Hey i have a question about a girl i met

I met this indian girl at my school and when i first met her i told her how id like to be a friend to her. I met her in the cafeteria area and this other asian girl who i knew from other classes was there when i met her.

I ended up getting her cell and home phone, and called a few times and talked to her. Then i tried calling again later on and i called her cell phone and home phone and the person who answered kept saying that i had the wrong number. I thought maybe because she sounded like a foreigner there may of been an issue, but also i thought the girl who gave me the number may be playing games, so i crossed her number off my list and gave up on her.

Then recently like a month ago she started asking this asian girl about me since she knew she was there last time i met her. This asian girl told her the times i am normally in the cafe like esp on Mondays between 11-3, and some other days.

Then this asian met me on tues and told me how that girl came by on mon. I ran into the indian girl on THURS that week and she said how she had waited a few hours in the cafe for me on wednesday. ( that may sound weird)

I got her numbers again and then when i talked once we agreed to meet in the cafeteria around 12:00 on a monday. She was there and then shortly after she wanted me to see her apartment. On the way there when i was driving she asked what age i would marry a person. Then i said it doesnt matter if its 18+. She said how shed like to marry me rather than be forced to marry some guy that she doesnt know who her father might know like a friend of his who lives in India. She said shed rather marry someone like me than for money. She said she has to marry before age 20 or she will be forced to go back to India.


Well anyways besides this i am trying to just get to know her, and i called her once last friday and noone answered, then i called her home phone and the person said she was not there.

She then called me and said not to call that number because she doesnt live there and to cross it off my list. I asked if she was mad at me and she said no. I asked if she wanted to talk to me and then she said how she has been sick lately and she hasnt been at school either, like she got a cold from the sudden weather change. (It may sound like an excuse, what do u think?).

Well anyways she told me that shed call me the next day. She did but i was sleeping still and my mom took the message from her and wrote it down. She said shed call on sunday and never did. Then i tried calling her and she didnt answer her cell phone.

I ended up running into her on Monday near my english classroom, and then she said how she had called and talked to my mom. I said how well we should set up a time to meet again, and she said how about 11:00, i think she was done with her classes then, but i said i cant since i have a class then.

I said it would have to be before 11:00 or after 1:00pm. She said 10:30 would be ok and to meet in this one location. What turns out is that she never showed up that day, and didnt call either, i tried calling later that night and today.

I still havent heard from her, what does anyone else think about her?

 

sounds kinda weird to me... i would assume that she's having family difficulties about marriage and whatever else, that she wants to get away from *hence the asking about marriage* but then she doesn't call or meet you when she says she will, so maybe they have a larger effect on her than she's willing to admit to you? are you just wanting to be friends with her? if that's the case, then you can try to be persistent with talking to her and hanging out with her, but i would not advice dating her. also, be very very careful about leading her on if you do continue to pursue a friendship with her.

 

i think she's married.
it sounds like it from what you've told me....
don't ask me why that's just the thought that popped into me head.
She may just be a flake. No offence. She may just be shy. She may have issues. It could be a number of things really. You should ask her. ask in a way that'll make her want to tell you everything and open up to you. it's obvious she's looking for a solid mate to rely on, someone who will commit to her and take care of her.
if you think you could possibly fall in love with her and that that would be a GOOD thing, then keep trying to pursue it for a while. If not, screw that shit man.
There are plenty more fish in the sea and SEAFOOD is GOOD!

 

maby her family is like controling and its hard for her to get out and about or talk on the phone . ...indian girls are hot . one of my x es was half indian .

 

Id like to ask her like u said if i actually could. The problem is that i can't get ahold of her despite trying to call and showing up at her apartment place which she told me i could stop by anytime i want.

There is a chance of running into her at school but that isnt always possible especially since she has classes at different times and i dont know when.

Its actually hard to run into alot of people at my school even though it isnt that big of a school.

I just don't know if she is playing games, i mean based on what shes said.

 

Well when i talked to her the one time she was saying how i could marry her, and how she would rather have me do that than be forced to get married to some guy in her country that her father knows.

She said in her culture they have to get married by the age of 20. She said how her mother said it was ok to marry an american guy instead of be forced to go back to her country, but her father would rather have her marry some friend of his.

She said her father was in India currently and he cant really make her do anything, and how her mother said it was ok to pick american guy.

I said to check it out with them, and well i havent seen much of her since then except from talking on the phone or last monday, so i don't know what to think?

Is she a flake or does is it possible that her parents are controlling like the last person i quoted thought???

 

shes a stupid hindu

 

I think you took WAY too long explaining this and all the emphasis on race was unnecessary (i.e. "the asian chick" "this indian girl" "the asian again") Why not just use names (even fake ones) and simplify this whole post? Rant over. ANYWAY...

Bottom line is her customs are different. If she is serious about the marriage deal, that's something you should consider A LOT more than what time you can call her. Do you really want to instigate and commit to a relationship with this girl even if you know very quickly you might be walking this girl down the aisle "until death do you part"? If you start things now, chances are you're going to fall for her and then according to her, you'll have to marry her at a very young age. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, I'm just saying that it might be a bit more serious than what you're after and that if you distance yourself now, it will be a lot easier than later.

 

Wow. You'll make a great husband to her and a great father to the children with that attitude.
"Honey, I love you but you're such a stupid Hindu."
"Kids, go kiss stupid Hindu Mommy good-night!"

Ignorance on parade.

 

Well i wouldnt of needed to say that if the dumb hindu would of called me recently or showed up when she said she would. I dont like people who play games, and if she wasnt interested why the hell did she try to contact me again after we didnt meet the first time i had her number back in sept and when i threw it away?

 

Wow dude.....i sweriously doubt she is playing games...that sounds like there is some serious issues going on that she just doesnt feel comfortable telling you yet.....and dude...dumb hindu?...stupid hindu?...calling her thigns behind her back isnt going to help you at all....if you care abotu her, then be patient...if you dont, then dont worry about it....but patience is very imporant when it comes ot things like this.

 

Well i stopped by where she lives and her mom answered the door and she said she doesnt live there, so i asked what happened and she said she moved to Florida.

It would of been nice though if she had told me that, instead of just leave me hanging.

I checked this one room near the reading center at school since i seen her go in there one day and the people who work in there havent seen from her in a week, so maybe she did move to florida.

I called this number that was on my phone when i got home tonight and the person sounded like a foreigner like her mom, then she asked who this was and i said my name and she said she didnt call.

Its hard to make sense of people who arnt from here. I mean i think when she put my name on her phone that she must of dialed my house then? I don't get why she didnt just write it down on paper? I think it was a cell phone that she put my number on.

Do you think she will get the message to her that i stopped over there?

 

Well i stopped by where she lives and her mom answered the door and she said she doesnt live there, so i asked what happened and she said she moved to Florida.

It would of been nice though if she had told me that, instead of just leave me hanging.

I checked this one room near the reading center at school since i seen her go in there one day and the people who work in there havent seen from her in a week, so maybe she did move to florida.

I called this number that was on my phone when i got home tonight and the person sounded like a foreigner like her mom, then she asked who this was and i said my name and she said she didnt call.

Its hard to make sense of people who arnt from here. I mean i think when she put my name on her phone that she must of dialed my house then? I don't get why she didnt just write it down on paper? I think it was a cell phone that she put my number on.

Do you think she will get the message to her that i stopped over there?