Hey. I was just wonderin if anybody can help me out with a problem. I just can't seem to give my girlfriend an orgasm. She's never had one before, I'm starting to think she doesn't have a G-Spot, and I try rubbing and licking her clit too but it tickles her. She still pants and screams when I finger her, but she just doesn't orgasm. Any help? Thanks.
I think that the "trick" is to be patient. Sometimes my g/f gets of almost as soon as I start touching or licking her, but sometimes it takes a long time for her to orgasm Perhaps you shouldn't go for her clit imediately (not sure if you do, but if...) I have found out that my g/f likes for me to kiss and touch her vagina in different ways before circling in on the hot-spot (sorry). This way she (and I) gets really turned on and therefore it's easier for her to reach climax when I start focusing on her clitoris. Have you tried asking her if she's able to reach orgasm her own? If so, then perhaps she could tell you (or even better show you) how she does. It's really important to be able to share these things with eachother. Good luck with getting there, I hope that you two will succede, as the womans orgasm is so fantastic to paticipate in.
Make it like a football game man. Make it play by play. You are the coach, your fingers and mouth are the team, and your girl's orgasm is the goal, and she is the cheerleader that knows exactly what's happening. She can scream, moan, talk to you, or more. The key is communication. Try a play with your fingers or mouth, and talk to the "goal" to see what she feels. If it is good for her, don't stop, try to add more. Eventually you will try everything possible until you find something that makes her come like there's no tomorrow. The key is communication and being relentless, but skilled in your offense. Good sex takes practice, too, so if she is comfy with it, see if she can find a way to get herself off. If that works, steal the play and go with it. After you can get her coming, add spice, like foreplay, changing up with different things that work. After you make her come for the first time, the next time tease her by licking from head to toe, then lick her nipples some, nibble the parts of her that you like to touch, like her ass, inner thighs, boobs, anywhere.If she is into rougher things, bite harder or slap her. Also, try slipping a little dirty talk in, it will turn her on after a while even if she thinks she doesn't like it. Tell her right before you start foreplay that you are thinking about something, and when she asks, be as descriptive as you can about how you want to pleasure her. Be as dirty as you can without ruining the moment. If you both are passionate lovemakers, tell her you want to slowly kiss her all over, and tell her all the things you love about her body as you caress every square inch of her smooth beautiful skin. If you both are freaks, scream all the things you want to do to ravage her innocent little body before you fuck her brains out. Got the clue? There is a very naughty little bad girl in every woman that needs to punished. You bring it out by being subtley bad yourself, and then indulge it by making her beg for what she wants. When you have all of her clothes off, wait before touching her pussy with anything. Smell it, take it in, and breathe out softly and warmly on it. She will come to know this means. she is about to get what she wants, and it makes it that much better for her. After you do that, ask what she wants you to do to her, and don't do it til she moans and whines about how bad she wants your fingers and tongue to assault her pussy until she comes harder than she ever has before. Patience and communication are major keys to having good sex, and it is unfortunate for most woman, in my humble opinion, that some guys are even given a chance to fuck them. 99% of women know exactly what they want out of sex, but only 5% of men know how to give it to them. **Ladies who read this: Please dont think that I am schovenist male pig for this post. I love sex as much as the next guy, but I know that good sex is part of a loving relationship, and I don't have sex unless it is a girl I am in love with and that I trust. It is okay to own a gun if you only use it the right way, isn't it?
Okay. To answer a few of your questions, I do not just dive right in to her clit and no she has never given herself an orgasm. We are very com fortable talking to each other and she told me that she just can;t give herself one. Now I got a question. Your telling me to make her cum first. Well when i do finger her or somethin my hand gets coated white and sticks to my hand, and other times it coats my hand but acts like water because it just slides off my hand all over the place. Which are you talking about when you tell me to make her cum first? Thank you for all the pointers and tips. It should really help out a lot.
Maybe this can be of help? www.clitical.com If she never had an orgasm by herself than she's probably still very sensitive 'down there'.. that'll get better over time and you'll notice that she can handle more. I think however, that it's a two way deal here.. she should be doing her 'homework' as well.. how can she guide you into making her orgasm if she can't even do it herself? She has to learn to know her body imho. Have fun with it!
Hey, I have learned something being a Taoist male, you have to make an analogy people can relate to. It works doesn't it? Oh, and to clear things up, "Come" or "Cum" is a polysexual slang word for making someone have an orgasm. Would you rather a girl scream, "Oh! I am coming so hard!" or "Oh! That is such an exquisite feeling! I love it when you make me orgasm!"
keep trying things and being observant of what she likes and learning how to please her, take time and care. Mainly im writing to give you a word of encouragement, My grilfriend had never had an orgasm before she met me and she couldent acheive any pleasure mastubating, for a long time we did stuff and she didnt come, but over time i learned how to make her feel good better and she learned to feel good better. After a while i could make her come, then i could make her come better and more easily, i belive due to both of us learning about her body, not just me, now i can give her a screaming orgasm very easily, just cause i know how to read her and how to touch her and how to talk to her, even the look on your face makes a big diference. And it just keeps getting better. Dont worry if it doesnt seem to improve for a long time, given care, it will slowly but surely get better over time. besides that general advice heres some specific points to remember a woman can be too sensitive to enjoy stuff, often just being more gentle on that area or touchning near it but not on it works wonders What a woman enjoys will change, so dont get stuck on anything getting goal oriented is a bad idea, and often doing what you enjoy and just paying atention to how she reacts will work great, often if you dont think too much, or atleast when i dont, ill do something that i wouldent logically have thought would do much just on an urge and shell love it. A good way to build up her sensitivity to pleasure before her first orgasm is to lightly brush your fingers over sensitive parts of her body, the curve at the top of her butt, the sides of her tummy, her arms, the curve of her breast. once youve got something as normal to touch as her skin feeling pleasure, the parts normally considered erogonous zones will feel good to touch. Basically i dont think any part of the body is prone to pleasure or pain, their just more or less sensitive, and you have to warm them up for pleasure, or their sensitivity will just make them hurt when touched. But try the skin touching thing, once her skins nerves have turned on to feel good at every touch, imagine how good it will feel to her when you touch that very sesitive pussy when its all ready to feel good.
hey.. normal fluid can be runny, thick, transparent, white even a little brownish or redish nearby menstruation.. this is all perfectly normal. If she would have a vaginal infection she would notice by the itch/pain and the surrounding of her vagina would be red a swolen.. all imho
