i feel like i'm never going to find love. and i want it so bad it hurts. everytime i think it's starting to happen, something fucked up happens and suddenly i don't have what i thought i had, anymore. i feel so alone in this world. sorry if that sounds cliche. but i just feel like no one's ever gunna want me for the person i am. and the people that do, or seem to, it isn't enough to make them stay. i just....ugh, i don't even know anymore... all these feelings inside of me are always going on, and they're always the same. and i want to find someone to turn the negative into positive, before something really bad happens... (just so you know, if you're responding just to make fun of me, then don't waste your time, please...i don't care about your pathetic attempts to make me feel worse than i already do.)
I now how you feel... I used to feel like that as well, but trust me when I say, thet there is someone special out there for you. I to thought that I would never experience love, but suddenly I met this fantastic girl (she came out of nowhere almost). I had decided to stop looking for "miss right", and then she suddenly appeared. I suggest that you just hang out with friends and then see what happens. I trust that you have been looking for that Special person.., if so then just keep on trying and don't forget to be yourself. I'm positive that the most important thing about finding a b/f or g/f is to be self secure and to rest in yourself. If you love yourself and believe in yourself (not trying to go New Age on you or anything) then there's a better chance that the other sex will find you attractive. I really hope that you'll find someone to love and who loves you back, soon. Keep us informed
I think that almost everyone sometimes in their lives feel this way at some point. If you look to hard, you wont find what you need. Maybe if you stop looking so hard and such, what you are looking for will fall right into your lap. As you can tell, I am not that great with advice, if you can even call my jiberish advice. But trust me you will find someone whom is your side kick and your partner in crime. All you need is to not worry about it so much and just be you and thats all you need to do. And if someone doesnt like you for you, well, then that person wasnt worth a damn in the first place... Good luck
I can completely relate to what you have said. Craving love gurts so much because you know you're ready for it and willing to love someone, but as soon as you see a chance, you try to hang on to it, whilst it just slips away...that's happened many times in my life and as a consequence of that I lost all interest in having a relationship with someone and giving myself 100%. And this is affecting my current relationship; I've met my soul mate, my best friend and lover. He's given me back all that I lost in the past. But even so I cant stop thinking that it may end eventually and i'll feel hurt. I'm not enjoying my relationship with this wonderfull guy because of idiots that hurt me in the past. But now I realise life is too short to waste. Love WILL come to you when you least expect it like it happened to me. Believe, good things come to those who wait. I can testify for that.
I know how you feel i was like that too but my problem was i would settle for anything and finally one day i realized that i dont desever that i can do better just think postive one day that right woman will come and you will be so happy that day will come belive me just be patien sorry you are going though this i hope your true love will come one day soon
Another thing is it takes me a long time to get to be open to some people... it's difficult... and I always feel it has to do with that bad boy/nice guy type of thing...
If you think no-one will love you for who you are, you can make a choice: which is more important between being yourself and being loved?
Lots of people have told you to stop looking for love and it will happen, that's been my experience, but more specifically --- When I've stopped looking for OTHER PEOPLE'S love and found out where my love for myself is, THEN is when I've found the BEST love from others. It all sounds kind of trite and cliche I'm sure - but I think it's one of life's little truth's that we sometimes have to experience more than once to get the full meaning out of it, you know? I'm going through that right now, I loved someone enough to get married to him --- only to find out later that he was incredibly deceitful and sometimes outright malicious --- when he told me that he wanted to get divorced I spent some time really thinking that I'd once again, proven that I wasn't lovable enough as myself to be worth someone else's love. The thing is, I am --- I'm worth loving, and I deserve having someone special love me just for who I am. I might not get it right when I think it ought to come along, but it will come along right when it ought to happen for me. Girly, I hope you feel better soon. Spend a little time doing stuff to figure out what you LOVE about yourself --- If you want to lay on the couch all day in your underwear eating chocolate and watching chick movies or if you want to create something or taking a bubble bath instead of a shower... WHATEVER it is just do some stuff for you! A friend of mine recently told me "Right now, the person who needs your compassion, comfort and love the most is YOU... it's okay to be selfish when you need love." It sounds like you're kind of in the same place, where you need to be okay with being a little selfish and giving yourself some love. I hope you feel better and if you wanna talk it out with a listening ear, I'm online quite a bit, feel free to pm, im or email me... Gina
I'll love you long and hard... But on a more (or equally) serious note, there is someone for everyone. Oh and I am a firm believer in "what you think of yourself is what others see of you." If you don't think you are good enough to be loved, then those people who you may be interested will see that you aren't good enough to be loved. Of course, if you find a kind mamma (which of course are the best) then that wouldn't apply. ...but I'll relieve of of my rambling now. Peace and love Oh, and Ginad1026, InBloom is a guy. Just for furture reference.
Okay --- I'm officially the turd in the punch bowl. Bloom --- Can you ever forgive me for being such a twit? Everything I said (minus the chick flick thing... and any other reference to your being a girl) still goes... Dear god, can I please crawl under a rock and hide now? I'm sorry for my idiocy. Gina.
The advice aside, could you please, please try to punctuate your posts?! This is murder on the brain to try to read! Didn't your teachers cover periods, commas, question marks, etc.?? Not trying to be mean, but surely you know this stuff? Are you just typing lazy? Come on, do it like you have some pride in it! -Jeffrey
Not only should you stop looking for love, but you should fight it tooth and nail. I fought love like it was a war, and ended up having a wonderful 4 year relationship, and I am gay. In case you don't know, 4 gay relationship years equals about 28 straight relationship years. It is sorta like dogs...
I guess if you fight it you're more likely to find someone who REALLY loves you. Or you'll get raped, one of the two.
but to put a different spin on that statement.... Consider that each 3 million encapsulates old persons, tiny newborns, people of different sexual orientations, politicians (who would want them!), people in comas, mentally handicapped persons, nuns/priests.... wow, makes you want to think differently about that "there's someone for everyone" statement hehehe Holly (somewhere out there, InBloom's future wife was just born )
