Girl at my work....being friendly...or is she flirting?

Ok I have worked with this chick for a little over 2 months. We work in close quarters and we cannot really get away from each other. Well tonite I was telling my boyfriend about the way she acts with me...and realized maybe there are other intentions...he thinks so. Me and this girl have alot in common, yet she is alot younger and has a boyfriend as well. She started giving me friendly hugs every day(more than once a day)...which progressed to coming up behind me and putting her arms around me ----> long bear hugs---->kisses on the cheek-----> constantly saying she loves me. This also isnt out infront of everyone, sometimes it is sometimes it isnt. And she doesnt do this to anyone else. She also touched my butt the other day, and it was no accident. The thing is none of this really bugged me cuz im too nice and tend to not see things right in front of my face. my boyfriend says this behavior isnt normal...especially since I havent known her that long. Am I overracting? Is this normal coworker/friend behavior? Do straight girls act like this with other girls?

 

Argggghhhhhhhh

 

Uh, sorry...I'm sure she's totally hitting on you...if you're not comfortable with her doing those things..you can tell her to stop and if she doesn't...you can file a sexual harrassment complaint.

I've known some of my best friends for 20 years...and I don't go up behind them and give them long hugs or anything like that. Regular hugs hwen I first see them, sure...but nothing like you're describing.

 

you're thinking way to much about way to little

 

she gives you long bear hugs??? and touches your ass??


ya, most def. flirting

 

lol
okay when I seen the title of this thread and then read who wrote it, I couldnt help but smirk. what a good name you have chosen!
if this seems rude, Im sorry, its really not ment to be.

p.s.
shes flirting

 

Why dont you just ask her? Definitely easier said than done but it might clear some things up. Also, maybe she has grown really close to you and just likes you as a friend. Her behavior does seem a bit out of the norm but maybe you are overreacting a bit. If it really bothers you then talk to her about it and if the behavior continues then maybe you should file a report on her. It would be bad to just go an report her and not even know half the story. So, MHO, just talk to her if it bothers you.

 

This is a work place and is over the top. Obviously since you are getting uncomfortable with too much attention and personal contact.
It seems to me that shes is also taking advantage of the fact that people think less about personal contact amongst women than they would if it was a male doing this to you or two men carrying on.
I would talk to her alone, tell her you like her as a friend but tell her this is starting to make you uncomfortable and feel like your personal space is being violated.
Same thing Annie said, I hug my friends and kiss them hello, but constant hugging (from behind?) and such that you described is more than friendly, this could be considered sexual harrassment.

 

I think you all need to hang out some night have some drinks and smoke a bowl. Let it go wherever it ends up.
Post some pics too!

 

I SAY... MAKE-OUT WITH HER...IT'LL MAKE HER FEEL AWKWARD... AND IT'LL BE HOT

 

Such "guy" responses.
Hmmmmm.....so if a guy does that to you, should you make out and we can take pics because its hot to us? rotf!