocky...we were constantly arguing and questioning whether we should be together or not. He has family problems..we seem to have different goals, and we have nothing in common...yet we stayed together cause we love each other. Is love enough? Last year we broke up for about 2 weeks and I started to have feelings for someone I work with.(Whether they were/are rational, I am not sure). I almost went out with this guy, but then my boyfriend begged me back...and I took him back.

Things have gotten better.....he has changed alot....but I cannot be happy as hard as I try. My bf has done alot of hurtful things I just can't seem to get over, though. I tell myself that I don't have feelings for this other guy....but can't get him off my mind and get really nervous around him. My boyfriend is a good guy and I love him. But future wise....I don't know where we are headed. I am questioning if its possible to love 2 people at once...or does the other guy seem desirable cause I am unhappy with my boyfriend. I try to tell myself to get another job and get away from this guy...then maybe all my problems will be solved....I am just not sure that will make it better...anyone else ever have this problem?

 

these feelings you are developing for this other person i think are hidden feelings of wanting to get away from your current bf. you need to be alone for awhile, be single and figure out who you are before jumping into another relationship. from another post it look as though you don't live with your bf, which is a good thing...makes it easier to get away from him.

you need to listen to yourself. you are essentially in an abusive relationship. abuse isn't just hitting; it includes emotional abuse and drama, constant arguing, being inconsiderate. if you can't be happy with this person, why stay?

listen, you are very young and there is plenty of time to worry about relationships later. why not be single and try focusing on you for awhile? if you are afraid to be "alone", afraid to be an individual, that's a perfect sign that you NEED to be single. stop putting your life on hold for someone else.

your current bf begged you back and you obliged. that is showing that you have very low self esteem. you do not need to be with anyone right now, ESPECIALLY him. he is not right for you if he doesn't let you shine and be the person you really, truly are.

THERE ARE PLENTY OF GOOD MEN OUT THERE! DON'T SETTLE! and don't think that you have to stay in a relationship. you can leave whenever you want. tell him you want out, and be strong and firm. don't take him back no matter how much he cries and begs. it will be better for him AND you to be apart, obviously. most of your posts are about how unhappy he makes you: face it girl, you need out of this more than anything in the world. you need to take care of you and your life before making future plans with anyone else. get out of that relationship...you'll thank me later.

 

I agree with Sonadar.

 

me too. do yourself and your bf a favour and get out before it gets too serious again. the longer you leave it, the harder it will be.