until he just told me he dropped an E. because, 1) he's flat fricken broke to the point of being in minus figures. 2) because of this I caught the bus to work this morning as opposed to him giving me a lift to help him out a litte and now hes spending all his non existent dosh on a night out. 3) because hes seen his ex even though he said he wouldnt anymore. 4) because he's meant to come over tomorrow and he knows how I feel about seeing him when hes got a wacked-over. Its like he would rather be anywhere but near me, like I'm so inconvienient when hes coming down. I just feel like its rocking up to someones place all the time drunk or hung over when you arranged for a catch up. Its just kinda rude in my opinion 5) bcause I thought I was okay with everyhting I have mentioned above... until it all actually happens.
Sounds like a healthy relationship. I don't know what you expect everyone to say, after all the things he's done(as per your threads), you are still in a relationship with him. He doesn't respect you.
that's a little rash. You should talk to him, you're with him for a reason and maybe he doesn't realise how much his behaviour is hurting you. Ask him again to do these things for you and to respect your wishes, and explain why you need him to do these things. If he still doesn't change even though he knows he's hurting you then you need to take a long look at whether this is a relationship worth having.
Nothing that anyone says here will help make it better. You are the only one who can do something about it, so just do it.
I'm sorry. I think you should leave him you seem like such a smart and pretty woman;why would you stay with anyone who wasn't worthy of you and didn't recognize how wonderful you are?
every week its something...and i hate to say it but it makes me laugh. its up to you how much you want to put up with. i mean what do you want anyone to say? Deep down you really you like it that he is a c#nt. Thats why each week you complain about him and stay with him, and convince yourself that he is wonderful, becasue he makes it up to you in some small way, till the next week when you complain about him again. Dont you ever look back and count up all the shit things he's done? Because in the end all you will have is memories. Are you really going to be able to forget all that stuff like your worst birthday ever and everything else? And think that all that crap is alright because of the few nice things he does that any reasonable guy off the street would be able to give you more often than he does? Really you just like him coz he is a c#nt. So why complain when he isnt going to change and no one here is going to be able to help you? I mean you left me becasue you didnt love me anymore to end up with this guy. And you know that I couldnt have been that much of an asshole if I tried. So stop complaining. We both have what we want now. I have a girl who is good to me and you have what most people would consider a loser (no offense). If I was with someone that bad I would be ashamed and not tell anyone. And yes Im probably being too harsh, but I just wish you would find someone good. Your whole family thinks you could find someone better as do probably alot of your freinds. Doesn't this tell you something? Good luck.
I just don't get it. My idea about love is completely different to feeling insecure and unhappy. It sucks when we love so much and its not reciprocal, but also it's not good to submit yourself to such pain cos in the end you wont get nothing out of it but pain, pain and more pain. oh and perhaps one day you'll be able to recover from it.
at first glance it may appear as it isn't,because you believe you have no control, but in fact you do. It's only a matter of opening your eyes and seeing that you are not being appreciated like you should. It's hard to do but it's the only way to get away from it. Unless you don't want to get away and just want to close your eyes and pretend everything is great. One thing i've learn in this game, if you want to be loved, start loving yourself first, don't ever accept that ANYONE treats you less than you deserve. If you do that you're screaming out loud "please step on me, i dont mind cos i'm not worthy" We shouldn't settle for less, we should always aspire to experience the real thing.
If someone really loved you they wouldn't put you through this much shit and lets face it, he's a full blown drug-addict, so even if there was some small part of what little mind there already is that loves you it'll only fuck you over for its next fix anyway. I sometimes think that he's got you so well trained that you don't know what is really acceptable anymore, because all the shit he puts you through definitely IS NOT. And I do wonder just how much of it is him having you trained and how much is your self-loathing and only feeling truly alive when you're suffering. maybe you've even got some delusion that he'll change for you because he loves you, 'fraid not, I think he likes things just the way they are, he can be a total bastard to you, screw around on you, and he knows he can get away with it with the old "I'm sorry", "I'll never do it again", and of course "I love you". And let me be brutally honest, when I say he's got you trained I mean like stockholm syndrome. And to Jamie: all the times I met you I thought you were a pretty cool guy, but that doesn't change the fact that you should move on and stop plaguing her just because she left you and ended up with some schmuck.
someone met me and i dont know who they are... groovy! but yeah you are right. i am a pretty cool guy! i get told that all the time. Im a third rate A-Town pop star!
You should stay with him--obviously you are getting SOMETHING out of the relationship if you stay with him after all these threads. What are you getting out of this relationship?
and if he truly loved you he'd want to make you happy. You're a strong, gorgeous young woman, if this is a pattern of behaviour that has been going on for a while (which it sounds like it has) then why are you staying? Do you not feel like you're worth more than this.
....and why is that again? I seem to have missed any reasoning for that... 1) He such a good guy? 2) He treats you with respect? 3) He is considerate? 4) Hes a good fuck? 5) Being miserable frequently with him is better than being alone? Maybe you should reread some of your threads..I sure don't get it. If you don't treat yourself with respect, nobody else is going to either and dealing with poor behavior continually from this guy, he is showing you a total lack of respect.
