You are single and looking for a mate. You can't find anybody just right until one day... You meet your soul mate and everything about them is perfect. You know you want to be with them the rest of your life, but haven't told them that yet. Later on you find out they have an otistic son. (for those who don't know, they are increadibly hard to take care of and must be taken care of for as long as they live). Would you still want to be with this person after realizing this detail? My uncle will soon be in this position.
Fuck yeah. I agree it is a huge life decision, and I wouldn't fault the guy for stepping away, but if you truely feel she's your soulmate, you have to go for it.
^^^ditto. If it was someone he is truly meant to be with, then there really isn't a question. If, on the otherhand, he just really likes her, then he might want to step back. Honestly, there have been a handful of girls that I loved but I wouldn't necesarily step to raising a child with them. I'm still looking for the soulmate On a side note, how autistic is the child? I ask because there are varying degrees of autism. My brother has slight autism. You can tell, but it isn't something terribly debilitating. I've met other autistic kids with major life problems. I guess for your uncle, this is going to have to bea personal choice. Good Luck PS don't just look at the negatives of autism. Autistic kids tend to be very intelligent and have a totally different world view. Bill Gates, Dan Akroid, and Steven Spielberg are autistic.
I agree with everyone eles...but not only that maybe this child was brought into his life for a reason. Things happen for a reason. Maybe they will bring each other some huge life lessons.
it would not affect my decision at all. i have a severely autistic brother who is also partially blind and doesnt eat(he's on a feeding tube) i do have to say though, that an autistic child can be extemely difficult to care for. my bro is only 6 right now, and i fear for my moms safety when he gets a bit older. he's incredibly strong for his age and if he throws a tantrum, he can be very difficult to control. im a big dude, and occasionaly if i go over and babysit, he might have a fit, and it takes a lot to control him. if you want to know anything else, feel free to ask.
I'm married to someone who, until recently, worked with autistic kids every day. THe stories she tells are horrific and yet humorous at the same time. The answer is obvious. Love overcomes all. If you have to ask the question, you need to reevaluate the situation.
