Through my life.. for some reason i have always had to have a go at someone about something, for reasons not known to myself. Not to say that, when i am mad at someone i don't have a reason, its just i can't seem to let anything go. Recently, a girl i am or was friends with (who i will call 'Jolene' for sakes of not naming) has made me really really angry with her. It started at the beginning of this year, she came to visit me in Manchester for a night out. We ended up kissing in a night club and eventually slept together at my place, although (and don't laugh) didn't end up having sex because i told her that we were just good friends, as to be honest i am scared of what it might lead to. Anyway, Jolene goes home and nothing more happens, until late this summer. We were in a local pub before going out to another night club when the coversation comes up about what happened that night, infront of people i know i might add which added some embarrasment to the situation, saying how she was drunk and that it didn't mean anything. Anyway, later that night, she kisses me again in a hall way in the night club as i was heading to the bathroom. So i figured, okay... i do like her enough to want to be with her now.. so after closing, i made a move on her to which she then instantly pulled away and rejected me saying we were just friends. I left the club making my own way home feeling embarrassed and upset. In conversations i had, had with her previous to the encounters, we told me that she used to like my older brother at school, and how she wanted to be with him. I tried not to let it bother me as i figured it was some school time crush... however, this week, my brother told me she met him in a club and told him how she used to like him.. then followed to ask how i was doing. This has now made me really mad, i have texted her saying i don't wanna speak to her again and now we are no longer friends... This seems to happen to me alot, more than most. I end up hating people around me because they lie to me, or make conversation about me, or generally try to piss me off.. so i end up hating myself and others around me.... am i right to get so angry, or have i got a problem?
its definately not a problem. It seems like what she is doing is just using you and therefore, you have the right to be angry. When people lie or make rumors, you should be mad at them but, try not to let it get to you and if you do find yourself getting angry, control it. Its only a problem when you begin physically abusing people around you to take out your anger. then you know you have a problem, but it doesnt sound like what your doing is wrong..
there is no problem with you being mad at her. Your mad. So you have enough reason. It just so happens you get mad for reasons that may seem to you "unjustified to be mad" or whatever. I think you just need to explain your feelings to her...let her know that it was just a misunderstanding the second time you got together. And that you are not cool with her foolin w/your bro. Also, always look on the bright side of things. Maybe once you talk it over, things wont be so weird anymore? And in the future you can still have fun together at the same place, while not having such a bad vibe. Hope i helped? sorry if i didnt but i think you have reason to be mad personally...others may not feel that way tho and i can understand that point of view as well. -Happy Trails...Keep the positive karma thing goin too, Peace. -Jacob Fred
I see no problem. I just see a shitty string of bad luck that you have been having. I Hope it gets better for you for real.
Thanks for the posts guys... Luck is not a friend of mine hehe. I have always had a bad run of it, then again luck is what you make of it. I am sorry not to reply sooner to this thread as i have been very busy trying to change my luck as it were. I guess its time to make a difference. thanks guys Peace
Did you ever consider she may have had her feelings hurt the first time you said "just friends" just as you have some hurt feelings now? You made it clear you were just friends so the minute you decide you want more she is what...supposed to automatically reciprocate your newfound feelings months after the first incident? Sounds like alot of your anger is because of unrealistic expectations. Actually it sounds like hurt turned to anger. I can understand you feel hurt that she doesn't feel the same but you can't really blame her for it either.
