Getting to Knoooow Youuu

Discussion in 'The Whiners' started by Bocks, Nov 5, 2005.

  1. Bocks

    Bocks Senior Member

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    Getting to know people can really suck! First, you have to approach them in such a way that suggests that you want to get to know them, but which makes clear you're not a stalker. Then, if you get that far, you have to engage in conversation that is very deliberately interesting. If you screw up at the stage, that's it: it's over. If you manage to get this far, there's a slight chance that you might have better conversations later. Otherwise, there are awkward silences and moments of "eurghhhh...what do I say next?!", or perhaps dead-ended conversations involving having everything you say contradicted. ARGH. Do you find this?
     
  2. Ocean Byrd

    Ocean Byrd Artificial Energy

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    I'm a tgirl, so... it's a lot more interesting for me. >_>
     
  3. Hannah32

    Hannah32 Member

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    yes i completely agree (unless im drunk) i find it impossible to talk to people i dont know so i never meet anyone new lol unless its through someone else, and i think i come across quite wierd so i dont get to know them anyway. i also think no1 is going to like me anyway wich is anoying
     
  4. _chris_

    _chris_ Marxist

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    im super atractive, so people talk to me :D
     
  5. all_rhodesian_reject

    all_rhodesian_reject Sonskyn Elvis

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    hahaha
     
  6. sitareric

    sitareric Banned

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    I dont think its THAT dramatically bad to talk to people... just be yourself with no limitations... and if the people are really good people they wont judge you, as long as your being yourself
     
  7. Edward G.

    Edward G. Edwardson

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    what is that from? :eek: the getting to know you :D
     
  8. surfn hippie

    surfn hippie Member

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    i agree too
     
  9. stinkfoot

    stinkfoot truth

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  10. or you can just metabolize information that is dropped....


    if they ask if you are a stalker or something just inform them of the public places they dropped the information......



    the parlour trick of virtually perfect memory for static data has a fair success rate.....
     
  11. soulrebel51

    soulrebel51 i's a folkie.

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    when i started going to my new school, i made it a rule to not talk to anyone. :D. over time, as i slowly broke that rule, i found maybe 5 or 6 people that i liked and were sort of like me... but ive yet to find anyone thats anywhere near as anti-social as i am. :H

    i think i like waiting for people to talk to me first more than the other way around.. unless im awful interested in a person, i'll never make the first move.


    my how i've changed :rolleyes:
     
  12. Bocks

    Bocks Senior Member

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    Getting to Know You is a song.
     
  13. rhasta.penguin

    rhasta.penguin No more hippy...ugh

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    thats how i made friends...dont talk :D
     
  14. Bocks

    Bocks Senior Member

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    Hah, well that's one way to go about it. I've found lately that the people who are antisocial and don't talk are usually the the most interesting.
     
  15. Lodui

    Lodui One Man Orgy

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    I find it's best to look like a stalker. It'll let 'em know you care. :X
     
  16. Edward G.

    Edward G. Edwardson

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    i know it's a song :D isn't it from a musical? :confused:
     
  17. Moon Water

    Moon Water Rena

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    it can be hard for me as well. if i comfortable though i just try and be silly and make jokes and it works. Kinda helps them calm down as well.

    I do remember my old neighbor though. He was always hitting on me and man was that uncomforable. How can you try and talk to someone when they look at you like that ALL the time.
     
  18. AshtonsMom

    AshtonsMom Banned

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    I know EXACTLY how you feel...the awkardness...and you feel like if you bomb out, then you'll bomb out trying to get to know someone else...and thinking that way, you are more likely to do so. It's tough. I know. I'm having to start from scratch right now, and introduce myself to alot of people. And to top it off, I'm shy in person. But hey, for practice?: Hi everyone, my name is Heather; sometimes I am a bit misunderstood, but I mean well. I tend to be clumsy and awkward with words when actually speaking, but can write poetry like it's going out of style. lol
     
  19. Moon Water

    Moon Water Rena

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    look we have two Heathers now :)
     
  20. spooner

    spooner is done.

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    Don't see the problem; it's not like there are some huge negative consequences lurking in the background. If you aren't compatible, its not like you really ever have to talk to them again.
     

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