Ok, here's how it is. I've been with this guys for a little over three years now and i really love him. But i ran into my ex the other day (we haven't been together in like 4 years) but after seeing him it brought back memories and i haven't been able to stop thinking about him. I still have loads of feelings for him. We got together when i was 18 and he was 25, so i was young at the time and a little immature i think. He has a son and i wasn't ready at 18 for that, i didn't know what to think, it's retarded now that i think about it. Anyways i'm 22 now and think i was so childish then, and if i had of met him when i was older i really think things would have worked out. He has a girlfriend, but he tells me he still likes me. I'm just frustrated that i blew it when i had him. I don't want to lose the man i'm with now but i can't get over my ex, i haven't stopped having feelings for him, and i'm always thinking about him. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Dont see or speak of him ever again. What is in the past is in the past and drudging up old feelings will do nothing but cause problems. Its not fair to your current boyfriend or your ex's g/f. Just leave the situation alone and work on improving your current relationship. I have gone the other route in the past and it didnt do anything but make my life a living hell for a few months. I almost lost my fiance. She almost lost her husband. People get hurt and the ones you love are innocent victims.
Sometimes it isn't that you actually have feelings for that other person - but sometimes seeing someone you used to be with can bring up old stuff, even though you don't really feel it anymore.
