How in the hell do you cope with being in love with someone who is gay, when you are straight? No offense to the gay community, just wondering...I know you are supposed to move on and all, just wondering what I can do to distract my mind and put it somewhere else.
oh i wish i could help you, but i've never been in that situation before.. it sounds awful though. i wish you all the best, sorry i'm not much of a help.. *big hug*
Get a good vibrator and a good porno. That's distracting and it'd be better than your gay friend could do.
i'm confused... do you mean a straight female who is attracted to a gay male? or a straight male who is attracted to a gay male? (lol) or a straight female attracted to a gay female? (lol)
what else do you do when your'e attracted to someone who's completely unavailable? get over it, find a new someone to like
Isn't putting it somewhere else how this problem started in the first place? Ahahaha. I'll be here all week. :H Seriously though, you're right, you're not going to turn him straight or anything. Might as well find someone else to fuck. Then you'll have a sex buddy and a shopping buddy.
I have been in opposite situtation, and can say to admit to yourself 1. it will never happen. 2. the friendship will always be messed up. 3. admit if your attracted, or if you are past that point and actually in LOVE, if it is love your screwed. It will always be messed up and tell yourself you deserve to have a man who likes women and are worth that, and deserve to be loved by the man who is out there. DON'T GIVE UP! believe in yourself and you will find him. Peace rx
What do you do when you love someone and it goes to waste? You do what the rest of us do - get over it and move on. Or you do the smart thing and forget the silly words that people use to describe their relationships. Friends, lovers, those are just words. The words don't matter. It is the connection they imply. Give him all of you and respect him. I don't know much about it, but love always seems one sided. Don't try to fix him or fix you. Just love, love him with all your heart.
i'm pretty sure that everyone is bi. it's just that most people lean to gay or straight. i wouldn't say it's impossable for him to consider a female. and by saying most people are bi, i back that up with the fact that sex is sex. if one allowes oneself to "get over" any sort of blocks they have toward a certain sexual experience, then they should be able to be just as sexually gratified as they would be with their preferance. ...and i'm going with the theory that love doesn't rely on sex.
welll thats a crappy situation. you cant change him, so dont try it will only hurt you more. I say move on just like in any other situation where love doesnt work. In time you wont think about him anymore and you will find someone else. from now till then going out and having fun with friends should help. maybe join some clubs..art or yoga or something to keep you busy and your mind off him. i would say goodluck, but you dont need it. all you need is time.
madcrappie...the situation is, I knew him to be at least bi before; but....the more I got to know him, the more I came to care about him...and the more I began to realize that he just wasn't 100% into women...more like 20%.
TheMistress....thanks for your advice. Sounds pretty much along the lines I have been thinkng lately.
RE: I'm a straight female attracted to a gay male...if that helps you out any...just need advice...lol You want what you can't have. Recognize that's all it is and move on.
