A few questions on dating / going out: (i havent actually been out with someone so i thought it would be a good idea to ask first) -what's the best place to go out with someone (if any)? i was thinking cinema but where? -any good things to say to start a conversation / chat someone up? -if someone asks "will you go out with me" should i accept or get to know them first? -is going out with more than one girl at a time considered cheating (that is not on the same date lol) -any "standard" things to do on a date? (pull out her chair, take her coat, etc but i mean more modern things those are old fashioned examples..) thx for ya time i thought this was the most appropriate place to post this, i just don't know much about dating (tho not a sexual disfunction) oh and if i think of any more i'll post them as well
Are you serious? Oh lord. Well I'll tell you this: When you're ready to move in to kiss her, if you do it like she has a disease and you have to proceed very cautiously for fear of cooties she's not going to like it. If you sweep her off her feet and kiss her like it is the last thing you're ever going to do, and damnit, you sure as hell better do it HERE and NOW and LIKE YOU MEAN IT or you will be eternally remembered as a shameful coward, (especially by your parents... don't forget mom and dad are rooting for you and OH they would be so dissapointed if you didn't, so so dissapointed), well then I'd say you'll have a chance, maybe, of getting a second date.
hey, im only 13 cut me some slack, and dont start thinkin im some sort of nerd cuz im not :$ thx for the advice tho, and you're right about my parents
-what's the best place to go out with someone (if any)? i was thinking cinema but where? At your age, movies would be fun, but maybe somewhere that you'll actually be able to talk. But, yeah, keep it casual. -any good things to say to start a conversation / chat someone up? If you're talking more than listening, shut up!!! -if someone asks "will you go out with me" should i accept or get to know them first? Accept if you think you might actually like them. If there is no possibly of liking them, then say "no, thank you" -is going out with more than one girl at a time considered cheating (that is not on the same date lol) Get dating one girl under control before you have to balance two girls, and all the lies and awkward moments that come with. Seriously, though, if its actually dating, respect the ONE you're with. -any "standard" things to do on a date? (pull out her chair, take her coat, etc but i mean more modern things those are old fashioned examples..) Nope, be funny and interested. Peace
Heya CC_machine, Good questions. This thread probably belongs in the relationships forum instead of here. You might try re-posting these questions there. It would have been good to say in the original question that you are 13. That would help folks giving answers. OK, I'm not going to try to address everything you ask, but I'll offer these few words of advice. FUN Any age, but especially at your age, you should concentrate on making a fun time for both of you. Really try to make sure that your date has a good time. I don't mean sexually, I mean that she should have a really good time, and feel good about herself and your time together. It doesn't have to be a big deal, but it does take a little thought on your part. It sounds lame, but try something you'll both enjoy, like maybe bowling or skating or mini-golf. Movies are ok, but not as good, because you don't get to know each other while you sit in silence and watch the show. Learn to Talk to her This will get you more bonus points than anything else. Learn how to talk to her. Ask her questions about herself and her interests. Just don't make her think she's being grilled by 20 questions. Tell her some about yourself to help her feel ok about talking about herself, but keep it light. Oh yeah, buy her tickets/food, hold doors, be on time, and be sure to call and thank her the next day. Tell her what good time you had, and you hope she did too. Good luck!
I was going to comment on Rigamarole's post, but being as I'm 41 and not had a girlfriend for 28 years I think I'll keep my mouth firmly SHUT
