I'm secretly

I'm secretly engaged to a man who's thirty years older than me!

 

seriously??????? do you guys have anything in common? i am not trying to be mean, i just wanna know!!
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ok
you're 15
he's 45
he could get done for paeophilia man!

 

ok
you're 15
he's 45
he could get done for paedophilia man!

 

45 isnt old , theres plenty of worn out 30 year olds but fit 45 is about the peak of ability in life ....my grandfather walked to work when he was 85 and lived till 103 .....anyway i had paramores that old when i was a teenager ....however im almost there myself and 30 years up from it is 75 well have fun and be strong

 

my dad is ten older than my mom...a teen marriage is so restricting.. live a little...
that advice only holds if you're serious...no offense.

 

yea what she said cus marring is seldom a good idea at any age !!

 

45 isn't old......unless you're chasing fifteen year old children.

What is he saying," I'll divorce my wife when you're eighteen and then we can get married, but until then give me some lovin'"??

No offence intended, I'm sure your feelings are real......it's just that he would be one dead fucking 45 year old pedophile if he was sniffing around my fifteen year old daughter.

Peace.

 

Unless he has a really big penis, that's gross.

 

That is FUCKING GROSS!!!!! sorry not trying to be mean but you are 15 what the hell do ya'll do? he can only want one thing!!! if you were my kid ill kill you and him i think you need to think twice about what you are doing. and do you know he could go to jail do you want it to be your fault for him being in jail for the rest of his life never seeing his kids if he has any? I REALLY HOPE YOU ARE LIEING !!!!!! ya'll need to stop before it turns out for the worst!!! THAT MAN IS FUCKING SICK BY THE WAY!!!

 

Hmm. I'm in love with someone 30 years older. Well, 29. And even at the ripe old age of 24 i kinda wish i wasn't, it's a tad wierd. We're best friends and perfect lovers and have a blast but the age difference causes some problems and i know it's got an expiration date. Bittersweet. I think age differences are okay up to a point. I do think 15 is waaaay too young to be engaged to anyone, especially someone so much older, and i think that any healthy respectful 45 year old should recognize that. I'm sorry your confession got some bad reactions, it's hard to be nonjudgemental in certain situations. i think most people would just be very concerned for your wellbeing. You can't choose who you love, unfortunately and if you truly care it'll hurt like hell but you should seriously reconsider the situation. Speaking from experience, i can tell you that though you connect in a very special way, he's already lived an entire life (with more to go, i'm sure) and your relationship will change drastically as you get older and go through stages you are supposed to go through, but he can no longer relate to. I don't know if you've hit snags already, but if you need to talk ever please don't hesitate to message me.

 

You're dumb.

 

No father huh?

 

rock on.

 

yeah thats pretty sick...i didnt see that at first (your ages) hes 45 and your 15? somethings not right there. the guys a pedderass.

 

I have yet to see this person respond to anything said on here from you all, kinda odd. I cant help but wonder if it was just tossed out here to stir up some hornets a bit. Since that is my opinion I add some smoke to this!


If he quote really loves you and you love him then he should be will to control his emotions and assist you in doing the same till you are of age. If you both feel it is right then do not hide it, be open! Understand that age is a lame way to set borders. I know some very mature intelligent late teenagers and some adults that need a daycare provider. I would look at ones maturity level and being able to understand the diferences of age and also the feelings of others should make a mature person be able to hold off. As a parent I would find it easier to accept this issue if it were presented to me if #1 he was man enough to make his intentiosn clear. #2 Kept a promise to not cross the bounds that I set till a proper age #3 could prove real love for my kid by respecting my wishes. I would not force him away but if he disrespected my wishes I would not call the police but rather plant a very good garden that year.

 

hmm.. so if you love each other..

 

what if hes just using you to go on viagra runs for him so he doesnt 'lose respect' from people.. lol applies to both situations.

 

ew... just ew.

can you imagine? When you're 30 and in your prime he'll be 60!

don't get engaged to ANYONE at that age by the way.

 

why the hell do men always assume that women who date older men are looking for a father? No one critisizes young guys when they like older women.