I'm not depressed exactly, just beginning to wonder if all the dating and flirting is worth it...I am getting so discouraged with this whole trying to find someone crap...lol. Is it worth it really?
i think you should look at is as fun... go with the flow and don't feel like you have a goal of finding somebody perfect.
Definitely worth it. Flirting is one of the great ways to interact with the opposite sex(or the same sex too, depending). When I "flirt", I don't necessarily aim for anything other than a good clean(if "flirty", lol) fun with a nice girl. Dating will come after that, and that's also a fun thing(although, it's been a while since I last "dated"). Relax and enjoy.
thank you all....I realize that this is a human thing to go through, and affects us all at one poit or another in our life.
I realised at an early age that it's not all roses and happy endings, so set yourself up for a single life and if anything happens after that it's bonus. Easier said than done though I suppose. You'll still get lonely at times, but so is life.
dont let your aim in all of that be merely finding someone. just go out and have fun...meet lots of people and all that and i guarantee that eventually you will find someone, when you least expect it. that quote is true that love, like a butterfly, when chased flies away but when least expected, it will land upon your shoulder ever so lightly
You can't guarantee something like that. Come down out of the clouds and stop being delusional. People should face up to it very early on that it's possible they spend their life on their own. Most people won't but it's possible.
I feel like you do, often. I'm actually feeling this way now. Although I would never be able to give it up. Way too much of a romantic to ever give up the possibility. Even if I was 65, if I didn't already have it... I would probably still be waiting for it to arrive. I've been in love exactly once in my life and even though the event nearly killed me, it was still the best feeling I ever felt in my life. I'm such a serious person when it comes to relationships that I scare them off. I'm "clingy" and fall too easily. What can I say, I'm a sucker for true romance.
what's wrong with being hopeful, spacer? are you just so bitter that you take it out on everyone else? i think that she presented a good point. I'm not trying to be an ass or anything, just wondering. Some of us hope for different things. And I won't spend the rest of my life alone, even if I have no one; I have my son. He's really all I need. It's just that a man in my life would be a bonus.
There's being hopeful and delusional. You can hope that one day you meet someone, most people do, but no one can "guarantee" that you will.
Perhaps "guarantee" wasn't the correct word to use for this, but i do not believe that what i stated was delusional at all. I believe that she is a wonderful woman and that all the qualities are there and I truly do believe that there is someone out there who is waiting for her as well. I truly honestly feel that she will meet someone even if it is a long time from now.
hi ashton mom, sounds like you might be trying to hard to find someone, i used to do that too and constantly ended up in miserable relationships. when i finally just relaxed, wrote a prayer to my higher power to send my love and what i wanted and didn't want in a relationship, i got on with having fun in my life and then bang my soulmate walked into my work place one day and i felt like i had been hit with a gang of angels. we talked, got to know each other, i saw that he respected me and treated me like i should be treated, we went on one date and haven't been apart since for 11 years. have faith in yourself, have high expectations, expect to be treated like the child of God that you are. take care and relax, hippiewise angel
i haven't had a date in ages....i forgot what's all about...hehehehe i do remember it's quite fun though.
I was in and out of dating, looking for a relationship, and it all ended up with my high hopes and false feelings of love being destroyed, leaving me overly depressed. Eventually, I got over it and didn't even want to bother with love anymore. And a few months of feeling like that, and I find the love of my life; I found the one person whom I love more than anything, who I would die for, and someone who has the exact same feelings for me, making me happier than I've ever been in my entire life. But things happen, we're in love now as much as ever, but I can't see her... I get to talk to her for at the most a half an hour each day, but in a year and a half, it will all be over and we'll finally be together forever... The point being, don't search too hard for love, don't think that it's free of depression and the answer to all your problems. Love can be wonderful, but life can be wonderful without it, just as both can be full of sadness. Just wait and let your gaurd down, love has a way of sneaking up on you and if your not expecting it, it only makes it that much easier to find you.
Thanks for your words of wisdom, spacer, but i still can't connect being hopeful with being delusional...i don't see the connection no matter how hard i try. hippiedaze...thanks for the words of encouragement. hippiewise, paintballer687, you guys give me hope....not delusions. and zep...haha lol; i know how you feel; i'm with you, just hanging in there.
