Strangest behavior i've ever seen. Theories anyone? (problem. HELP!)

So this guy I had a crush on forever FINALLY gave me his number. (I'd never let on that I liked him at all, despite his pickup lines and general girly flirting. i thought he was gay). I called him. We hung out. He seemed to really like me. Either what or he really wanted to have sex. And ONLY sex. I say this because of the way he said certain things and what not.

Anyhow, we kiss. I felt some magic... i really had feelings for this guy and these types of crushes don't happen with me very often. He was very tender n sweet. I loved it. I don't know if he could tell since i'm rather stand-offish at times.

At one point, BEFORE we kissed. like days before, he said he didn't want to have sex with me and that I was too good for him. (Ugh. I never even USE that one). This despite the fact that we ended up having phone sex one night which was weird. yeah then the next day we kissed and i was like hmmm, maybe we'll end up screwing. but we didn't. i wanted to wait, make out with him a few times first n shit u know?!

i'm rambling unnecesarily. the point is, after we kissed, he called me maybe three times. Was sweet on the phone. Our last words suggested we would be seeing eachother very soon very soon and that it would be very very fun if you know what i mean. but then, he never ever ever called me AGAIN. HE JUST DISAPPEARED. WHAT THE FUCK!? This has never happened to me or ANYONE I know for that matter. I've never heard of such sillyness.

So now, a month after his 'disappearace' i still wonder, WHY? I don't even LIKE the guy anymore, I have bf (we met when me and the other dude had just kissed) and i am happy. i just want to know WHY. for closure, perhaps. but also just for the bloody sake of knowing because the curiosity is driving me insane. that damned psychotic bastard.
hahahahah. it just sucks because i've had to avoid him and not go to where he works, which is somewhere i frequently went! i know if i see him, i'll just LOSE it. i just want to wring his neck, you see. for NO ONE has ever been so bloody insolent.

ah i do feel better now though. Somewhat...

so....
my theory is this: he's just a stupid old fart (29) that needs to grow a pair.
I also think he has a girlfriend. which means he lied about being single. and that's bad.... So this also makes him a shitty fucking person. and when someone's fucking shitty, you can expect just about anything from them I suppose.

and might i add, just because i've devoted all this time to HIM basically, isn't because i still have feelings for him. like i said, it's just driving me nuts to NOT KNOW. *growls.

 

truth is you dont realy know what happened with him ...so dont take it personaly as it could be somthin unrelated ......if you had honest feelings and acted in good faith ....then it matters not if he did ....dont feel bad about something nice almost happening keep yer eyes ears nose n heart open and walk forward ...be yourself n dont be afraid .

 

Your instincts about being lied to are probably correct. And guys who say "you're too good for me" will only use that later to validate their lying/cheating/hitting etc....I'm sorry you got screwed over, unfortunately it happens to the best of us. *hugs*

 

Yeah, sure. If you had abslutely NO interest in him you wouldn't still be talking about him... I guess he's:
1. A player
2. Has a girlfriend
3. Didn't like you
4. Whatnot?

PS: WOOO! 100 posts!

 

Just the point I was going to make.

 

Clarification: I said I dont have FEELINGS for him anymore. Not once did I say that I'm not interested.... Of course I'm bloody interested. I don't want him to be the one that got away! (Tho he already has ).
SO go on, what the hell else could this strange psycho behaviour be due to?
I think he's just mad is all.... mad as in nuts.

 

Thought....you thought he was gay....maybe he's in denial? Tried to be with a woman, found out he wasn't comfortable with it, didn't know how to explain it to you, or didn't want to, so he chose to simply drop out of your life. Maybe not what happened here, but it's happened to me before, and it's a possibility.

 

my step dad thinks he's gay....

 

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