Ok, I need some advice.

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by Atom bomb therapy, Dec 1, 2005.

  1. Atom bomb therapy

    Atom bomb therapy Member

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    heres the situation: I dated this chick (for like 4 or 5 months) back in 2000. We only had sex like maybe 10 or 12 times during the entire 4 or 5 months. Anyways, we ended up just being friends because she moved to new york and eventually lost contact because she got married or whatever to some dude. Well, she calls me up like in june, right before bonnaroo, and wants to get together for drinks and bullshit. Heres the problem: I go get drinks with her, a lot of drinks, heh, and during that time she slips up and tells me that she told her (now ex) husband about me and showed him all these nude pictures of us together and he became obsessed with me. Apparently this is one of the reasons they got a divorce (which is weird as fuck) She explained that he knew my address and phone number and he knew the places I had worked and she also said he calls my house all the time. for the last year and a half someone has been calling my house and hanging up after I say "hello, who is this, i can hear you breathing..ectect". Heres the scariest part: Last night i'm sitting here watching a movie and someone in a large truck pulls up in my driveway. I went to the window because i wasn't expecting anyone and some dude gets out, takes a picture of my car and the house and gets in his truck and drives off. WTF?! I'm scared as hell. I didn't call the police, because Im an idiot, i know, but what the hell do i do? All I have is mase, and a few knifes.lol. what if he breaks in on me and i can't get to a phone? :( Im really scared. :(

    Just venting, thanks for reading.


    edit: Oh yeah, i forgot to add after that happened last night i tried to call her cell and her house and both numbers had been disconnected.......weird.
     
  2. sundew

    sundew Member

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    I'd call the police as soon as possible if it happens again...
    Change your phone number if you need to as well.
    Make the new one an unlisted one if it's not already.
    Very creepy!
     
  3. Monty Capuletti

    Monty Capuletti Member

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    Never heard of anything like that. I would call the cops. Just to have it on record.
     
  4. WeeDMaN

    WeeDMaN a pothead

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    ya be safe and call the cops, last thing you want is this guy turning out to be some fucked up crazy ass guy who ends up throwin ya in the ocean...cuz that would be horrible.
     
  5. Nickmast

    Nickmast Member

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    Definately do that. Having record of it is exactly what you need to do. Maybe even a description of the van and the guy.
     
  6. IronGoth

    IronGoth Newbie

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    She should get away from him, too.
     
  7. warpedsoaper

    warpedsoaper eternal optimist

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    Defintiley report it to the cops. You have to make a record of it . State stalking laws vary and you have to build documentation of every account to have anything to stand on later. Get tag #'s off vehicle if it happens again and oppurtunity is there. Get your camera out too!
     
  8. Atom bomb therapy

    Atom bomb therapy Member

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    Thanks guys. I called and talked to the sherriffs dept. and they said about the same things, but that i can't do anything about it unless i gave record of him bugging me or if he enters my home.... maybe it won't come to that.
     
  9. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    Damn... I'm sorry this has been happening to you. Some people are rather "off" that they see a beautiful girl and automatically think the only way to get to her is by stalking. Rather frightening, yes...

    But you've made a right move by talking to the police, even though they can't do much at this point. At least they know about your situation, and hopefully keep an eye out for someone suspicious. In the meantime, by all means be careful.
     
  10. Atom bomb therapy

    Atom bomb therapy Member

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    Thanks :) Maybe all this will just stop. I already got my hang up call today though. Im going to change my number tomorrow.
     
  11. HippyLove

    HippyLove Visitor

    you might try and call the phone company and have them report the hang up calls or even have the police go through the phone company to find out the person calling- that might be helpful in getting something done about him. But I'm not sure. Just an idea
     
  12. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    You're welcome, Atom. Changing your number is a good move. I hope all this will stop ASAP.
     
  13. Atom bomb therapy

    Atom bomb therapy Member

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    I didn't think of that. Thats a good idea.


    Mr thinker- Hopefully it'll work out. I was freaked out at first, now im just effin scared. It'll work out though.....hopefully.. yikes.
     
  14. HippyLove

    HippyLove Visitor

    well good luck, be careful, and I hope all works out safely for you
     
  15. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    I'm not sure about this, but the next time there is a call (hopefuly none because of the new number) say
    "(his name) is that you? (her name) told me about you. I've given your name to the police. Never call or contact me again."

    Might scare him, but he might read it as a challange or...
     
  16. toolmaggot

    toolmaggot Nuts Go Here.

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    If he calls again, tell him you're actually a man, and have been watching him longer than he's been watching you. Next time he goes out, you're gonna slip him a roofie and plow his ass.
     
  17. ManorXic

    ManorXic Banned

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    Hahahahaha. What if he likes that though? You don't wanna encourage this freak in any way.

    I'd definitely change my phone number.

    You might consider taking a self-defense course. The local YWCA here has one every two weeks and it's very reasonable.

    Also, you might consider filing a restraining order. I dunno if you have enough on him yet to warrant it, but a year and a half of hangups calls seems like just cause to me.
     
  18. ThePasserby

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    Also, do please post the next couple of days consistantly so we know you're alive O_O jesus I hate stalkers, especially ones that have money to fund their obsession =\ take care hun
     
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  20. Atom bomb therapy

    Atom bomb therapy Member

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    HAHAH! I'm so stupid i'd end up shooting myself in the foot or something. haha, good idea though.

    Thanks for the support guys. I told my big male neighbor about the events taking place and he said that he'd watch my house for me at night and stuff....which that kind of freaks me out too because hes weird. haha. I had my phone number changed and so far theres no hang ups. I really really like my space and all but maybe I could get a roomie? I'd feel more safe. It wouldn't be so bad if i didn't live in deep south north georgia mountains. I heard they filmed deliverance not to far from here if that gives you an idea. Hahah. Maybe it'll stop since i changed my number.
     

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