Calling all non-virgins, share your wisdom

Oh great non virgins of hipforums, you are wise and knowing, for how else can one get that which all males want.

For years I have gone without, with the occasional close call. I always considered it my age (I'm 15, I'm 14, I'm 16, of course I'm still a virgin, everyone at this age is.) but as time progressed and I hit my 18th birthday it started to dawn on me that something was amiss. What could it be, what am I doing wrong. Why is it whenever I'm with my friend or with other guys and we meet up with other girls, I'm always the one left out.

Perhaps I am cursed. When I was a young lad I may have done something without knowing about it and brought upon bad karma. Or maybe it's the chain letters. Those one's that say forward or have years of bad luck. Could it be, has my sex life been PWN3dZ by a simple email? No......surely not.

So out of desperation I come here. Where people treat sex like it's as easy to get as a glass of water. Share your wisdom, help us who have been cursed. We virgins call upon your wisdom and knowledge. Your knowledge will be great and helpful, and in our homeland of "virginia" (sorry I couldn't help it) people will tell tales of you, you shall be legends. Help us, and one day us hopefully soon to be non virgins will write books about you, and tell our grandchildren stores of your greatness.

 

For starters, take your hand out of my face.
I can't tell whether that picture is a joke, but if it is, it isn't obvious enough.

 

It means you're living in the wrong area. Just telling a girl you're a virgin should get you some action instantly. Another good way is to surround yourself with ugly friends then you look better by comparison.

 

My advice is to find out who you are, know thyself, and totally be yourself in a full-frontal, rooted way. Don't bend over backward for anyone, and if you do start talking to a girl that you want to be with, be really honest and up-front about what you want, who you are. It helps to genuinely like them and be interested in them, too. Yup that really helps.

Aaand if you want to be attractive and irresistable, hang out with yourself and start practicing enjoying being in your body, and doing what you do. There isn't much sexier than someone who is unapologetic about who they are, and having fun.

 

18 is not old to be a virgin. The next few years of your life are the years though when you are likely to have sex. Do you have romantic (non platonic) relationships with girls? That is something more important than having sex. Even I would say 18, or 19 is a good age to have a girl friend for the first time.

I myself was always young for my age by about three years, and the girls were older biologicaly by about 3 years growing up, so I kinda just forgot the whole thing until college. Plus I really didn't like any of the girls much in high school, there weren't really that many to choose from compared to college.

And I know plenty of guys that have had romantic relationships with girls just because they feel pressured to have one. And I don't think they really pick very well in the rush.

Of course I have really waited way too long. I don't know what is wrong with me. But I'm planning on changing that ASAP.

 

When it comes to relationships I would like to be physical, but not if it's "any" discomfort in a relationship. If I was comfortable in a relationship and she wanted to wait until marriage, than hey, delaying gratification makes it all the better when it accually happens.

Oh yes and um, you are wise and I thank you for your sharings of wisdom. When I return to my homeworld Virginia in the NeverGotLaid-16g system, we of the virgin species shall make legends of you all.

 

First of all, stop saying things like this:

I can't tell if you're being facetious or not--a crime for which I have never been guilty--but as a last resort you could always pay for sex.

 

Note: do NOT ask rmorgan (or anyone you can't confirm to be a prostitute) "How Much?"

 

Doesn't buying drinks for a girl, with the intention of "earning" sexual favor qualify as prostitution? How about taking someone out for dinner? Giving them jewelry and other gifts?

Prostitution, or at least the legalities of it, are nothing more than a matter of symantics.

PS I would never ever suggest that someone break the law (is it safe for me to stop with the disclaimers now?).

 

No. The guy's intent doesn't make the girl a prostitute. It is the girl's intent that makes her a prostitute.

 

ya, the trekky vibe doesn't help the cause

...unless you're out to get a trekky in your bed, then, well, carry on

but really, I don't know what to say

I think the 'know who you are and own it' advice is what to take to heart here. Your time at bat will come sooner or later, and really, 18 ain't a bad age. I was 17, and well, it sucked, I think I would have enjoyed it more had I waited.

 

Nicely stated.

 

Hehe, I always try and add comedy to situations if there's an opening. Helps releave tension and of course comedy is the language of the soul.

 

Alcohol.

I get me straight chicks that way.

 

yes. alot of alcohol, a pinch of desperation, some rage, these are all good targets...poeple who are anrgy are usually needy. drunk people just need to be drunk enough...desperate people, nuff said. ahahahhahaha

anyway... actually what id say is be happy, you'll only get addicted when you have it, and then people will want to sleep with you less, becuase they'll think you're a creep.

 

ohyeah and rember shakespeare, 'do not tempt a desperate man'.

 

oh no wait.. thats for trying to prevent sex from happening to you

 

Thank you Aarn. That's a little more obvious
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Stop worrying about it. You know that saying about things not coming to you til you're not looking for them? well, thats kind of how sex can be. if you just relax and start letting a relationship be the focus of your conversations instead of just sex, you're more likely to get some. there are always exceptions, but most girls would rather talk to the guy at the party who seems laid back and mysterious that the one thats standing in the middle of the room with a beer in his hand screaming "i wanna get laid tonight!" so dont worry about being that guy. instead just focus on making your personality something that is attractive to girls, and sooner or later it'll come to you.

 

don't go any faster than you don't feel comfortable with

use protection

again, USE PROTECTION. STD's and pregnancy baaad, unless you want a kid after your first go.


as for losing the vcard, well, if you go around being desperate to get laid it isn't going to happen. Best thing to do is just be confident in yourself, and happy with who you are. Us chicks seem to like confidence (without overbearing arrogance)