WTF? He just doesnt get it! Its pissin me off!

OK i have another co worker problem, I posted about my other one . I have had a boyfriend for almost 2 years. We broke up for a brief period of time and someone at my work asked me out. I was sorta interested but got back with my bf. Since this guy knows about all my relationship problems through other gossipy coworkers he is hellbent on me falling for him. Ok I admit he is goodlooking, witty, intelligent and sweet....but I love my boyfriend and want to be with my boyfriend. This co worker asked me to go at lunch to get something to eat recently...I went cuz i was hungry too, we walked there and brought the food back. He puts on this romantic movie in the breakroom which is awkward....and this is a year after him asking me out, mind you . He is constantly asking me what I am doing after work. Then he finds me on my space and starts messaging me. I replied to him for about a week...then cancelled my account, cuz i felt it wasnt right to talk to him. He had asked to meet me late at night to talk and I turned him down. Now he wants to talk in person. What is there to talk about?! I have messaged him saying basically he needs to move on and shouldnt wait for me. Meaning hope and wait for me to be single, and that I would understand if he didnt want to talk to me. He told someone "why does she keep talking to me if she isnt gonna break up?"........WTF.....hes asking me to go out, HE made a myspace account just to message ME. And when I tell him no, pretty much...he acts like I never said those things( that its not gonna happen between us). At first all this was sorta flattering...now its pathetic and pissing me off. Hes making me look bad to everyone when hes the one that wont stop and doesnt get it. What should i do??

 

LOL what a creep, did you know you can go to your local court house and file a complaint for stalking, if it gets that bad i guess. I think it is funny he put a "romantic" movie in at lunch in the breakroom. What a tool. Were other people in there?

 

sounds like you have a stalker my friend.

 

A good reason to think twice before dating coworkers. Theres a good chance it wont work out then you are stuck in a weird working environment. The guys dense, keep any talk or contact to a minimum, be cold and if he asks keep it short...because you don't get the fact that I have a boyfriend and all we had is one date a year ago.

rotf! Between this crap and the chick, how do you find time for work? lol

 

Mention these incidents to your manager. If they continue, mention it again. If nothing gets done after you've complained twice and you REALLY want it to stop, look into a sexual harrassment case. It all depends on the type of things he says/does to you, but if his behaviour is affecting your job performance and he hasn't been getting the hint to stop after a year, it may be time to take some action. He could eventually give up or he could get obsessed and then you've REALLY got a problem.
Who else (if anyone) have you told about this?
I think it's good that you've tried to tell him and show him your complete disinterest, but a year is an excessive amount of time, and personally think you are at the point where you need to either make some real moves towards getting him to leave you alone or just hope the problem will fix itself and deal with it on your own. Which option sounds better to you?