O man im so grounded. It all started back in September when i got caught skipping 5 days of school with my boyfriend. And i will be the first to admit that it was rong. So since then ive tried to get better and go to school and work. At first my mom wasnt to bad and she still let me hang out with my friends occasionly. Then i got caught sneeking my boyfriend in late on a school night and that totally pissed her off and then i was grounded for six weeks. Well about 3 weeks into it i got caught sneeking to my boyfriends and since then its been horrible. She threatened moving me to my dads and everything. I tried to explain that if she would just let me hang out when im not at school or working i wouldnt of snuck out. Well this week she got a phone call from the principle saying i have to start making up detentions and she went off on him saying i keep sneeking out and he called her in to have a meeting. Well he put me in drug and alcohal counseling. I went home that after noon to find my mom thinking i snuck out the night before (which i didnt!). She took away the phone, and now she is moving into my room. SHe is also taking my paychecks from me. She used to be soo cool but now she doesnt get me at all. So for the next month and a half its lockdown for me.
she doesn't have any fucking right to take the money that you've earned working for. doesn't sound like there's much you can do at the moment except make sure that she feels guilty for opressing you. good luck.
You don't understand how uncanny that is... Almost the exact same thing happened to an ex-girlfriend of mine... Even the whole making her move to her Dad's... Man... That's seriously fuckin' creepy...
You brought this all on yourself. You violated her trust by A. ditching school B. sneaking out. In a while this will all blow over. You need to talk to your mom about allowing you a bit of free time now and then. But before it will be TRUELY over, you have to re-gain her trust. Re-build it since you threw it on the ground and stomped on it. And remember this--parents (in most cases) don't impose rules/restrictions because they're mean or vindictive. They do it because they love you. They have life experience, the best teacher. You won't like to hear this (neither did I when I was 16): you'll understand when you get older.
Yeah but they got there life experience where? By making the mistakes and i belive we are allowed to make our own mistakes. It's not so bad to sneak a boyfriend in IF u manage school at the same time. If it's too much u gotta cool some things down.
umm, your 16, right? i think thats the offical age that your property becomes legally YOUR own. I dun no if the laws are the same, but i THINK that if your mum trys to take possesion of your stuff (ESPECIIALLY your money that has nothing to do with her) and if you tell her not to, then you can legally sue her. though, thats bit extreme
I went through exactly the same thing as you when I was about 14, but my mother did ship me off to my father, who in turn passed me onto his sister, who in turn sent me to my grandmothers and all in all fucked me up good and proper for several years afterward. I always said that I would never do that to my kids (and I wont) but now I am a parent myself I can totally see where your mum is coming from. She obviously loves you very much or she wouldnt give a shit what you were doing or who you were doing it with. I totally agree with everything rangerdanger said in his post. She is worried about you and about what the future holds for you, and it isnt going to be a very bright one if you carry on skipping school. I would sit down with your mum and tell her that you dont want to shut her out, but time with your boyfriend and friends is really important to you, and if you can prove to her that you are trustworthy and doing well at school is there anyway you could both be adult about the situation and try to compramise a little. Explain that you feel you are unable to communicate with her and that she doesnt listen, and that you feel very distant from her and your not quite sure how how its all ended up this way, but you want your mum to be part of your life again, and you will do whatever it takes to get things back on track. I only hope I am able to take my own advice when this situation happens with my own kids! But I already feel that I would be happier just locking them away in a tower until they are 21 so they dont screw up like I did lol.
Kids these days I swear. If I'd of done that shit back in my day, I'd of been beaten with a dead fish.
