gotta problem n im not sure what to do...

I've been bullied all my life since i was in gr4 n it got pretty harsh in gr8 n 9 where i had like my whole grade n guys i didnt even know in the one ahead of me picking on me cause i was diffrent. then i switched schools n it didnt do much good but this summer i went out to squamish n whistler n in a way centerd myself n found who i was n now im starting homeschooling n i had a few friends that are only friends cause we've known each other for ever n there not the est of friends there always gossiping about eachother n hate my opinion cause its diffrent from thiers but we've just always been friends cause theres really no other group for me to go to. but this weekend was my best friends birthday nwell her mom hates me n starts rumors through the moms n well she told my friends not to invite me to my bestfriends suprise party. n they didnt say anything agianst it they didnt stick up for me or anything n they called n invited everyone n told them all to promise not to tell me n its pretty low no1 stuck up for me or said anything agianst it. am i wrong to be mad or hurt by this? i need some advise. they think im wrong to be mad they just say sorry as if nothing ever happend n then go n gossip about me to everyone...i need some advise i dunno what to do...adults arent supposed to bully teens there supposed to know better yet they get away with it n no1 listens to teens if they say anything agianst it.

 

I would say that
A. the mom you refer to does not qualify as an adult
B. you need a new set of friends (which I know is hard as hell to find)
Best advice I know to make friends (good ones) is to go places that YOU want to be and then talk to other people who are there. Being a super nerd at your age, the library always worked well for me (Grin)

Good luck

 

dont let it go to your head...your better than that.....I sometimes hear little rumors here and there about me,but i try to ignore them......why spent your time been mad when you could be happy.

 

ask yourself if friends who don't stick up for one another and gossip about each other are really friends at all?

try and find people who arent stuck up. pick up an interest and find others who are into it as well and those friends will come naturally.

 

they make me feel like im the one whos being low cuz im hurt n mad cuz how could you be that low n then still expect it to be forgotten with a tiny sorry...

 

they are losers and from what it sound like they are hurting you rather than being any good for you. Ditch them.
If you want real friends it will take time. There are not just people all over the place. Try taking a writing class, or something that intrests you. You might meet people there who are like you and have something in common with.
Dont let these jurks put you down like that. IT might sound harsh but it is true. If they dont stand up for you and care about your feelings , they not friends.

 

I think we all have had a time when we had no friends or were lonely...situations change...When I was a kid from the time i was born until 6h grade I was consantly picked on and left out. I was the kid who got made fun of cause i was fat because my mom would take me to mcdonalds every day instead of something wholesome. I was teh one left out of kickball and shunned and talked about and called stupid every day. I ould come home crying to be ignored and told to be tough. I remember one day I was crying and my dad said WHATS WRONG? And my mom said that i was hurt by the kids at school. He asked what they did and i told him all the things he said...The he started yelling and said "they didnt hurt you. They just made fun of you! WHEN I WAS IN THE ARMY MY DRILL INSTRUCTORS WERENT NICE TO ME!" Then he pinched me and told me that that hurts............So when sixth grade rolled around As would be expected I was VERY angry and resentful to the world and anyone hwo looked at me wrong would get beat up because although i was still the big shunned kid, i had so much anger in me that it didnt matter. I would just hurt them. That and drugs continued through until i was 15. That is when I became popular and didnt have to beat people up and i made my money selling dope. friends, money, drugs, sex. I thought that i had it made. parties all the time. walking around knwoing that i was the man and that those people who had hurt me in my past would be bowing down to me at that moment. And then i stopped selling dope, went straight and lost all of my friends once again......I know i just wrote you a book (and that is the short version) but here is my point. What I learned from that is that people will always let you down. Its is healthy to have friends and very enjoable, but not if they are bringing you down or making life difficult. Words DO hurt, but they make you stronger. When you think you are completely broken, you get back up again only this time you are stronger. THE MOST important thing I learned from that si how NOT to treat other people. The golden rule is really true. No matter hwo cruel someone is to you, love them and it willc ome back to you, maybe not immediately and maybe not from that person, but as long as you constantly show love and make compassion a part of your life you will never be lonely. I can already see that the older you get, the stronger you will be. Dont let life get you down. It is a roller coaster ride. and as my friend joe dirt would say...Lifes a garden, dig it.....and just so you know that things get better......I have some of the best friends in the world now and am very happy. much love, peace.

 

i guess the only thing there is too do is just let go n move on with or without them..

 

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gotta problem n im not sure what to do...

Picking on you because you're different?

Hate your opinions because they're different from theirs?

What does all that mean?

In what ways are you different?

What kind of different opinions are you talking about?

Remember, your friends didn't create this cold competitive world where every relationship and every experience is objectified.

They were tossed into this dog-eat-dog-pit by their parents, who likewise had been tossed in just like you'll end up doing to yours.

 

hey ya-- i just wanted to say that you should really take brandon's advice to heart. his story is quite similer to mine. i won't give you all the icky details but basically when i needed my "friends" the most, they all walked out on me. i was a few years older than you @ the time, and i had to decide if i should go crawling back to them and apologize for needing a shoulder to lean on or cut my losses. I picked the second option because I realized that my feelings did matter. It took some time and some major soul searching but i learned that I was better off w/o them. And in time i met the friends that i have today, who don't hurt me and value me for being me. People who hurt you are NOT your friends. I know that this seems really hard now. ( believe me I do) but a few short years from now you'll look back on this situation and wonder what the big deal was. I know that everyone says that but it really is true- take it from me. I hope this helps.
~christina

 

i can tell you i had the same probs in school, always had assholes sucker punch me or jump me..never once a fir fight, always 2-3 or more & i got picked on constantly, & it was really rough..but thats high school for ya..i found that after i got out of there & got real life started, i ended up ith tons & tons of good freinds..& as far as i know every 1 of those idiots are still trapped in theyre pathetic lives
your better then them, & thats why they mess with you.. they want to push you down to feel like theyre more powerful then you..its sad but true.. rise above it & leave em in the dirt..your destined for a far more interesting life then they are capable of even conceiving of
and also remember you have freinds here who are more like you..you dont need to hang onto losers who put you down or hold you back
hugs

 

I don't know what to say, I feel for you though and you know you have a place to be heard and understood here. Some people will never understand, and the more and more you live, as GC says, the more you learn how fucked up things really are. But, Everything happens for a reason, and it will continue to happen until you finally learn from it. We all go through rough journeys here on this Earth, if there is any comfort or gratitude to be found in that.
Wishing you well.

 

I know how you feel as im often times shunned on by people but moreso outside of school than in.

For an example I was walking around town one night with my bro and we just were chilling in the grass when these adults(in their twenties) came up and hit me right where it hurts then they went back to there place across from where we were sitting.After about three minutes had passed they yelled across at us to get off the grass which I refused as they didn't even own that property when they decided to whip a lawn chair at me then told us to leave before they kicked are asses.Well we decided the bad vibes were getting to us so we just peacefully got up and walked off only to see them around town later that night at which time they then tried to tell us to get the fuck outta their sight when we were just walking towards the park on a public sidewalk!

It seemed these people figured since they were older we should bow down and conform to them but thats just the kinda shit society fucks peoples heads up with,everyone should be treated as equals but unfortunatly in todays society everyones brainwashed into thinking somebodys always so much more fucking rightous than somebody else.

My advice would be if there treating you like that and they think their shit don't stink your best bet would be to go a different path as im sure youll find the road worth travelling along and it will all work out in the end aslong as you stick to your ideals and keep an open mind.

 

All I have to say is that dont be friends with people who you cant be yourself around.....Ive made that mistake....just go on with your life and eventually you will find people who appreciate who you are...the real you.
~Faery

 

Are you a fucking small guy or something? The day somebody came up and "hit me right where it hurt" is the day I fucking put them in the hospital.

 

still got one unpunched eye, right? offer that one too to that bad ass asshole.

 

Same problem here... I eventually went to college for a while, found that I simply cannot handle being around people, as much as I'd like to, and dropped out. My life is quite the mess, but for lots of reasons.
If I lived nearby, I'd be your friend, but I happen to be at the other end of Canada... I did hitchhike through Mission this summer though, which was sort of nice. Ended up walking all the way there from Agassez...my legs didn't recover for two weeks.
Um... so yeah. Good luck with your life. Hugs!

 

I feel for you, man. Try making friends with some adults--they always seem much more accepting then my peers, for me. And if you find the right ones and treat them the right way they will treat you as equals, even though they are your elders. Besides, they're smarter. Don't hang on to those who will drag you down.

 

sometimes I think is better to be alone that to have friends that you don't like a lot