emotional walls

I can't remember what made me think of this today
or maybe it was yesterday

anyways,

irregardless of when


ive got a question


are you emotionally protected?? oh, now i remember, it was something i heard on monday that made me think this.

so, are you?

and for all of you who post uber emotional/personal threads on here, think through this carefully

 

hell yes I do, humour, minutiae, cynicism, all sorts of defense mechanisms......

 

have you read melville's bartleby?

 

IRREGARDLESS ISN'T A FRICKEN WORD!!!!!



also, what is meant by emotionally protected?

 

I gotta be the only person on earth who hates melville.....

 

neither is fricken but you dont see me complaining. i think we'll have to agree to disagree over the "irregardless" dispute, especially because its one of my favourite words to use. and maybe i especially used it to piss you off.

i'm tired....do i really have to explain what i mean by emotionally protecting one's self? isnt it slightly straightforward? then again, nothing really is straightforward.

okay, at the very basic level, i'm asking if you intentionally employ any means to prevent emotional connections

 

Well, I'm sure many people dislike him I suppose

I for one don't


The question of this thread stemmed from discussing Bartleby.

 

No, then.

I think reason is unintentional in most people. Its kind of what makes us us.

I say it like that because reason is the only thing that can prevent emotional connection. Well, that and unhumanness.

 

And measuring reason against emotion is futile isnt it? it's like they are the anthesis of one another, emotions are anything but rational most of the time.

Maybe thats why its largely impossible to fully shield yourself from emotions, its inevitable as humans.

 

Measuring reason against emotion?I don't understand what you mean. Do you mean that which is more valueable to practical life?

I'd say they're a little more related than you think. Emotions are never rational. They can only be instinctual. That is what makes them Emotions and not products of reason. However, Emotions can often coincide with Rationality. They will often tell you the same thing.


It is in the cases where they differ that we find the worth of one over another. In fight or flight situations, reason and emotion are synonymous. In ambiguous cases, reason is more valueable than emotion. Ask anyone that is afraid of rollercoasters for proof.


However! Even that can be called into question. Philosophical Feminists say that emotion is more valueable than reason.

fully shield yourself? heh. From emotion, you can't shield yourself at all.

 

yes and no.... I'm fairly open about sharing a part of myself, but then there's this big ass wall that it takes a lot for people to get past. To see the real me, past that surface self. i think it's a little easier to share online, it's more anonymous, less threatening than dealing with a person face to face, with dealing with rejection for who you are you don't have to see it in their eyes, just laugh at their silly posts.

 

when most women get past my wall they discover I'm a lovable dork with a tough exterior. If they're good they love me even more.

 

that was one of the saddest things I've read in a while.

 

but I already know you're a funny dork with a tough exterior, and I don't think I'm past any walls. It's a great persona though dorks rock

 

go to hell

 

You're good then.

 

hey questie, what was the probability that ihmurria would tell me to go to hell after what I said?







and ihmurria ... HEY!!!

 

damn, I need to go to bed, I feel exceptionally stupid form lack of sleep atm

 

seeing as she did 100%

 

Well said - same here