To not dwell on what hurts right now. Let the pain ease a little. Cry if you need to, scream if it helps. Do something like write or read... anything to get your mind to ease up. Hun, if your having a bad day you can message me. I know how your feeling. I've been there one too many times.
andcrs2 and earthmama are both right..... time will heal it, but meanwhile try not to dwell on it. tears help. writing really helped me. I love writing poetry and songs and that is when i wrote the most i think, when i was healing from my broken heart. I know it is hard, but things will get better. we all love you here.
Concentrate on your personal truths. Think about deep and philosophical questions to explore the way your mind works and find out more about yourself ... concentrate on just being yourself, and take up some hobbies that you like. Acceptance of how things are helps a ton. Once you're over that part, it's all just about occupying your mind and moving on.
sorry to hear hon.. Im going to have to agree on what the other posters say... When I am really down or feel as though my heart is broken, I do cry (yes to others, I can cry) its like a release and it does make you feel better.. Get out and have fun, (i know its really hard to do when you are sad) but it does take your mind of things...But the important thing is to always keep your chin up and never feel down on yourself.. (i dont know if that made sense) Also what others said, talking about it also helps as well.... Hope things get better and you feel better as well...
Pain and rejection are part of life. If it were not for them, it would make joy and happiness less valuable. I am not gonna give you a load of sloppy bollocks, like some of the other pussies. Instead, what i say to you is this. You feeling bad? Try walking about and noticing some poor cripple, all twisted and bent on some street corner. Have a visit to a hospital's child leukemia ward. Your pain is but one drop of warm rain to their raging storm of misfortune. Perspective.
Whenever I've been there, all I wanted to do was stop thinking about it, and that seemed basically impossible. I got real, real tired of crying. I got real tired of writing about it. I got real tired and couldn't sleep. So I drank, and everything got worse. Then my friends started coming over and getting me outside, go on long walks, playing disc golf, things to get the blood running and to force concentration on something else. That's what started the slow upward progression. Every day was better from then on.
Surround yourself with lots and lots of friends. Do things to take your mind off of it. Go shopping, get involved with some charity work, or something so you aren't alone at home all the time. Ya never know, you might find someone else when you are out doing something. My thoughts are with you, thats the worse pain in the world.
Realise that you now can do what you want, sleep in whenever, spend money on yourself... and live for yourself rather than someone else's expectations.
Keep yourself busy to keep your mind off of it. That's the only way I've ever gotten over heartbreaks. Join clubs at school or become more involved with ones you already are a part of. When my heart was last broken, I went to the theatre teacher at our school and became stage manager for our One Act Play. It kept me quite busy and took up the time I used to spend talking to my boyfriend so that it wasn't filled with emptiness and sadness. I ended up having a blast and I recovered from my heartbreak in just a couple of months. Don't let anyone tell you how long it should take to get over it, don't let anyone tell you to just get over it, and don't put a time limit on yourself. Healing takes time and it takes different amounts of time for different people. But don't obsess over it or dwell on it, either. Things will get better, but you've got to convince yourself of that, or you will be heartbroken forever. And remember, even though it may feel like the world is over, there's always someone else out there. You're a beautiful girl and you've got plenty of time to find the right person.
Best cure for a broken heart is to sit down in your room, your conservatory, garden or whatever, fire up a nice big joint, just chill out for a few hours! Bring your CD player, listen to something awesome, or just look at the tiles and check out all the hidden pictures. When you're finished the first joint, have another, and another! After about 3 or 4 you should be properly baked, then you can go inside and watch crap TV and go "Aaaaah!!!" then you fall asleep. When you wake up, you'll be thinking "That was cool!", and you'll feel a whole lot better!
Those words you say are very comforting and when you are as young as this lady is they are easily applied..She is just starting out on life's wonderful journey and with her style & beauty I'm sure she'll enjoy life to the max..
That's great! I'm very happy for you. I got all sad when I read this and remembered all of your posts from a few weeks back when you were so happy. I'm glad everything worked out.
and now I'm upset - because I just lost my girlfriend and it DIDN'T work out! But I am really happy that yours did work out. I think one of the worst things you can do for yourself during a breakup is search for answers. Makes you feel sorry for yourself. Or it does for me anyway ......
I have been there..time heals it up but it is not easy. Try to start a new hobbie..can you play an instrument? i get over my heartbreak by composing songs and writing words.. they were the best songs I have done since...