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Nah. Playing with friends that way is too much like incest.


anyway I've seen how she acts in relationships (kind of like me), and I know better *knocks wood*.

Right now I see every little confession she ever made and every round of bragging about how she got over on some poor sucker as one great big warning label.

 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, hold on, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA..

good grief Junior...you seem to really like to say stuff to me dont you.. But I can state what ever I want, its pertaining to the thread..haha geez, dont have a tantrum...
Note to self: never reply in any carlfloydfan threads again..

 

Okay....I have a question, but its a little long...I'll try to make it shorter.

Basically, my gf and I have been AMAZING for 2 and a half months now, but all of a sudden this past week, she has gotten mad at me for being "immature" about her being busy (all I did, honestly, was sound a little dissapointed when she said she couldn't be with me this past weekened). Then, a couple of night ago, I borrowed her laptop for a paper. The next morning, when I opened the paper again, I noticed a couple of things in her documents. One was Economics notes, and another was a Wal-Mart shopping list. So, I opened them, purely out of human curiosity. I've taken Economics before, and I was just curious to see if what she was doing was the same as what I did. Then, I just opened the shopping list because I've never known people to type lists, so I was, once again, curious. I looked at both for a combined total of like 30 seconds, and she found out yesterday about this, and she FREAKED on me. She had a "talk" with me, in where she was crying, and saying she can't trust me, and how I'm immature. Then she stormed off saying she needed to "think about this today". That afternoon, I bought her a stuffed dog holding a basket of chocolates, and left it at her dorm room door with a note apologizing for what I had done and how bad I felt about it. That night, she called me, and we had another "talk", where she said she is still PISSED at me, and she gave me back the gift, told me she can't accept it, and said "I think we need a break until you can prove to me I can trust you, and that you're mature".

Did I really do something THAT awful?! I mean, I was just curious, thats all! I've tried explaining, but nothing works, now she says I lie! Please tell me what to do, I love her so much, and we have only a week until we go home for break!! I'm just a wreck right now...

 

hmm.. well yeah gurls are something like this..
i mean everyone needs their privacy, right?
i guess she is kinda paranoid.. like she is feeling that you were looking something else, or you were making this "research" in her documents, couse you dont trust her. I guess this might be the thingy that made her so upset.. dont know how to help you in this case, couse i dont like as someone is searching in my computer as well, specially in my laptop, where all my life would be in...
i guess you would be feeling the same, depends on how much you have to hide..

 

1) she was looking for any excuse to take a break from you, or to break up with you

2) DON'T look at other people's documents without their permission, it's just not cool. She trusted you enough to lend you an expensive piece of technology, don't go poking around where you shouldn't. In this case, anythign would've been bad enough for a break from you, but for future reference don't open stuff up without permission mmk

 

YOU DID WHAT?!

I got to that and stopped reading. She dumped your ass didn't she? She told you that you can't be trusted, right? It was for good reason.

 

I hate to tell ya you probably lost her trust when going through her documents. I know it may not seem like a big deal, but no matter how stupid or unimportant the document was, it was still her personal things, ya know.
My ex would look through my stuff all the time, even though I had nothing to hide, it would piss me off soooooooooooooo much. Its more then trust, but its like hes keeping tabs on me and checking up on me and what Im doing, has to just be nosy and look through all my things all the time. It may seem harmless and you didnt mean any harm, but its a big no-no... Especially when your relationship is brand new and so forth...
I would give her her space and let her cool down and just not do that again...I mean, id be mad but she seems to be extremely mad so I would just leave her totally alone until she comes to you, ya know....

 

Thanks for the advice, that helped alot. Yea, thats what I plan on doing, I have not communicated with her at all since she told me she wants a break. I'm just very inexperienced with so much in life, and the way I am, I am a very trusting person and such, so if someone looked at MY documents in Word, I wouldn't have cared at all. Its just how I am. So, I guess I figured thats how everyone is. I'm not trying to keep tabs or anything at all, I just assumed something wasn't a big deal at all, when apperantly it is. I did not know, but now I do, so its something I'll never do again. You make a mistake, you fix it, and never make that mistake again. My whole point I guess is....I have NEVER done anything in the time we've been togetehr to EVER lose her trust, but I make this one mistake and suddenly, everything is gone? That just seems a bit harsh to me, but I can accept it. I just want to know what I can do to regain her trust, if she doesn't want me around...

 

I would try to explain it her just this way. That it would be no big deal to you and didn't know that it would be for her. And that now you know, you will be very careful not to infringe on her privacy in the future. To make mistakes is human, she should be mature enough herself to forgive and move on, I would hope. Good Luck!

 

Great idea.

Better yet: Show her this thread. Seriously, if she reads about how honest and concerned you are, and if she reads about how you'd have cared less and you just made a "wrong" assumption and you didn't mean to invade her privacy, she'll probably come around.

 

I KNEW it.

 

OK, so u shouldn't have done what u did. Nobody likes when someone's going through their stuff. But i think she overreacted.. i mean, u did apologize and leave her that gift.. i think she should have forgiven u..
and i agree..might as well be that she was just trying to find any excuse to tell u she needs a break from u..

 

Okay, I went bowling last night with a few friends, and we didn't get back until late. I found that I had a voicemail on my cell, and it was her! She said that she was "thinking about me, and that she wanted to see how I was doing, and to give her a call if I wanted to" Her voice didn't sound angry at all, it almost sounded like she missed me or something.....also she cracked a joke at the begining, something she hasn't done since this whole thing started. It was too late at night, so I couldn't call her back yet, but what do you all think? Oh, and there was also a missed call from her around the same time on my room's phone, too. She's trying to contatc me, do you think she wants to get back together???

 

yes she definitely wants you back

 

Yes, she did!!! She actually apologized to me, saying that she overreacted, and was under alot of stress. There were also ALOT of misunderstandings in the whole ordeal, but everything has been worked out, all is back to normal, and all is right with the world! I'm glad this didn't last long, I really missed her these past 3 days!