Ok, so I'm going out with this girl for about 2 months and I like her a lot... but we never really had a "special" (or any kind of) connection. We can never hold a 5 minute conversation on the phone or in person. Now, there's this other girl that I like... a LOT. It seems like from the moment we met we've always had this connection. We can talk for three hours on the phone nonstop and it seems like we've only been talking for 10 minutes, it's the same way in person. Here's my problem: My girlfriend told me she would be miserable without me. This is something I don't understand, and something I hate. I can't break up with her because I couldn't stand to see her cry; or any other person cry. But I really like this other girl because it seems like we are meant for each other. What to do? What to say? This is killing me inside. :'(
I would break up.. just explain and say that you both just should chill a bit more, couse you both see that you need something else.. it is just like hobby and she is just used with ya this is it.. I guess.. I mean there is no point as yer not into her. but be sure if it is not just a crush that you have with the new gurl you like.. otherwise it might pass as well and you will lose both of them Good luck!
You shouldnt be with someone you cannot talk to for more than five minutes. Conversation and mental connection are two of the most important things in a relationship. If you cant connect, why bother? How did you even get together in the first place? Sounds like a miserable relationship to me. I wouldnt be able to bear a relationship without decent conversation and mental stimulation. Id say the thing i love most about my boyfriend is his intellect and mentality. Just put it to her gently. Not much more you can do. Stayin with her through fear of upsettin her is just wastin your life away...and life is short. Xx
I'm just wondering, if you two can't hold a conversation longer than five minutes, then what do you do?
Sounds a bit like emotional blackmail and if you don't really care for her, dragging it out isnt going to make it better or easier and its not fair to either one of you. Be nice but be honest. You two don't have enough of what it takes to make it work in the long run. Next time don't rush into things if you are worried about someone getting hurt.
very well said... yeah, the longer you wait to breakup with the girl you are seeing wont make it any easier and will make it worse and harder to do.. And for her to say that she will be miserable without you, is trying to make you feel guilty and you should never feel guilty about the way you feel... if you are going to end it, you better end it as soon as you can...
I agree, my ex-boyfriend dragged out our break-up for way too long and it did more damage than good cos now as well as tryna get over him i have a lot of confidence issues and am seeing a councellor, so end it now and be strong. Its better for the both of you!
Sorry, I forgot to update you guys... But yeah, I broke up with her the day I posted this thread. I decided not to ask the other one out just so things don't mess up. So my ex and I are still good friends, the other girl and I are good friends. Everyone is happy. Thanks so much for all the good advice!
