i've got a problem with my boyfriend and i don't really know what to do. i've talked to alot of people and tried alot so i'm on my last chance here. i'm not very "open" with my feelings, or i haven't been in the past, and he said it pushed him away. but we got back together and we are "trying again" but he doesn't trust me to be open with him and no matter how much i show him, it's still different because he's afraid it'll end badly so he won't let us get back what we had. how can i show him that i've changed? ..
But have you really changed??? it seems not. First you have to understand why you're afraid to be open about your feelings. Are you afraid of feeling too vulnerable? Do you feel ashamed of what he thinks about you? Get into the whole scenario of talking about your feelings and try to discover what it is that doesnt allow you to express your emotions. Remember that it's not necessary to say things and "I love you" all the time to make a relationship work, actions speak louder than words, so probably showing him more affection will work, so try to start there. I wish you all the best.
I have the same problem to an extent. It's like a protection. You don't let people know how you feel, then you don't get hurt. A fear of rejection, or a fear of people getting mad at you. It's a hard thing to overcome. It took me many years. Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him why you have such a hard time expressing your feelings. If that is too hard, write him a letter. Let him know how you feel about him. Ask for his help to overcome your fear of letting him in. It is so easy to do on paper. If he loves you, then he will understand and do whatever he can to help. He just needs to know that the problem isn't him.
