Need serious advice...

this type of desperation is what drives MANY women AWAY! she love it though. who knows. just quit lying, be all sweet. get her some flowers. learn to listen more. but don't get too clingy. if it's too EASY then most girls lose interest.

 

My $.02:

Dude, you're 15 years old.
Sooooo many girls will come along after her, trust me.
In a month you'll be "in love" with someone else.
Don't fight against her parents.
The best way to win over her parents, or the parents of ANY girl is thus:
Study like a fiend, get straight A's.
In addition, get a part time job and work real hard.
So there you are, a smart guy and a hard worker--what parent wouldn't want someone like that for their little girl?

 

ok man he already has his girl its just her parents he needs to comfront...i already told him this but just give the letter to ur gf...be like if you love me u will give this to your mom(deff. not dad ) and if she doesn't then it's not worth fighting for her...if she doesn;t wanna try to actually TRY to be you then its no use in trying to love some1 with them not trying to love u back. but its all up to u...good luck.

 

I'm gunna straight up give you some advice.... take it or leave it.

So, her parents don't like you. You can a) keep going over to her house without any permission and probably get caught once more. You can b) try and win over her parents. Or you can c) break up with her.

I would HIGHLY suggest not doing A. I'm serious. I did that once, and I finally just got caught up in all my lies. But, if you guys think you can keep all the lies straight and not get caught anymore, by all means do it.

I doubt you really want to do C, because you love her. I'm not going to say "Oh you are 15 years old, love will come along once again! It's fine!" because I am close-ish to your age, and I am in love... So I know it's possible. I understand how sad you'll be if you break up with her. But if you HAVE to do it to stay out of trouble, to keep your reputation clean... do it. But you probably won't.

Lastly, there is B. Personally, I think B is the best choice for you situation. Is there any reason besides you going out with her best friend for her parents not to like you? Do they know you chief? Do you dress like you chief, all tye-dyed out and dreadlocks flying around your head? If her parents don't condone smoking what-so-ever, don't give them a reason to think you smoke pot, ya know? Don't show up to their house high (they WILL know... parents aren't that stupid!), wear nice clothes, shower, be clean-cut, all that good stuff. DO NOT GIVE HER PARENTS A REASON TO NOT LIKE YOU. And give her parents the letter, in person. Her parents will think you are mature and responsible if you acknowlege that you both fucked up. So in the letter, apologize, if you didn't already. Tell Sabrina (that IS her name, right?) to apologize. If you really love this girl, you WILL do anything to have her, right?

Sorry this is so long.... but I'm kinda stoned, and I went through the same thing with MY boyfriend, except it was MY parents that didn't like him.

Good luck.

 

Im sick of this "your 15, you dont know how to love" bullshit. 15 is a number, doesnt really mean anything unless you act it. Now if you read closley, you would see I wasnt the one lying, so rule that shit out. And, im not fighting against her parents... who the fuck told you that? And, on top of that, I DO have all A's and B's in school... So your piece of advice, rangerdanger, helps no one and is as usefull as a beer in a rehab center...

for an update, she said she wants to stay with me, so everything is cleared up accept the fact I got to get her parents on the same page... thanks for all the advice that actually helped, and not the bullshit ones. Have a good one... =)

 

Yippie, good for you. Dont cry too much or threaten suicide when you break up in about three months though. "Oh Sabrina, I cant live without you." Bullshit posts my ass, you mean the posts stating the truth? Rangerdanger is completely right, the dudes at least in his early fifties so he may know what he's talking about. Stop kidding yourself, you know damn well this isnt going to last any more than a year, if not a few months due to the situation with her parents. If you get her parents on your side then fine go out with her, if you dont then save yourself alot of problems and dont.

 

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. No need to be so cynical.

SirTokesALot (what's your name, by the way?), I'm glad you got her back. I was gonna say, if she'll break up with you over this, she's not worth it. But I'd go and listen to peacelovebarefeet and give the parents the letter in person.

 

Sorry about the double post, but I wanted to add that the people in Love & Sex annoy me sometimes too. Hehe.

 

Blind Mellon... i really had no problem with you up until now..

You people seem to think that every relationship is the same... ya go out for awhile and then its a bomb... and yeah I admit that happens 98% of the time. Me knowing this, you would theologicly have to think then why would he even bother trying to keep her so bad and want despirate help from people on a forum. Ill tell you why... because like I said... this has never happend to me before... Ive NEVER felt so strongly for someone as I do with her. And yeah I used to be the same dickhead as you were telling people the same shit before I met her, and its changed me views on what "love" is forever.

Now... until YOU find that special someone your small dick componsations worth of posts have no meaning to me what so ever so save it

EDIT: And yes, I do realize your just giving your advice/opinion, but im tellin you, it helps none what so ever when your so fucking narrowminded in your posts...

 

dont let him bother u, bro. he's obviously been hurt in the past and his negativity is a mechanism. trust me, i know lol.

 

my advice is that you talk to the parents. shed prolly not want to leave you too if you could convince her dad to stop not liking you. at the same time, if it happens, it happens. 15 year olds actually do have something different to everyone older and thats experience. love at that age is really great, but after it comes and goes a few times, you see its not the end of the world. but i think you should stop being desperate whenever talking to her at least. as someone said it ould just driver her off
smoke some weed too

 

Lol i got that last part covered brotha =) Thanks for the advice

 

Actually I have a vagina and have been looking for a big burly man to satisfy my needs for the past three years.

 

No, my negativity comes from being realistic. Sorry.

 

it is really hard to say wut you can do dude. some parents are down right insane when it comes to their kids. DAUGHTERS ESPECIALLY (i think we can all agree on this one) no one i mean no one wants their little girl to get hurt. but some parents take it to an extreme. my only advice is to kiss as much ass as possible. even if her parents know that your kissing a crazy amount of ass. this will make her parents see that you really are trying your hardest and really do have the best intentions. try telling her dad that if he ever needs help with the yard work such as mowing the grass and that sort of thing, your there and youll be happy to do it free of charge. make him try and think of you as a son but dont try and get too much into deep conversation cuz its the dad that will make the bad assumptions about the things you say. then with her mom try and open up to her and tell her mom how you really feel cuz once you get through to the mom you will soon get through to the dad. try and watch wut you say and wut you do but most importantly do wut ever her parents tell you to do even if its STAY AWAY FOR MY DAUGHTER!!!! but keep trying to improve your relationship with them. this could be hard but hey you love her dont you!!

 

I hope you relize no matter what advice you recieve, you can take it or leave it. Don't worry what others think. Since who are they to judge? It is your right as human to feel loved and love. Maybe the answer's already there, you are just scared of the end result. That's what life is for...living. Your very sincere about loving her, so why don't you get stoned, consider the confronting her parents, hanging out at your place, or taking her on a weekend date. Then list every possible outcome to each situation. If the best solution doesn't work, (work on it), or try another. P.S. Let us know!