Is Sex an Expression of Love?

I've heard differenting opinions on this question.

In health class, the teacher said
"Sex is not an expression of love" on the grounds that rapists don't love the person they are raping "rape is an assertion of power".

I've also heard that sex is love.

Personally, I don't think love and sex have anything to do with each other. Sex is to procreate. Love is to appereciate the soul (in a very conceptual sense, as I'm not religious) of another being through understanding of that persons philosophical outlook (perspective) on life and their uniqueness.

I very rarely say the words "I love you" because if I say it, I mean it. Its just a bad idea in general to think that sex is an expression of love, because the two don't necessarily go togther. You can love people you don't have sex with, and you can have sex with people you don't love.

Some people aren't capable of loving, because they don't understand what the word means.

So, I'll make this a poll.

 

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You forgot the option of "No but I wish it were"
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yip totally agree!

 

what pansy said

It can be. It's not always, but I think it should be used as such more often.

 

Depends on the situation.

 

Nope! Not even close!

 

I love my mom very much but I never had sex with her.

 

Love is an expression of love when used in the right way.

 

good point ^^^

sex is for fun and pleasure- like drugs (it's the same thing.....I think)

 

all depends
your poll is missing the answer

 

I second.

 

there are many ways off expressing love in a relationship, and sex is just one off them

 

There's sex based on love, and sex based on lust. It depends on what you're trying to get out of it, and who you're doing it for. If it's for yourself to feel good, then I wouldn't call it love at all. But if you're doing it for your partner, not only for the physical feeling, but emotional too, then it could be considered love. And if it's love, I'm sure you'd know it.

 

It can be... lust sees the person mearly as an object for sensual sexual pleasure of your ego with an absence of any love or desire to express it...


Meanwhile, you can love a person, and want to express this love through the natural flow of your sexualality...

 

It can be, it should be, but the sad fact is that it isn't always

 

I've had sex with girls I've not known well, and it has led to a kind of 'love', which is nothing more than infatuation. But it's nice.

But real true lifetime love is much more complex. If you love someone with your heart and mind, you also want to have sex with them. Love and sex are hard to separate. Sex is a great expression of love and it is a great way to keep love alive and bright for the decades into the future.

But it is foolish to say that great sex cannot be had with near-strangers without any form of love involved. I've had both, I have both, and both have their strengths. But for pure sexual pleasure, nothing does beat a casual encounter with a hot woman who wants nothing more than to be pleasured and to share pleasure with me.

 

Sex without love seems pointless. Without love, there is no empathic connection. Without that connection, i can not share my partner's ecstasy. Without that level of sharing, it would be kinder to all involved if i just masterbated. There is so much more to sex than physical gratification. If that is all someone understands or has experienced of sex,...how truly sad. Without love, sex is empty of all that makes it beautiful and worthwhile.

 

Seems to me that as were living in bodies, physical closeness is the easiest and most effective way to demonstrate love. Its like sound coming out of silence, or colour coming out of light...the love was always there, but because were here living in 3d we want to SEE it and FEEL it...it needs to be proven to us every now and then.

Sex should be like a dance. It is a higher part of us coming to life in a physical act. For me, its like "i really really love this person-i need them to know. I need to experience with this person"...

Also, sex is such a complex area i feel i owe it to myself to do it justice...to experience it in its highest form, along with love. Not just rip myself off with some cheap 2 minute version with complete strangers. Sex without love would leave me cold and empty, when i know it can be so joyful and beautiful.

I have a feeling i didnt explain this too well. But I tried:-S

Xx

 

^^ I totally agree