He's got it, shouldn't HE take care of it?

Discussion in 'Sexual Health' started by blackbird singing, Nov 8, 2005.

  1. blackbird singing

    blackbird singing Member

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    My new, amorous fling had told me LONG before we were sleeping together that he HAD an STD. He implied that it was gone and I thought no more about it really. That is until the other day when I had to visit my doctor and have a little swab taken. I understand it is both our responsibility to play safe, it was a naivety on my part. But shouldn't he be aware of his condition and just slip on a rubber? Is this my fault because I was-before sex was an issue- informed?
     
  2. xthevalkyriex

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    What STD? Bacterial STDs are indeed curable-viral ones, while they can be treated, will remain in your system forever.
     
  3. dangermoose

    dangermoose Is a daddy

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    yes its mostdeffinately his responsibility. if he knowingly slept with while he had an std and you were under the false pretense that he didnt have an std because of what he said, he can be charged, and prolly sued...it may not be worth it if its the curable kind
     
  4. blackbird singing

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    It's called BPV, or Papiloma (sp?) I never heard of it before. I read a little aboout it after the fact. We are still in arrears about whether or not he was irresponsible (I don't care to argue that, since it's pointless, but he loves to poke a dead horse!) I think it's totally fair that I get angry with him, I wouldn't sue or anything. I'm still young and horney and attracted to him but once that thought of BPV comes to mind I want to punch him in the mouth! Could anyone trust a person who did this to them- intentional or not- ever again?
     
  5. HippyLove

    HippyLove Visitor

    its HPV human papilova virus.... and be careful with that... i almost had cervical cancer from it.
     
  6. HippyLove

    HippyLove Visitor

    If I test positive for HPV, when did I get it?
    It is not possible to know when a person got HPV or who gave it to them. HPV may be found soon after sex or not until many years later. Most men and women do not know they have it. Condoms do not always protect from HPV. This virus is so common that having only one life sex partner in your lifetime does not mean you won’t get it. For these reasons, you should not blame your partner if you have HPV.
    http://www.cancer.org/docroot/NWS/content/NWS_2_1x_What_Women_Should_Know_about_HPV_and
     
  7. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    The microbes don't care whose fault it is.
     
  8. RetroGroove_Grrl

    RetroGroove_Grrl I'm a big girl now

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    Well babe, thats genital warts for you.

    You've got it for life now, it aint going away, and you will have to tell all of your partners from here on in.
     
  9. Meeshka Chaukinov

    Meeshka Chaukinov Senior Member

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    perhaps, just perhaps, she has something less common that HPV that actually is called BPV. No clue what it could be, but just a chance.
     
  10. hippypaul

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    What does BPV stand for?
    Your search returned 10 meanings (Science and Medicine meaning(s) listed first)

    Acronym Meaning
    BPV Back Pressure Valve (oil and gas industry)
    BPV Benign Positional Vertigo
    BPV Bipolar Violation
    BPV Bovine Papilloma Virus
    BPV Bullet Proof Vest
    BPV Bupivacaine
    BPV Banca Popolare di Verona (Italian Bank)
    BPV Battle Planning and Visualization
    BPV Bullet Piercing Valve (ice maker installation)
    BPV Bundesamt für Privat Versicherungen (Bern, Switzerland)
     
  11. Unbreakable_T

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    sorry, had to laugh at that "Bovine Papilloma Virus"

    but seriously, if you get told that your partner has had an STD before, find out what it was. "umm, I had herpes ages ago, but it went away" could be the response
     
  12. HippyLove

    HippyLove Visitor

    " thats genital warts for you."
    not necessarily true. I had NO symptoms or anything. The only reason I found out is when I got pregnant and had tests done.
     
  13. blackbird singing

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    Good News! I am free and clear of what MIGHT have been HPV(not BPV). I feel so relieved but I am still wary of the boy who put me in this sitch in the first place.
     
  14. RetroGroove_Grrl

    RetroGroove_Grrl I'm a big girl now

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    you thought you had it but you dont, or it went away?
     
  15. hotspot7806

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    Take this opportunity, now that you know you are clean, to take care of your sexual health. Find out what your partner has/had so you can be educated on the disease, its symptoms and its ease of communicability - can you prevent the spread by using a condom? You must be safe - it seems that you were obviously concerned about what your careless behavior may have caused you to contract. Take the time to talk to your partner before engaging in dangerous behavior again.
     
  16. blackbird singing

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    News to anyone who reads this thread, a certified and trustworthy, educated Doctor told me that HPV can be contacted anytime, even when a condom is used! He tells me short of wrapping you both in saran head to toe, HPV can find it's way in. Kinda freaky but what can you do but play safe right?
    Thanks for all the advice!
     
  17. hippypaul

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    From Wikipedia - go and give them money at once

    human papillomavirus



    Human papillomavirus
    Virus classification
    Group: Group I (dsDNA)
    Family: Papillomaviridae
    Genus: Papillomavirus
    Species: Human papillomavirus




    Human papillomavirus (HPV) is a virus which affects humans. Some of its effects are classed as sexually transmitted disease (STD).

    Scientists have identified more than 100 types of HPV, most of which are harmless. Some types can produce common skin warts on the hands and feet. About 30 types are spread through sexual contact, of which some types can cause visible genital warts, while others can cause cervical cancer and other genital cancers.

    HPV is by far the most common sexually-transmitted infection. It is estimated that 80% of sexually active adults have been infected with one or more genital HPV types at some time.[1] (http://www.hpv.org.nz/pdf/hpvguidelines2004.pdf) The vast majority of infected people suffer no ill-effects and never even know that they have been infected, but yet are able to infect others. The immune system typically clears the virus from the body within a year, after which the person will be immune to that particular HPV type.[2] (http://www2.niaid.nih.gov/Newsroom/Releases/hpv.htm)

    HPV is an almost unavoidable, and invisible consequence of sexual activity, and for this reason many countries recommend women have a regular pap smear from the time of first sexual activity, to ensure early detection of cervical cancer.


    Prevention
    The American Cancer Society advises that condoms do not protect against HPV. Viral sites may be distributed widely over the pelvic area, and transmission can occur even if there are no visible symptoms. The only effective way to prevent genital HPV infection is to abstain from any sexual activity. Risk factors linked to acquiring HPV include: sex at an early age, and having many sexual partners.


    Effects

    Common skin warts
    Some types of HPV (e.g. HPV 1) cause common skin warts, such as those found on the hands and soles of the feet (plantar wart). These types of HPV do not cause genital warts.


    Genital warts
    Genital warts (condylomata acuminata or venereal warts) are the most easily recognised sign of genital HPV infection. However, of the 30 types of genital HPV, only two cause visible warts (HPV 6, 11). Many people acquire these viruses but never develop warts.

    It is important to note that the types of HPV that cause genital warts are NOT the same types that cause cervical cancer.


    Cancer
    Some types of HPV (HPV 16,18,31) can cause cervical cancer, anal cancer, head and neck cancers, and cancer of the penis (a rare cancer). These viruses have also been associated with cancers of the head and neck. These tumours often have HPV viral sequences integrated into the cellular DNA. Some of the genes encoded by these viruses are known to act as oncogenes. The viral E6 protein binds to and degrades the cellular protein p53 while the viral E7 protein interferes with the retinoblastoma protein.

    A history of HPV infection is believed to be a pre-requisite for a woman to develop cervical cancer. According to the American Cancer Society, women with no history of human papillomavirus (HPV) do not develop cervical cancer. However, most HPV infections do not progress to cervical cancer. If a woman does have abnormal cervical cells, a Pap smear will detect them. It is particularly important for women who have abnormal cervical cells to undergo colposcopy so that precancerous and cancerous lesions can be detected and treated early, if necessary.

    HPV types 30 and 40 cause laryngeal carcinoma (a throat cancer).


    Research
    Currently, in Great Britain a vaccination study is under way. It is targeting the four virus strains that are most often responsible for cervical cancer and for abnormal smear test results. In prior trials, the Gardasil vaccine reduced HPV infections by about 90% and pre-cancerous cells were totally eliminated. It is hoped that the vaccine can be released for medical use in two years.[3] (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4421823.stm)


    External links
    American Social Health Association (http://www.ashastd.org)
    National Cancer Institute (http://cancernet.nci.nih.gov)
     
  18. maybejusthappy

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    To get rid of it, your immune system has to be at its best. That's the only way, and it takes a while even then. I guarantee you aren't clean yet, even if you show no symptoms.
     
  19. Weeble

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    I recently went into the doctors for a pap. I was told when I was 14 that I had HPV (type 18... causes irregular pap smear and may cause cervical cancer.. I was a virgin) by a different doctor then my current one.

    I started asking my current doctor questions about it and she said she'd keep in mind when the results came back. After the results came back she called me back and told me that I didn't even have HPV and that chances are the reason the doctor told me this is because of the irregular pap smear (which can be caused by hormones changing during puberty) and technology wasn't as great 9 years ago as it is today. She also told me that if I had really had that type of HPV then I would have been schedualed for a biopsy (which at the time my doctor mentioned was a possibility but never schedualed me) and that the doctor was embarassed for wrongly diagnosing a 14 year old virgin so never owned up to her mistake. For the last 9 years I've thought I'd been living with an STD.

    I can identify with being freaked out.. and I was a virgin with an STD (or so I thought). Good luck.
     

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