bad not feeling like a 'natural parent'?

im pritty young now, but i really can not imagine me having kids and i think that i wont b a good mum if i do decide 2 have some when im older.
yer, i will love my child,but its like i dont think that il b a good mum because mayb im too selfish. and like my friends r like saying how they want kids and a husband and wateva when thier older, but i duno if i want that. i can imagine myself beeing too into a career to have kids so its like.... i duno. its wierd. maybe im just felling like this because im young but then again its possible that it might not be.

i want to no if people may of felt like not being a 'natural parent' and if they had kids?
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You will definitely be a good mom when you have kids. It's almost impossible not to be. Something from nature just kicks in and you become Superwoman. I didn't think I was going to be any good... I was seventeen when I got pregnant and my biggest fear was that my baby was going to be retarded and have to wear a helmet. But he's okay, and I'm okay, and we're best friends. I don't know where I learned to take care of him. It just came to me.


Don't worry about the future too much, though. Just take it as it comes.

 

Don't worry about the future too much, though. Just take it as it comes. [/QUOTE]
ya. i agree. some people just dont want to have kids. my auntie is a successful carrer woman, and loves childeren, but agrees that she does not want any of her own. i aplod her. but i have always wanted childeren, for as long as i can remember. its just kinda painful when the right time comes but the wrong man comes along. but im very thankful. if that wrong man didnt come along i wouldnt have this beautifull baby and awesome boyfriend that supports us with all his love. your young, plan your furture before spawning childeren, i cant really travel anymore. no more shows . . . but sooo much more instead. i wouldnt give it up for the world

 

I know exactly how you feel:
Just today I got to baby sit a little boy of four months. An absolute darling, but he started crying and I was thinking 'WTF do I do?' and have a whole new empathy for my Mum.
I was so glad when he cheered up, and his mother came back.

So no I won't be a mother anytime soon. That is something I'm really hoping will happen, just not yet.
We have so much potential being young, so let's go live our lives for now and be a bit selfish (sure as hell can't do that with a kid) then settle down when the time is right.
'Cause we'll be good mothers; we'll have lived and learnt enough to handle it.

Good luck with the future, you'll be just fine.

TTFN
Sage

 

Ya wanna hear my secret??
lol

I NEVER wanted to have kids ever. Not even when I got pregnant with my first. until like a month after I foudn out. I was happy being a kid. Now out of all my family I am the best parent. (That doesnt say much since we are all good parents but my older sister lol) but I mean out of everyone they all wish I would raise their kids lol
Needless to say it took me until my second to realise that I am any good. Dont stress about it right now when the time comes you will do what you have to do, Just keep inmind having babies means sacrafising ALOT for them(Parties, drugs, your time, pretty much be selfless...

 

I never wanted to have children either. I didn't feel like that was something for me at all. I got married young (21), but convinced my husband that children were just not for us.

We did a lot of traveling. Moved from country to country. Slept in airports. Ate fruit from treas in the South of France. All the kind of stuff you can't really do if you have a family to take care of.

I also worked a few years as a programmer. Got my promotions and felt fulfilled that way.

When I was 28, everyone around us was starting to have kids. My husband started up the subject of kids again. I wasn't too sure yet. We had a lot of worries about how kids would fit into our lives. But we decided to let faith decide and I got pregnant just a few months later.

I'm currently a stay-at-home mom and feel that this is what I should be doing right now. It feels right. I would love to get back into the working world one day, but at least I can already look back on some good years.

I love my kids (even though I still am not a kids kind of person!). They bring so much joy into my life. I know that I could have been happy without them too. I'm not a born mother. But they do add a whole new experience and a lot of love into my life.

That's my experience. Hopefully it can be of any help to you.
I wouldn't have any kids yet! Just live a bit for now.
Good luck!