Hot and cold

Do some people just turn from hot to cold and back again in relationships? Is it natural to be so in love it hurts one week, then just act like a friend the next, then be in love again the week after?
Or is all this a clue that somethings wrong?

I mean, its usually on the hot side you understand lol...and this stuffs only really began since hes been havin a few family problems...and he still tells me he loves me. Bleh, what can i say...i get paranoid:-S I think its because when its hot, its really really hot. And its just a shock when he gets tired and needs a rest from the "i love you"s and things. Maybe

Anyone else had a partner like this? Or know whether or not tis a serious thing?
Thanx
Love-Maxi.Xx

 

you can't turn "love" on and off like a light switch..its either there or it isn't

 

RE: Do some people just turn from hot to cold and back again in relationships? Is it natural to be so in love it hurts one week, then just act like a friend the next, then be in love again the week after?

https://www.seroquel.com/common/ia/not/compliance.asp

 

It's called being a man. They are infatuated with you when they can't have you or you're busy and could care less when you care about them. They are very strange creatures. I refuse to play their game if I'm in a relationship where I'm not wanted because I'm availible then i won't be availible for good.

 

Were back on hot again now lol...can get tirin...hes a very complex person

 

Try bipolar medication.

 

if you read my original post i did say it wasnt serious. But sure i might do. I feel bipolar myself sometimes

Xx

 

yah well have fun with that hot cold shit..at the least it will be a learning exp.

 

i totally understand what you are saying. my current bf is like that all the time!!! its seriously like every couple days he switches. i know he has some sort of minor depression, and i also know he loves me, but some days he over flows with cuddely lovingness, and other days he could take me or leave me. its so frustraiting when someone fcks with your head like that. its this weird game that i don't even think he is smart enough to know he is playing, but he is.

 

I get bouts of depression so i go "cold" now and again (thankfully, usually only a coupla times a year)....most peeps can't handle it so they usually fuck off(partners specifically, a few friends as well tho')......which is fair enough.....

 

why is it us women who take all the drugs when our mentally unhealthy boyfriends are the ones who really need it? Don't take meds to deal with HIS instability unless you think you have a real problem. It sounds like he's the one with the problem. I'm like you I need consistency I'm all or nothing and if I don't get all I'd rather have nothing.

 

wut bout ur guys, women r so hard to understand, I have da same problem with my girl, and I dont even know wut da hell is goin on
so if u could tell me smth bout women then I appraciate

 

There's a thin line between love and hate....

 

The drugs I was recommending for him.

 

And my I was meant to be emphasised...like this...

well, I might do.

Bleh, confusion.

Xx

 

Maybe its a way of taking space....i guess thats what it has been for me in the past.

 

Yeah, youre right. Weve had a long talk about it since i started the thread and thats more or less what he said. Been having a lot of family troubles and things like that...and even though he still needs me he still needs some time to sit and think to himself. Anyway, things are a lot lot better now

Thanx everyone.

Xx

 

Yay!!! Im truely happy for you, glad you both worked it out because this has been an on going issue for me lately & I had to end a connection with someone I was seeing recently cause they invaded my space to an extent that was totally not in my concept of....they needed all my time & attention...it almost drove me insane! Way too much....i couldnt even give them an inch cause it would escalate....so it was time to call it a day....& hopefully we can continue to be friends & keep the vibe that drew us together in the first place....

 

sorry to be nosey ecomamma, but how did they invade your space?
i got accused of that once, but i only ever seen the girl when she invited me round or she came to mine or we had a night out together.

 

im like that as well.
i wouldnt say i paticulary needs loads of attension or time. just to know your wanted, and to know where u stand in a relationship is good too, hot n cold thing is hard to handle with out it changing your own behaviour, well unless u dont really give a fuck that is.